As I was thinking about what to write this month, I started to panic. You know that tightness in your chest. Your mind starts racing and you can’t slow it down to focus on a productive thought. What do I have to teach people? Why do I think I know what’s right for someone else? Why should anyone listen to what I have to say? Am I a fraud?
Then it hit me. “Kari, you are your own client,” I said to myself. (I’ll go into what I mean by this a little later, so stay tuned)
To answer my own questions for you…I have a lot to teach people. We all have unique experiences and perspectives to share that someone, even just one person, could find invaluable and life-changing, and so do I.
I don’t think I know what is right for anyone, besides myself. I think that comes from within us. We each already know what is right for us, it’s just a matter of acknowledging and accepting it. And sometimes that process can be scary. We might be afraid we’ll lose someone in our lives if we acknowledge we need something different to be happy, or we may change jobs and not know if we’ll be successful, or maybe our acknowledgement and acceptance will take us to a whole new part of the country or world to live out our “right-ness”. What I do know is that I LOVE helping people uncover what is right for them. To help gently guide it into the light and then begin to own it, be proud of it, appreciate it and celebrate it.
No one “should” listen to what I have to say. I, and many of my acquaintances, use the saying, “Don’t “should” (aka sh*t) all over yourself.” In other words don’t set yourself up to feel defeated by saying, I should do this or I should be feeling like that. You have to WANT to do this and WANT to feel like that, and then you make it happen in each of your choices. So no, you “should” not listen to what I have to say unless you WANT to make the choice to be a happier, healthier, more fulfilled YOU.
I am not a fraud. And the reason I can say this with certainty and with confidence is because I whole-heartedly believe everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this point; to help people. I genuinely care about people’s struggles, I get gleefully excited when someone succeeds and feel empathy in the depths of my soul when someone feels alone, helpless or hopeless. It’s not just my life experiences that fuel my passion. I was born this way.
Sometimes my connection with a person goes so deep that I feel as though I can feel their pain. I can’t ever know what someone else is fully experiencing, but to give you an example; I saw a video on Facebook the other day. A little girl had a cat who had passed away a few months ago. She missed him terribly. One day her mom had gone out and gotten her a kitten and surprised her with it when she got home from school. They filmed the little girl going into her room and finding the kitten in a large clear box in her room. Her emotions went from inexplicable excitement to inaudible sobbing asking her mommy if she got to keep the kitten and thanking her mom over and over for this kitten. And what do I do? I start sobbing, over this little girl and her kitten.
You see, a few months ago my husband and I lost our dog. She was only two and we were devastated, absolutely heartbroken. I could not live without a dog in our house and while it was hard to get a new puppy so quickly, we knew it was what was best for us. So when I saw this little girl with her knew kitten, it hit very close to home for me.
We all have these moments if we make the choice to look close enough at ourselves to see how connected we really are to people we may think we have nothing in common with, or think that we can’t relate to what they are going through, or don’t think we have anything to teach them. All of this is to say, the reason I do what I do to help people discover what they love to do is because I have discovered what I love to do…
So here we are, back to me being my own client. When I say I am my own client, I don’t want to misrepresent the fact that I have had many teachers, mentors and complete strangers along my path that have helped me discover my own purpose. But I am my own client in the sense that once all those people are gone for the day, the moment or forever, I am the only one who can put those lessons into practice, to make the choices that will make my goals and dreams a reality. No one can do it for me, and I am not here to do the work for you. I am here to guide, challenge and support you just as I have been by individuals and experiences in my life.
To finish out my introductory blog to you, I want to leave you with a story about how all things I questioned about myself have manifested answers for me in the past 8 weeks and confirmed that I am going in the right direction.
Two months ago I was “released” from my job. That is how it was presented to me, and in some ways it was very fitting because I felt like a prisoner. I deeply cared about the organization that I was working for, but I did not agree with how the C-suite treated, responded and interacted with their employees. Employees were talked about as burdens or ungrateful. Just before I was “released” some changes were being made to address these issues, so they had at least acknowledged that there were issues. Without all the fun details, ultimately I had expressed some thoughts about the changes that were going on and some situations that had come up to use as examples of why these changes to their employee policy were important. My viewpoints were not appreciated and here we are today…
I have now started two new jobs. A full-time and a part-time job in addition to my career coaching here! And I could not be happier. Both organizations that I have started with are a complete 180 from where I was, and not just my last employer, but any employer I’ve had…EVER! The organizations VALUE their employees and they make it evident in all their operations, in their benefits packages, in their compensation, all throughout the organization. And the best part…I get to help people!
In all my jobs, I get to help people. I am a Health Education Assistant at a community college, so I get to help students register for courses to become a Paramedic or EMT, or take other courses for CPR, First Aid and even babysitting.
I am also a job coach for individuals with barriers to independence. I get to support and encourage them as they work toward becoming independent in their employment and meeting their employer’s expectations.
And then there’s you. You’ve gotten this far so maybe there’s a reason. Maybe you’re thinking, “I do think I need a change. Something just doesn’t feel right or feels a little off in my life, and I need some fresh perspective to sift through all of it with me.” Well, that’s what I do best; evaluate, organize and support. I may have lost my job eight weeks ago, but I found myself and a much happier fulfilled version. And I will do everything I can to help you achieve that for yourself!
Please come back next month where I will dig deeper into how you can get started on your own transformational journey!
Until next month, wishing you many blessings.
Oh, and here is the link to that video with the little girl and her kitten. Yes, I watched it again, and cried…again WATCH THE VIDEO
Kari Rossetti is a Life Coach specializing in Career Exploration, Empowerment and Freedom. She has been developing her skills informally over the past 5 years and recently discovered her calling to practice these natural skills professionally while challenging herself to grow and be the best coach she can. She is obtaining her Professional Coaching Certificate in Personal and Executive Coaching in December 2017 from the Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute. In her spare time she loves being in nature and playing with her family. She can’t wait to support you on your journey to freedom. Schedule a discovery session with the No Limits Life Empowerment Coordinator to learn more about working with Kari.