Who are You to Want More? (who are you to NOT want more?!)

“Oh, I wish I could…”

Stop that, you don’t get to think that way, you don’t get to “wish”.  You have responsibilities, commitments, a good job, a great house, all the trappings of success from the outside looking in.  You don’t need more, why are you wishing for it?

You have more than the average person, you don’t need to look further, be happy with your choices, stay the course, stay safe and secure and for pete’s sake don’t risk anything. 

The quandary of the person who has achieved success, who has found the lifestyle they envisioned as a young adult.  This is the quandary of the person who realizes this might not be enough and feels guilty for dreaming.

Some programming along the way has led us to feel guilty for wanting to answer the call for the spiritual “more” in life.  We have the material foundation we want, we checked all the blocks spelling success, but our soul, our insides whisper our need for more.  And maybe we feel gluttonous.  Who are we to want more?

Who are you to not?  Who are you to not go for more, to not pursue the whispers of your soul?  Why would you sacrifice a calling from within for a chemically treated lawn?

Life doesn’t have to suck to want to go for more.  Conversely, you don’t have to chuck away all of your hard earned work and security to follow the calling from within.

To make it work though, you have to listen.  You have to pay attention to what is important and focus,  letting go of everything else.  It starts with alignment.  It is with this idea in mind, I created my Align Your Life Boot Camp kicking off September 7th.  Super early bird pricing is in effect until August 2 and then it goes up to early bird of $97 through August 26th and full price of $197 until kickoff day.

It can be hard to transition your life away from what is currently demanding your resources to a less defined more spiritual pursuit of creating and following the path of who you truly want to be: the artist, the spiritual explorer, the business owner, the service provider, the less rigid and material lifestyle liver.

Whatever you want, if it is different at all from your current daily existence, it takes focus, planning and consistent action over time.

My 2 week boot camp is reinforced by 1 year of continued support in monthly calls, emails and a private facebook group.  So you don’t have to do 2 weeks and be done, you can continue to draw support and get your foundation solidly constructed for this new lifestyle you want.

I could not have gone from a six figure corporate income, married with multiple properties and cars to self-employed, single and living simply, without support.   My coach, my group programs and my consistent actions from them kept me focusing and moving forward.

I wanted it, I took action and I have been living it.

You can too.

Check out Align Your Life Boot Camp if you want to learn more.

To move forward now, try one new thing.  A diet or physical activity shift for example.  If you want to eat healthier try a simple move like adding one vegetable or fruit to your diet daily.  To increase physical activity, simply take a walk every day.  Small actions can lead to big ones when you act consistently.

What action will you take?

Jennifer Murphy of No Limits Life is a glass artist, life coach and founder of The Art of Living Dangerously Group and Private Coaching programs. She partners with aspiring creative and conscious entrepreneurs to conquer what holds them back from cultivating their ideas to create their purposefully aligned and prosperous lifestyle. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru

Conquering Chaos, Let’s Do This.

A sports team meeting put on the wrong night of the calendar, a payment programmed in on the wrong week, late everywhere you go, tired and short tempered, feeling perpetually behind, a list of “somedays” a mile long and the constant demand for more from those around you.

Does this sound familiar?

Do you ask yourself, “what the F&^&% am I thinking? Where is my head?”

Is your inner bully voice in his or her element enjoying this opportunity to throw salt on the beat down you are giving yourself?

If this isn’t you, stop reading now. If you have NEVER done this stop reading now.

Stop reading now and go apply for sainthood, or the better than everyone else award, cause you stinking rock.

But for the rest of us….yeah, let’s talk.

I was exactly as described above this week.  My son was horrified when we went to the girl’s soccer team meeting for his club last night instead of the boy’s team which had been the previous night.  I was late EVERYWHERE yesterday, a payment hit my personal account I had no idea was coming and threw my carefully planned finances all out of whack and you can imagine what that did for my emotional well- being…ugh.

It sucks to feel that way.  The fatigue that normal living induces gets amplified by roughly a gazillion at that point (I am assured by my kid that a “gazillion” is not a number but I am using it anyway, ya know…for dramatic effect).

Last night was the new moon and an excellent time just start fresh.  So I thought about what I know about moving out of this energy, because it isn’t normal for me.  I don’t live in this energy on a regular basis, and you don’t have to either.  Let’s get past it together shall we?

  1. Stop looking outside yourself.

I texted my best friend and partner in most things and asked him to give me boost. “Tell me I will figure all this out” I asked.  Well, he didn’t and I was momentarily pretty torqued.  I wanted him to solve this for me, and at the very least tell me I was going to be okay. My inner 4 year old was ready to go self- righteous temper tantrum all over the place.

Having a cheerleader and support system is awesome and I advocate it.  But they can’t give you false energy.  He had no idea if I would figure it out.  It wasn’t kosher to ask him to do that.  I have to figure it out.  That energy comes from inside me, and it is within you.

Go within and commit to releasing the chaos energy.  Release it from within and then others can support you with their love and affection.  Others can only support what you are willing to do for  yourself – they can’t do it for you.

I love to use Release Essential Oil by Young Living at these times to support me releasing the self-induced trauma and blocks. Focus on what you want to feel, how you want to be living and operating in your life and take the immediate action to get there. A conversation with your coach can help further guide you.

  1. Take a break.

In the midst of chaos the temptation is great to “do more”. More of whatever it is creating the chaos gets you….yeah, more chaos. Good luck with that approach. I’ll see you in the looney bin.

Instead STOP. Just STOP.  Stop pushing, stop pulling, stop powering through and evaluate where you are. Take a nap, play, binge watch your favorite bad TV, immerse yourself in a book, go for a walk. But STOP your current energy stream.

I spent last night reading book 11 in the Black Dagger Brotherhood series. If you love to escape with paranormal action romance and haven’t read this series, check it out and start from the beginning. Super fun.

Before you get too distracted with muscled fanged hotties and cool fight scenes, focus on my point: You must interrupt the current icky flow to start a fresh one.

Once you have interrupted the flow, you can refocus with fresh perspective. What needs to change? What can you no longer tolerate, what can you shift your approach to? What action do you need to take?

  1. Commit.

This can be the hardest.  Now you have to commit to doing it different.

After my vampire indulgence and a good night’s sleep, I got clear on how to do today.   I committed to today being different.  And so far, I am on track and it feels good.  I have been on time, been productive, said ‘no’ where I need to and been present in the moment.  This feels more like me.

Notice I didn’t commit to the unending future. I committed to today. Today, this moment, is where you are – be there and commit to there.

Tomorrow, commit again and renew your commitment every single day. Commitment to living the life you want is not a one and done thing. It is an everyday agreement.

Every day, sit with yourself and agree to live with intention, as your authentic self guides you to live and commit to progress.

These are my simple steps to conquering chaos in the short or long term.  You can use these in the moment and every single day to live in the present.

As I shared, sometimes you fall off the wagon.  Sometimes you find yourself caught in the chaos spiral and living in a pretty crazy energy. Well…get your crazy on and then be done with it; fire up the conquering energy and burn down crazy town.

Live Dangerously, Be You

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  (and get free stuff) Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

What does Living Dangerously have to do with Life Coaching?

A life coach is about organizing your life, getting on track, finding your purpose, having someone hold you accountable when you can’t seem to do it by yourself. Right?

Living dangerously is about being a dare devil, jumping out of airplanes, cliff diving and extreme sports. Right?

Not from where I stand.

While those things are true, there is also more to the story.

I was walking up to my favorite deli a few weeks ago and was hailed with “Hey Jenn, How’s living dangerously these days?!”  A colleague from one of my networking groups happened to be standing by and he said, “That’s interesting, what does life coaching have to do with living dangerously?”

My passion flared, I felt myself grow larger (and slightly snarky if I am honest – how dare someone not get it?!), with my response that the two have everything to do with each other.  Everything.

A brief discussion ensued about my deli pal’s new business venture and how he was going for it – following his dream. And his dream isn’t the safe path, it’s a little dangerous.  The challenge to my philosophy from my colleague was answered without my intervention. My snarky beast went back to her cave.

Our true callings, our soul’s purpose, our life path is often not the safe, protected, always secure course in life. But, it feels more right than anything else we could possibly do once we muster the courage to embrace it.

There was a time I was a dreamer, I had big plans, I spoke of them, I planned and re-planned them.  I wanted them with an ache in my heart. And I settled.  I wanted to travel the world, be a veterinarian, a lawyer, a writer, a gypsy.  I wanted to live in a big city and a cabin in the woods – I wanted to explore this world we live in. And I settled.

I went to a local college instead of going away as I wanted. But then the universe answered me and I went into the military.  Certainly not a safe path as 9/11 struck and I was carried off to combat zones along with so many others.

I got to live a portion of my dream from there forward, but it wasn’t the full embodiment.  I did travel, I went places, I explored, I had mini adventures.  But deep inside I knew it wasn’t me.

Does this sound familiar?  Are you holding back somewhere in your life? Is there a part of you that remains unfulfilled even though parts are sublimely wonderful?

This is where coaching overlaps with living dangerously. 

That sharp pain in your soul that says “this is not enough” is the part of you wants to be dangerous, that wants to stop settling and go for the big dream.  It is the part that wants to create the lifestyle that you dream of and stop saying someday.

Someday energy is soul crushing energy.

To embrace the dream, to answer your soul’s calling can feel like the most dangerous thing you have ever done.

In the moment of acceptance of this calling, you can feel all alone.  You can feel like no one will get it, like you are the first or the only to do this.

While your journey is unique – of course it is, it is yours – you are not alone. You do not have to make the leap of courage and faith alone, this is where coaching does help.

I chose this focus in coaching because without my coach, I don’t know that I’d have come to the crossroads and made the turn down the dangerous path as quickly as I did.  I could have kept ignoring the call longer and gotten more discontent, more unhealthy from stress and fatigue, ignore more of the opportunities before me and continued to shrink to fit perceived expectations from external sources.

You don’t have to do this.  I believe you don’t and I believe there is an art to making this all work in your life that you don’t have to fumble through alone.

Coaching and living dangerously go hand in hand.  The coach is the guide, drill sergeant and healer in your corner as you create the fresh canvas of your lifestyle which embraces your true calling and purpose.

Try this:

  1. Create a limitless living list: set a timer for 5 minutes and write down everything you want to do and be in this life time.
  2. Acknowledge where you are taking action on any of it now.
  3. Be honest about how you feel about the action you are taking – are you settling?
  4. Is where you are okay? If it is, take no action. You are fine, be content and be well.
  5. Do you want different? If yes, then I encourage you to schedule a confusion to clarity strategy session with me where we can look at what different is and ways to get different energy moving in your life.

To pursue who and what you want to be is perhaps the most dangerous move you can make – it is vulnerable, it is real and it requires courage to accept and embrace it.  Your authentic true calling is within you waiting to be discovered and you deserve to become that energy.

Live Dangerously, Be You.

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

3 Ways to Work the Hustle for Determined Entrepreneurs

There was this musician my former husband and I really liked. When we’d hear of her playing in town with her band, we’d make a point go and enjoy.  She was a little grungy, a lot talented and played rock like it came straight from her soul’s connection to spirit.

One day, my then husband came home from working in one of the neighboring cities and he shared he had seen our favorite musician working at a sandwich shop near his work site. We were surprised, we had seen her only in her element, working her guitar and pushing her passion through to the audience. Making sandwiches seemed…weird. And truthfully, it made us uncomfortable.  I wondered if she was embarrassed at having to work another job, and what was happening with her music if it wasn’t supporting her?

I could not have been more clueless.

My life at this point had me making a six figure income and combined incomes had us pushing multiple 6 figures.  We had little worry about in the material realm and tended to be extravagant.  The tips we’d give musicians, artists, servers and the like were simply part of our lifestyle, what as expected. Though we had both grown up without much, we had become accustomed to having.

She was simply working the hustle.

I didn’t know it at the time, but seeing our musician on both sides – the stage and the sandwich shop – it was water on the seed of my own calling.

Since then, life has gotten different. I have returned to my roots in many ways and created new ones in so many more. In the course of creating 5 businesses, and closing three of those, I have learned a few things about following your calling as a business and what it can take sometimes to keep the faith and do what it takes to work the hustle.

  1. A part time job can be your best friend.

I recently took two.  One is very synergistic with my coaching –the lead coach in The Wealth Creation Institute for Intuitive Business Coach Michael Mapes.  I lead the WCI social media group and do the private coaching appointments for the group.  The second is as a merchandiser where I stock a company’s product in a store account.  It is oddly fun and I get a unique experience of watching all sorts of people at all kinds of hours. Observing humans IS my favorite spectator sport.

The first time I ran into someone I knew when I was doing my merchandising job, I was embarrassed.  I was embarrassed and wondered if they’d react to me the same way I reacted to my musician those years ago.  And then I kicked my inner bully to the curb and embraced what I was really doing: Whatever it takes to keep pursuing my dream and gathering experience along the way.

Both of these jobs provide me incredible insight and perspective I can use in my writing, in my glass, in my own growth and in my practice. In a choice between abandoning my calling and doing what it takes to keep going, I choose keep going. I believe so heartily in my calling to partner with others, to inspire others to create the life they love, and creating functional glass art, that I will do what it takes to keep moving it forward – working the hustle. 

  1. Haters gonna Hate

Yep, you will have naysayers. There will be voices in your life that attempt to crush your energy.  Usually these voices fall into one of two categories: people who are too afraid to do it themselves or people who are faking following their dream and are afraid of exposure through the mirror of your authenticity.

These people can be both in your face and passive aggressive.  In both cases your reaction is the same: keep going.  Keep pursuing what you want, they only get the power you give them and you can choose to give them none.

There is a third hater voice you might hear, your own inner bully. Overcoming this hater can be the hardest because it goes right for your deepest insecurities.  This is exactly where external perspective of a coach or another trusted source can be vital to keep you on track.

  1. Focus equals flourish. Fear equals failure.

Where you focus flourishes, it will grow under your attention and nurturing.  This is important because if you are focusing on the administrative side of your business only, you will not grow sales or gain clients through marketing.  If you are an artist and all you do is create and never showcase your work or go public with it for sale,  you will never sell it. There are multiple pieces of the puzzle of being in business for yourself and each must be focused on in turn.

Fear is a terrible decision maker.  Inaction in the face of fear is tantamount to failure.  When you let fear take the driver’s seat, your focus on everything else becomes moot. Fear may be always present, what matters is the role it plays in your life.  Is it the muscle bound monkey on your back, or is it the fly buzzing around, the one you can smack with a proper swatter?

You choose what you focus on.  As I work multiple jobs these days, this has become crucial. To line up what I need to focus on and when I smack fear down and simply focus.  I am present whichever job I am working: merchandising, coaching in my practice, coaching for someone else, working in my studio on my torch, or parenting my son.  I have to be ruthlessly present, ruthlessly focused and passionately dedicated to doing the best I can in each place.

What does all this mean to you? Well, where are you? Where do you find the parallel in what I described above?

Meditate or journal with these questions if you are a dedicated entrepreneur who sees him or herself in the words above: 

  1. Would a part time job enable me to continue to pursue my calling?
  2. Who are the naysayers in my life and how can I make them less effective?
  3. What am I focusing on? Is it getting me where I want to be? What action can I take now to shift the energy and the results?

Hustle is hustle, it is energy and focus and motion and taking action.  Your actions define you more than  your words, much more. Your calling demands action from you, working the hustle however it manifests.  There are many more aspects to working the hustle – what are yours?

If you need help getting your hustle on track grab a free 30 minute confusion to clarity strategy session on my website at www.nolimitslife.guru

Comment below or email me at Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru