Ever wonder if there is a spring in your behind? If you find yourself bouncing up from your literal or figurative chair every time there is an opportunity to say yes, sign up for something or be “the one” that does something, you just might.
The spring is not your friend if you find yourself chronically overbooked, overworked, too tired, not getting things done or otherwise not too pleased with all of your “yesses”.
Smart people learn to manage their spring and stop letting their spring manage them.
Smart people have control in their lives, are not chronically over whelmed and triple booked. Smart people can make time for the things they really want to do in life.
Ready to be a smart person and say no when you need to? Good. Here are 5 ways:
- Pause and let another spring in the rear say yes. This may seem manipulative, but try it. Chances are there is another competitive spring butt type in the room just hoping they will beat you to the punch. Let them.
- Check your schedule – Where would you fit what you are about to spring up and grab? Like an overfull shoe rack, you may have to give up one to fit another (gasp!). What will you have to give up and is it worth it?
- Know what you are saying yes to – you may not be the best person for the job. Just because it needs to be done, does not mean you are the best person to do it. The right person may be sitting in the crowd with the expertise or experience to get it done in half the time and, as hard as this may be to admit, better than you can.
- Is it exciting? Are you tingling in joy to tackle it? If you are dreading it, feeling disgruntled or even mad a having to say yes, you may need to learn to say no.
- Understand what is important to you and only say yes if it aligns to what is important. This is one I see clients struggle with a lot. It is easy to say yes to everything if everything is important. But not everything is equally important is it? Maybe you just haven’t taken the time to really think through that.
Understanding what is truly important, aligning life to those important values and activities and then living by that alignment is key to saying NO with empowered energy. Saying no allows space for that just right person to learn their lesson or provide the needed service.
My Align Your Life Boot Camp is targeted at this very issue and helping you get to the foundation of what matters and live your life in a way that gets you to your authentic yes and authentic no on just about anything. To learn more, head to my website and look at upcoming events.
I encourage you to get smart, find your No and empower your life in a way that makes you and those around you stronger for it.
Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, artist and writer cultivating courage and alignment through partnering with others. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru