What if you are super busy, love everything you are doing and want to give none of it up?
You adore everything happening, it all feeds some part of you and you feel like a cat in a room full of mice wanting to chase every single thing and eat it up! Then, you find yourself panting in the corner smiling, but exhausted from the chase. Sometimes, overwhelm comes, not from having too many bad things but, from having so much good it gets super hard to identify the source of discontent.
“It all feels good, what do I have to complain about?”
Perhaps you start to fall behind in one area, or (maybe AND) another …you know you are and get even more frustrated because “why aren’t I on top of all these things I love to do?” You wonder why it isn’t easy and natural to feel blessed, blissed out and in balance with all the bounty spirit intended, then provided for you.
‘Cause it’s BS. This idea that because it’s all “good” that you won’t feel stressed and crazy.
It is one hundred percent possible to overwhelm yourself with the things you love. Parents will get this. We will do anything for our children. Anything. To include sitting through 2 hour soccer practices twice a week and driving all over a super boring state filled with cornfields to find soccer complexes in the middle of said cornfields for 8 weekends straight while working 6 different jobs to make sure you can pay for soccer club membership… it’s awesome. We will do that and smile and say how blessed we are with athletic children and love to watch them, truly. We will truly love it.
But oh my… getting a little time or budget for ourselves is the absolute best.
In you missed it: the point is that even the stuff you love can feel like too much sometimes. I hear clients describe it like this:
“I am so busy! None of it is bad stuff, I am just so busy and I feel so blessed, but I am tired! And I feel guilty for wanting any of it to stop.”
“Nothing going on is bad, it is just a lot.”
Either of those ring a bell? One or both might if you have taken any kind of action to say yes to some great things in your life.
Here is the great secret…ready for it?
Life doesn’t have to suck to want to make a change.
Life might be phenomenal by all accounts and your intuition is banging on your brain hollering that yes, in fact, some of this good has to give. I am not a big fan of setting limits (my business is called No Limits Life), but sometimes you start doing things because they seem like a good idea and they are pretty cool. And they work for a while, until they don’t.
We live different chapters in life and things fit in one chapter, but not necessarily the next. Sometimes we rebel against this idea and refuse to even consider the thought. “Perish!” we beg the thought, “Perish and be gone! I am Superwoman (or man) and I can TOTALLY do it all because I love it!”
But all of these chapters have a beginning and an end for a reason and it is okay to let go when the story moves on. In order to move past this “things are great but I am overwhelmed” energy to engage in the bigger energy of spirits intent for you, confront the fallacy of “I can’t be overwhelmed if it’s all good stuff.”
First, make a thorough list all the activities you are committed to. Then, ask yourself these three questions:
- If I were told I’d have 6 months to live, what am I doing now that I’d want to keep doing and where would I let go? (I know this may seem a little morbid, but try it)
- If I lost my job tomorrow, what would I absolutely have to maintain to keep my sanity intact?
- On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being “eh, I’d be cool without it” and 10 being “I absolutely never want to give it up” how would you rate the activities you are committed to right now?
In the course of answering these questions, you may reveal that yeah…you do indeed have some good things going on. But you don’t HAVE to have them going on. It’s okay to let one or two or 6 go.
Go ahead, cut the cord and let it go, it will fly into the open heart and arms of the right person to be having that experience. You trust infinite spirit over your finite self, right? Then trust that infinite energy to see it to its rightful home. The things that remain in your space are yours to have and to file into the right chapter in your book of calling.
I am a certified expert in having way too many awesome things going on simultaneously. I have been a banner carrier for the ideas of “I am busy, but it’s a good busy” and “I can’t possibly say no to anything because it’s all so great”. If I can quit overindulging in the name of “good stuff” so can you, and maybe just maybe you’ll find the great stuff.
If you want some help with this, let me know. I’d love to guide you to clarity about your “more” in life and what it means to live life on your terms. Click here to schedule a complimentary 30 minute session with me and discover the power of coaching.
Jennifer Murphy is passionate about living life to its fullest and partnering others to help them see that they can too. You can learn more about her work as a coach, artist and more at www.nolimitslife.guru