In 2013 the sale was final on my suburban home. A dream realized as I moved from my complicated, maintenance needy home of 2700 square feet to my 535 square foot apartment. Just me and my son at this point, I sought less. I wanted a simpler less “stuff” inspired life and I began to create it. Last year I moved again; this time to a similar sized space cutting down my commute time – finding increased simplicity and reducing my overall footprint on the physical landscape of our world. Walking to my studio a block away became a routine and I have loved it.
When I began to construct my idea of the perfect life, simplicity was my soul’s demand. Simplicity meant a greater degree of freedom and independence in my life, allowing me to create the lifestyle I wanted – not just the home, car or job, the WHOLE picture.
In each successive move, I freed myself of things: clothing, decorations, kitchenware, memorabilia, and more. Each piece I discarded had become miscellaneous – without purpose- and with each discarded item, I felt lighter. Several truckloads left the big house, several more when I got into the new space and couldn’t create a walkway through the boxes, even more when I moved to the latest apartment and gradually some moved out with the seasons over the past year as well.
Now I prepare for another move – this time to a larger place. As my 9 year old heals from his separation anxiety and gets bigger and more mature, he needs his own space. A shared bedroom is no longer a place of security and simplicity, but a place of too close quarters and lack of freedom. So it is time to consciously expand.
Tomorrow we make the move, my 30th, just one block down to a 2 bedroom apartment where my squeak gets his room and I get my private space back. One might think it would be time to expand “things” or hold onto things “just in case”. But I have taken no fewer than 8 boxes full of things to our local donation center in preparation for this move. Just because I have the space, doesn’t mean I have to fill it.
As I sat in contemplation this morning, the connection of my last few moves to living in my life and participating in my life became clear. In the past, I have clung to things as a measure of my worth or sense of success. This behavior served only to stress me and create a false sense of security as I continued to build my altar to materialism and external opinion – really seeking to fill a void of lack I held inside. It was like trying to paint an interior wall of a home from outside the window.
In moving toward a sense of internal success and creating a lifestyle built on experience and connection, I have felt more secure, more okay and more successful than ever before – making less money and having fewer things.
I participate actively in creating my life: deciding what to allow in or set a boundary against. I reject the idea that someone else’s idea of success has to be mine. My definition of success is what I strive for and connect with daily.
So with each move I make and each thing I release, I am allowing my life to be what I want it to be. I am being intentional about what is allowed into my life and I am intentional about what I release.
And it feels so right.
- Survey your home – what is working with your energy and what is draining it? Are there things you need to release?
- Do you have a concept of what you want your lifestyle to involve? Is it all encompassing or focused on a single factor?
- Are you conscious about what you are allowing into your life? Or is it happening and you are trying to simply keep up?
We have a choice in what we create in this lifetime. Feeling successful in one area doesn’t have to mean sacrifice in all other areas. And life doesn’t have to suck to want to make a change. It can be good and get even better. If you want a little guidance with this, let’s talk. Grab a free 30 minute discovery session via my website www.nolimitslife.guru
Release Limits, Embrace Life.
Integrative Life Coach Jennifer Murphy is focused on partnering with the professionally successful, yet personally unfulfilled, to create the connected, sustainable lifestyle they crave. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru