A life coach is about organizing your life, getting on track, finding your purpose, having someone hold you accountable when you can’t seem to do it by yourself. Right?
Living dangerously is about being a dare devil, jumping out of airplanes, cliff diving and extreme sports. Right?
Not from where I stand.
While those things are true, there is also more to the story.
I was walking up to my favorite deli a few weeks ago and was hailed with “Hey Jenn, How’s living dangerously these days?!” A colleague from one of my networking groups happened to be standing by and he said, “That’s interesting, what does life coaching have to do with living dangerously?”
My passion flared, I felt myself grow larger (and slightly snarky if I am honest – how dare someone not get it?!), with my response that the two have everything to do with each other. Everything.
A brief discussion ensued about my deli pal’s new business venture and how he was going for it – following his dream. And his dream isn’t the safe path, it’s a little dangerous. The challenge to my philosophy from my colleague was answered without my intervention. My snarky beast went back to her cave.
Our true callings, our soul’s purpose, our life path is often not the safe, protected, always secure course in life. But, it feels more right than anything else we could possibly do once we muster the courage to embrace it.
There was a time I was a dreamer, I had big plans, I spoke of them, I planned and re-planned them. I wanted them with an ache in my heart. And I settled. I wanted to travel the world, be a veterinarian, a lawyer, a writer, a gypsy. I wanted to live in a big city and a cabin in the woods – I wanted to explore this world we live in. And I settled.
I went to a local college instead of going away as I wanted. But then the universe answered me and I went into the military. Certainly not a safe path as 9/11 struck and I was carried off to combat zones along with so many others.
I got to live a portion of my dream from there forward, but it wasn’t the full embodiment. I did travel, I went places, I explored, I had mini adventures. But deep inside I knew it wasn’t me.
Does this sound familiar? Are you holding back somewhere in your life? Is there a part of you that remains unfulfilled even though parts are sublimely wonderful?
This is where coaching overlaps with living dangerously.
That sharp pain in your soul that says “this is not enough” is the part of you wants to be dangerous, that wants to stop settling and go for the big dream. It is the part that wants to create the lifestyle that you dream of and stop saying someday.
Someday energy is soul crushing energy.
To embrace the dream, to answer your soul’s calling can feel like the most dangerous thing you have ever done.
In the moment of acceptance of this calling, you can feel all alone. You can feel like no one will get it, like you are the first or the only to do this.
While your journey is unique – of course it is, it is yours – you are not alone. You do not have to make the leap of courage and faith alone, this is where coaching does help.
I chose this focus in coaching because without my coach, I don’t know that I’d have come to the crossroads and made the turn down the dangerous path as quickly as I did. I could have kept ignoring the call longer and gotten more discontent, more unhealthy from stress and fatigue, ignore more of the opportunities before me and continued to shrink to fit perceived expectations from external sources.
You don’t have to do this. I believe you don’t and I believe there is an art to making this all work in your life that you don’t have to fumble through alone.
Coaching and living dangerously go hand in hand. The coach is the guide, drill sergeant and healer in your corner as you create the fresh canvas of your lifestyle which embraces your true calling and purpose.
- Create a limitless living list: set a timer for 5 minutes and write down everything you want to do and be in this life time.
- Acknowledge where you are taking action on any of it now.
- Be honest about how you feel about the action you are taking – are you settling?
- Is where you are okay? If it is, take no action. You are fine, be content and be well.
- Do you want different? If yes, then I encourage you to schedule a confusion to clarity strategy session with me where we can look at what different is and ways to get different energy moving in your life.
To pursue who and what you want to be is perhaps the most dangerous move you can make – it is vulnerable, it is real and it requires courage to accept and embrace it. Your authentic true calling is within you waiting to be discovered and you deserve to become that energy.
Live Dangerously, Be You.
Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program, Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru