How do you Define Living Dangerously?

 Take a moment and consider what feels most dangerous to you: is it physical, spiritual, intellectual or emotional in nature?

Conventional wisdom would suggest all kinds of radical options.  As I have asked this question in workshops and discussions I have heard a few!   Things like:

skydiving

motorcycle racing

speaking in public

falling in love

climbing a mountain

swimming with sharks

parenting (that got a good giggle)

 

There were a ton of other physical risks that have come up in response to this question.  And yes, these things are risky…but if you notice, most people head right for the physical risks with the exception of falling in love.

These are easy answers – pick something with the potential to inflict bodily harm and we can all agree that it is dangerous.   Right?

Yes.

There is another way to think about it though and that is what I want to focus on.

The Art of Living Dangerously creates the path to you skydiving, moto title winning or swimming with sharks. This path fires your emotional, intellectual and spiritual body – more than your physical.   What if we think about living dangerously in these terms:

  • Being afraid and doing it anyway
  • Knowing there is more and going for it
  • Trying new things – taking the leap
  • Seeing new perspectives
  • Experiencing instead of Existing
  • Living by your values
  • Never settling
  • Transcending expectations
  • Having faith in limitless possibilities

Imagine you lived in opposition to any of those thoughts…let’s take “Having faith in limitless possibilities” first.  What would it mean if you have faith in limitless possibilities?  Consider an area of your life you feel stuck or trapped in, it could be anything from a relationship, a job, a volunteer commitment or a belief.

For example when I was wanting to become a life coach, I was very locked into the idea that I couldn’t leave my 6 figure job and the obligations it had created or my life would fall apart.  There were a lot of trapped and stuck attachments there:

  1. I had accumulated debt directly correlated to the amount of money I had: cars, houses, lines of credit, etc.
  2. I did enjoy my job and did well at it. I loved the people I worked with and generally enjoyed seeing them.  Yet I didn’t feel inspired by my job, I didn’t see how my role was really serving others in the way I wanted to.
  3. I had an idea of what people expected me to be and I was fearful of disappointing them.
  4. My family had become accustomed to my salary, my schedule and my life the way it impacted them; and I couldn’t let them be affected by my desires – they needed to always take first priority.

When my life coach suggested that it was possible for me to create the life I wanted if I dedicated myself to figuring out what it was, I resisted at first.  I was so focused on the narrow range of options I had decided were available that it was a good year of coaching with her before I was able to really open up to all of the things that could be if I allowed them into my life.

I had to do a few things to move past my self-created opposition to possibilities:

  1. I had to decide what an ideal day for me would look like.
  2. Sorting out what was important and what wasn’t to me then taking action to get free of what wasn’t.
  3. Realign my time to support what I wanted instead of what I felt like I “should be” doing.
  4. Starting to create that Ideal by pulling elements from it into the life I was living then.

On a daily basis I would ask myself “is this getting me closer or farther away from the life I truly want?” as I encountered challenges and opportunities.

I learned that not everything is worth the fight.

Over the next few weeks I will be tackling each of those Living Dangerously ideas as I prepare for my 2016 Art of Living Dangerously Creation Experience here in Cedar Rapids Iowa on September 9th and 10th.  You can take a look at the agenda here and then grab early bird registration before August 15th.

I hope you’ll stay tuned to this blog and follow the steps to both the idea of living dangerously and the way I overcame my opposition to it!

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave.  To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru

The Art of Living Dangerously Creation Experience

Life on auto-pilot requires very little engagement from you – it’s same day different stuff…

The Art of Living Dangerously means you are the driver, the pilot the one making all the decisions…It’s new day, new experiences, every day.

The Art of Living Dangerously Creation Experience is a full day event in Cedar Rapids Iowa on September 10th with a bonus VIP evening the night prior September 9 (2016).

Here are just a few of things we will do:

Shine a light into the darkest recesses of your consciousness to invite  your true life’s purpose out to play
Mentor you as you create the path to make your purpose much more than a dream and turn it into your reality
Work through mindfulness, meditation and self-awareness exercises to bring you closer to the real you and minimize the impact of the expectations of others in your life
Create an action plan to move you to where you want to be in daily living

You will walk away from this event: 
feeling energized
engaged with your life
in love with your next steps
excited to move into the energy that is really you

Yes, it would be a full day and evening away from family, obligations and more…but you deserve it.  You deserve this time to focus on you, your dreams and take good stock of where you are going and how you will get there.

Here is what that evening and day will look like:

VIP Event September 9, 6-9pm      Main Event: September 10, 10a-4p

VIP Event, held in the No Limits Life Coaching and Glass Studio: Register

6-6:30 – Meet and Greet time, grab refreshments and use the handout provided to meet everyone in the room, find your nest for the evening

6:30-7:00 – Opening meditation and centering with Jennifer Murphy

7:00-8:00 – The No Limits Team Coaches

8:00-9:00 – Face and Erase limits to living the life you crave with Jennifer Murphy

Attendees Receive: A meditation focal object and recorded meditations

 

Main Event, held in the Conference Room, Adam Building: Register

Doors open at 9:30 with morning refreshments

10:00a Opening and Introductions

10:30a Defining Your Callings: 3 paths to identifying what you should be doing with your life

11:30a  Clarifying your Callings:  one on one coaching with peers and professional coaches to help you clarify your calling

12:30p Lunch

1:00p  4 M’s and an S: Mindfulness, Meditation, Manifestation and Self-Awareness

2:30p  The Art of Action: Create a mind mapping style vision board and schedule activities to shape the reality you want.  Coaches will be available for private discussion during this time.

3:30p Closing Exercises: Meditation, Take Away Experiences and Maintenance Recommendations

4:00p The After Workshop discussion

Attendees Receive: Notebook/Workbook

Register for early bird admission thru August 15th

Full admission goes into effect on August 16th

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave.  To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru

 

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The Orange Table Awakening

What is so damn important about an orange table?

My table is bright, gorgeous, outrageous orange…as of last weekend. I have no idea what color this table was when it was born, but it was a poo brown when I bought it at goodwill for five bucks to serve as a holder for my son’s new gold fish murder scene, I mean tank (No need to go into that debacle here).  
Recently I realized keeping that table poo brown was a symbol of continued connection to my old, boring, expected life – the one I did all I could to disembowel back in 2012. I despised seeing that connection in some ways: I was still toeing the “what will other people think” belief system and I truly wanted to gouge that part of me out immediately, never to see it again. But in my moment of sickness and disgust, I had to wonder if maybe some of you freedom seekers are also still toeing that same line in undiscovered ways like me. Maybe you have a “poo brown table” in your life you need to colorize to reveal the real you.

At this point we can safely divide into a few mindsets with respect to this idea:

1. Those of you that are done with this idea as of right now: grasping exactly what I mean because of where you are in your own evolution and you have “evolved enough” to “go it alone” (snicker). You need not one more drop of my nonsense and know it.

2. Others of you are just so over the self-help bullshit that you are sick of finding symbolism in everything and seeing it as a metaphor for the shit you need to shift, change, give up or heal. You are ready to gag on your own consumption of crap that isn’t actually getting to the core of the “more” you are seeking and are looking for something truly different.

3. And some of you want to identify, know you are not alone and discover another layer of your own growth and experience as a human right now. You suspect that perhaps this information will bring about our collective vibrational raising. So you, the truly curious freedom seeker are leaning in with a conspiratorial “tell us more”. And chances are – you know exactly what your personal poo brown table is right this moment.

I am talking to all of you – all you reflections of me, of each other and our varying attitudes based on everything we are. I think if you are REALLY wanting to forge your path, discover what is holding you back and kick the shit out of it, allowing yourself to move into that energy that is truly yours to keep growing in…well, we are one. So let’s keep going and see if we can find our connection in the rest of this story:

For this table, my son is my muse. As he chose colors for his bedroom at his dad’s newly constructed house, he picked some super bright amazingly gorgeous colors: Obstinate Orange, Blue Sky and Sassy Green. With these we created a couple of bold murals in his room to reflect his passion and joy for life.

Mo and Squeak Create Color


Since then, the leftover orange called my name. My most recent move had me craving color in my home – real, bold color for the first time since I left the beige drenched world of the suburbs. A bright green couch had answered the call, a peacock patterned love seat had flown in, my blue console requested a move home from its studio tour, and my bright orange elephant statue was honoring its place as the original color splash in my home.

The poo brown table begged to shine. As I looked at it in the blooming surroundings, I realized the basic browns that had defined my home for so long were being replaced. I was taken back to a shopping trip from times past where I waved my then husband over to look at something and before he even got to see it he said “lemme guess, it’s brown.” At the time, I staunchly defended my safety net of blending and conforming. But now, I am in a time and place where brown no longer feels safe.

4 coats later, that poo brown was gone. In its place stood a bright shining orange table accenting my peacock couch, and I felt like me was reflected in my home. Every time I walk into that new apartment home of mine, I see all the colors I love so much and I am at home: spiritually, physically and emotionally, for the first time in perhaps years. It is my energy and my home.

I had to release my attachment to that old brown table which was that part of me that still believed there was some safety in normal. In layering those coats of paint I was confronted by a few other formerly “safe” attachments I didn’t realize were still there such as:

1. The corporate path is THE path to financial security.

2. Your home should reflect what others think of you before what you truly want for yourself.

3. Relentlessly meet expectations – regardless of how they manifest: be the “spiritual” person, coach the way everyone else does, follow formulas of the “uber successful”, continue to rely on the past as guidance and boundaries

4. Same is safe. Change is not safe.

5. There is a mythical someone external to my truth watching my every move and judging me to be authentic or inauthentic. And somehow this matters.

Yeah, I totally get how ridiculous all of this seems, but as I layered those coats of orange an equal measure of stripping away was taking place in my awareness. I became aware that I was in violation of my own belief system – still. I still have growth to achieve in this forging my own path way of life I have begun and the next step to take was releasing those horrid ideas that still had a tether to my being. Buh-bye.

So my orange table is, for now, a symbol of commitment to my warrior’s path of fighting for me and my own beliefs and discovering what is real for me and what isn’t. My path isn’t yours, but my passion is centered on supporting you seekers as you create yours, so here are some questions to consider:

What is your poo brown to orange table? What is the symbol in your life of a belief that needs to be examined, overhauled and adjusted to a new truth, a new normal, a new safe or a new way of life for you? I’d love to hear about it. Email me at Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru to share and maybe I’ll feature your story in an upcoming post!

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave. To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Turn Your Life Into an Empowered Life

I signed in to my bank account to do the monthly financial check to see how everything was looking.  As I cautiously hit the “Sign In” button, I thought I was ready for the number.  I wasn’t.  It was lower.  Much lower.

Fear gripped me.  I decided to do my psychic/healing work full-time, knowing that there would be rough patches on the road, but I wasn’t prepared for just how deep those potholes would be.  Now I had the fear, terror and hopelessness that such a rough road could become.

My mind went immediately to worst-case scenarios, with their accompanying feelings of dread and disappointment.  Then the emotional landscape shifted to feelings of anger at myself and my situation; then to blame.  Then full-blown panic.

I had to stop this movement toward the Dark Side.

I stopped.  I closed my eyes and got in touch with that Inner Voice and Wisdom that I talk and write about so much.  The answers I received surprised me.

As much as I was doing, I realized that I was working within a very limited view of my abilities, aptitudes and influence.  The truth stared me in the face: I was working in the wrong head-space.  Rather than pushing the envelope in my areas of work, I was staking out fenceposts that said, “Do this much and no more.  This is your work, so just stick with it.  Change is deadly.”  By building those limits, and choosing to stay within them, I was not only limiting my influence and income, but also my gifts and even my dignity.

By choosing limitations, I was settling for a limited life and a lesser me. 

Something had to change, and fast.  I chose to jump the fence of what I was doing, and expand my horizons.  I connected with people I had ignored far too long, either out of fear or the excuse that it wasn’t my area in which to work.  I literally “put myself out there”, risking my reputation on both personal and public levels.  I did things I had never done before.  It was hard work, took longer than you might expect, and had no guarantee of good results.  I was scared to death.

And I succeeded.

My gifts started to grow beyond what seemed to be at a maximum at the time.  My personal sense of dignity and self-worth was beyond positive.  My reach to others expanded beyond any expectations I had until then.  Oh, and the bank account looked much better, too.

I feel that if you’re reading this article, you have either been at this kind of crisis point recently, or you’re in it right now.  It’s not fun or easy, but there is a truth here: If you’re experiencing this, it is a chance for you to recognize your limitations, release them and embrace your highest self.

Below are the six steps I took to recognize and release my limitations, so that I could become who I am truly meant to be.  Work through these slowly and deliberately to navigate your way through your situation to a more empowered, limit-free life!

  1. Observe. What’s going on right now? What are the limitations that you’ve set up for yourself, either on a conscious or unconscious level?  Now is not the time to discover their origins.  At this point, simply identify what your limitations are, as concretely as possible.
  1. Reflect. How are these limitations sabotaging your progress, not only on a professional/work level, but also on a personal level? Why do you want these limitations in your life – for safety, security, just because?
  1. Journal/Discuss. Journal about your observations and reflections, or discuss them with someone you trust. Get clear about what limitations you’ve set for yourself, and what they have done to both help and hinder your progress and growth.
  1. Plan. What are you going to do to blast through your limitations? What empowered steps can you take to start leaving your limitations behind and embrace your true potential…no matter how daunting or frightening those steps might be for you? 
  1. Account. Who can you be accountable to for your changes? Sure, you might just say “yourself”, but try to find someone else to whom you can be accountable for your changes.  Otherwise, you can make excuses and compromises with your limitations, and end up sabotaging any growth you hoped to achieve.  That person (or people!) also will encourage you when you have self-doubts or second thoughts and fears.
  1. Act. Yes, this is the scary part. Actually put your plan into action and make the empowering changes in your life you need to make.  Realize that you will feel scared.  You will feel like it’s impossible.  You will feel out of your comfort zone.  With regard to those feelings, remember you went through this complex array of feelings emotions and mindsets at least once before: when you were born.  And you’re still here!  Make the leap of faith, knowing that you will land on your feet.  Let your accountability partner(s) (Step 5) be your cheerleader and motivator when you need it.   You can do it, and you will!

 

Finally, remember this one truth: If you do nothing, you will stay just where you’re at.  If you choose to move in a new and empowered direction, the freedom you gain is worth more than anything you can possibly imagine!

Don Marlette is, among many other things, a member of the No Limits Life team.  His unique blend of psychic insight, mediumship and practical wisdom guide spirtual practitioners and everyday people through the perils of everyday getting by to build lives that feel like they are singing their heartsong.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Why Permission is Important

The other day I said, “you have to give yourself permission to do that” and my client looked at me and said, “why is that so important?

Yes, it is a “coachism”, but it is also an important energetic step toward change in many cases. Yet when my client challenged me, I found myself digging deeper for the real answer instead of the safe answer to her question.

It led me to my own journaling on the idea so that I could get really clear on why I tell people to do this, instead of just tossing that out there as a spiritual platitude or to sound like a sage (gag!).

What I came up with was both stabilizing and fresh for me:

  • Permission is important because it opens you up to possibility
  • Permission is important because you are conscious when you GIVE permission – think of it as a permission slip you would sign for a childs’ field trip – this one for a journey of your conscious mind and spirit.
  • Permission is important because of the explicit NO it gives to things you don’t want. By saying yes to something you fill the void waiting – when you implicitly make decisions the void simply gets filled by whatever passes by.
  • Permission is important because by God it is yours to give. No one else gets to say yes or no for you – it’s yours to give: your decision, your right, your choice.

Let’s look at the flip side for a second: Have you ever thought about not being specific and where that gets you?  Not usually where you want to be right?  When you can’t invest in the work to make the small decisions, how on earth would you expect to get to the clarity the big ones need.

Giving yourself permission to explore specific and non-specific ideas, to do or not do something, it is FIRM.  It is unyielding and it is decisive – taking a stance and holding it.  You have drawn the line in the sand with whatever you have given permission to.  It is courageous and will absolutely provide you enhanced clarity in the next step of whatever you are doing.

So yes, you can write this phrase off as something we coaches and spiritualists toss out as woowoo platitudinal mumbo jumbo that is designed purely to assuage your guilt and “move you past” something.  Or you can get serious about intention, about possibility and about what you allow or don’t allow in your life.

Spiritual Platitudes are the band-aids on the sucking chest wounds of our self-inflicted spiritual trauma – they do no good and usually just pile on to the problem.  Permission – intentional decision making – is about proactively engaging in your life, your energetic commitments and your role here in this lifetime.

Grant yourself permission to be courageous and commit to intentional decision making – what do you need to give yourself permission for right now? 

Love? Space? Time? Relationships? Inquiry? Possibility? Money? Health?  the list can go on and on.

Then you want to say something like this:

Today I give myself permission for abundance – to allow in the wealth and security I know I am capable of and to give myself permission to let go of feelings of lack and insecurity. I give myself permission to give no quarter to lack. 

It’s a decision, not a platitude. It’s a position of strength, not weakness.  And permission is yours to dole out to you – go for it.

 

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave.  To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru

 

 

Create Your Personal Manifesto in less than 5 hours

What if you had a creed, a set of rules to live by, a list of ideals that focused your daily living and your lifestyle? And it would enable a level of simplicity in your life deeper than you have experienced so far in life.  You’d have a clear understanding of where you are and what support you as you move through the rest of this incarnation.

Sounds decent right?

What would YOU say if you captured the lessons learned, guideposts and truths in your life?  How long would it take you to capture them? Would there be hundreds?  Well, sure there would, if you captured each and every instance of them…but chances are if you looked a little deeper and sought the themes you’d find them.

Are you curious?

Let’s do it.  

Follow the steps below.  In the parenthesis are the recommended times to spend in each activity.

  1. Allocate a chunk of time each day for a week where you record the pivotal experiences and values in your life. (10-20 minutes x 7 days = 140 minutes max)
  2. Spend some time analyzing what you found. (30-45 minutes max)
  3. Document the themes. (10-15 minutes max)
  4. Study them, are these your truths and guideposts? As long as it takes.
  5. Create your manifesto. (60 minutes)

The 13 Principles of The Art of Living Dangerously is mine. It took me 2 decades and 10 minutes to figure them out.  2 decades of finding myself, getting lost and finding myself again. In the end, I worked through the steps above and my 13 Principles of The Art of Living Dangerously came tumbling out.

As it poured out, I realized that YES!  YES!  This is EXACTLY what I live my life based on.  YES!

And then I wanted to share it with all of you…

So I created a program around it and I started blogging around it a little bit.  And it felt vulnerable so I backed off and haven’t been saying much about it!  Crazy right? I have this super cool thing, I know you’ll love it and I know I do and I know it could serve you if I let it!

In fact, after I shared this with a group of corporate women…I had tremendous feedback from them!

No more holding back.  In the coming weeks I will be sharing more and more on this lifestyle touchstone list. I hope you enjoy it.

And by the way….

What would yours say? Email and let me know Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru

Life Coach Jennifer Murphy is the creator of The Art of Living Dangerously, a glass artist, a Co-Director of Vets THRIVE Foundation and passionate about helping others find and fulfill their passion. Learn more on www.nolimitslife.guru

Who are You to Want More? (who are you to NOT want more?!)

“Oh, I wish I could…”

Stop that, you don’t get to think that way, you don’t get to “wish”.  You have responsibilities, commitments, a good job, a great house, all the trappings of success from the outside looking in.  You don’t need more, why are you wishing for it?

You have more than the average person, you don’t need to look further, be happy with your choices, stay the course, stay safe and secure and for pete’s sake don’t risk anything. 

The quandary of the person who has achieved success, who has found the lifestyle they envisioned as a young adult.  This is the quandary of the person who realizes this might not be enough and feels guilty for dreaming.

Some programming along the way has led us to feel guilty for wanting to answer the call for the spiritual “more” in life.  We have the material foundation we want, we checked all the blocks spelling success, but our soul, our insides whisper our need for more.  And maybe we feel gluttonous.  Who are we to want more?

Who are you to not?  Who are you to not go for more, to not pursue the whispers of your soul?  Why would you sacrifice a calling from within for a chemically treated lawn?

Life doesn’t have to suck to want to go for more.  Conversely, you don’t have to chuck away all of your hard earned work and security to follow the calling from within.

To make it work though, you have to listen.  You have to pay attention to what is important and focus,  letting go of everything else.  It starts with alignment.  It is with this idea in mind, I created my Align Your Life Boot Camp kicking off September 7th.  Super early bird pricing is in effect until August 2 and then it goes up to early bird of $97 through August 26th and full price of $197 until kickoff day.

It can be hard to transition your life away from what is currently demanding your resources to a less defined more spiritual pursuit of creating and following the path of who you truly want to be: the artist, the spiritual explorer, the business owner, the service provider, the less rigid and material lifestyle liver.

Whatever you want, if it is different at all from your current daily existence, it takes focus, planning and consistent action over time.

My 2 week boot camp is reinforced by 1 year of continued support in monthly calls, emails and a private facebook group.  So you don’t have to do 2 weeks and be done, you can continue to draw support and get your foundation solidly constructed for this new lifestyle you want.

I could not have gone from a six figure corporate income, married with multiple properties and cars to self-employed, single and living simply, without support.   My coach, my group programs and my consistent actions from them kept me focusing and moving forward.

I wanted it, I took action and I have been living it.

You can too.

Check out Align Your Life Boot Camp if you want to learn more.

To move forward now, try one new thing.  A diet or physical activity shift for example.  If you want to eat healthier try a simple move like adding one vegetable or fruit to your diet daily.  To increase physical activity, simply take a walk every day.  Small actions can lead to big ones when you act consistently.

What action will you take?

Jennifer Murphy of No Limits Life is a glass artist, life coach and founder of The Art of Living Dangerously Group and Private Coaching programs. She partners with aspiring creative and conscious entrepreneurs to conquer what holds them back from cultivating their ideas to create their purposefully aligned and prosperous lifestyle. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru

Conquering Chaos, Let’s Do This.

A sports team meeting put on the wrong night of the calendar, a payment programmed in on the wrong week, late everywhere you go, tired and short tempered, feeling perpetually behind, a list of “somedays” a mile long and the constant demand for more from those around you.

Does this sound familiar?

Do you ask yourself, “what the F&^&% am I thinking? Where is my head?”

Is your inner bully voice in his or her element enjoying this opportunity to throw salt on the beat down you are giving yourself?

If this isn’t you, stop reading now. If you have NEVER done this stop reading now.

Stop reading now and go apply for sainthood, or the better than everyone else award, cause you stinking rock.

But for the rest of us….yeah, let’s talk.

I was exactly as described above this week.  My son was horrified when we went to the girl’s soccer team meeting for his club last night instead of the boy’s team which had been the previous night.  I was late EVERYWHERE yesterday, a payment hit my personal account I had no idea was coming and threw my carefully planned finances all out of whack and you can imagine what that did for my emotional well- being…ugh.

It sucks to feel that way.  The fatigue that normal living induces gets amplified by roughly a gazillion at that point (I am assured by my kid that a “gazillion” is not a number but I am using it anyway, ya know…for dramatic effect).

Last night was the new moon and an excellent time just start fresh.  So I thought about what I know about moving out of this energy, because it isn’t normal for me.  I don’t live in this energy on a regular basis, and you don’t have to either.  Let’s get past it together shall we?

  1. Stop looking outside yourself.

I texted my best friend and partner in most things and asked him to give me boost. “Tell me I will figure all this out” I asked.  Well, he didn’t and I was momentarily pretty torqued.  I wanted him to solve this for me, and at the very least tell me I was going to be okay. My inner 4 year old was ready to go self- righteous temper tantrum all over the place.

Having a cheerleader and support system is awesome and I advocate it.  But they can’t give you false energy.  He had no idea if I would figure it out.  It wasn’t kosher to ask him to do that.  I have to figure it out.  That energy comes from inside me, and it is within you.

Go within and commit to releasing the chaos energy.  Release it from within and then others can support you with their love and affection.  Others can only support what you are willing to do for  yourself – they can’t do it for you.

I love to use Release Essential Oil by Young Living at these times to support me releasing the self-induced trauma and blocks. Focus on what you want to feel, how you want to be living and operating in your life and take the immediate action to get there. A conversation with your coach can help further guide you.

  1. Take a break.

In the midst of chaos the temptation is great to “do more”. More of whatever it is creating the chaos gets you….yeah, more chaos. Good luck with that approach. I’ll see you in the looney bin.

Instead STOP. Just STOP.  Stop pushing, stop pulling, stop powering through and evaluate where you are. Take a nap, play, binge watch your favorite bad TV, immerse yourself in a book, go for a walk. But STOP your current energy stream.

I spent last night reading book 11 in the Black Dagger Brotherhood series. If you love to escape with paranormal action romance and haven’t read this series, check it out and start from the beginning. Super fun.

Before you get too distracted with muscled fanged hotties and cool fight scenes, focus on my point: You must interrupt the current icky flow to start a fresh one.

Once you have interrupted the flow, you can refocus with fresh perspective. What needs to change? What can you no longer tolerate, what can you shift your approach to? What action do you need to take?

  1. Commit.

This can be the hardest.  Now you have to commit to doing it different.

After my vampire indulgence and a good night’s sleep, I got clear on how to do today.   I committed to today being different.  And so far, I am on track and it feels good.  I have been on time, been productive, said ‘no’ where I need to and been present in the moment.  This feels more like me.

Notice I didn’t commit to the unending future. I committed to today. Today, this moment, is where you are – be there and commit to there.

Tomorrow, commit again and renew your commitment every single day. Commitment to living the life you want is not a one and done thing. It is an everyday agreement.

Every day, sit with yourself and agree to live with intention, as your authentic self guides you to live and commit to progress.

These are my simple steps to conquering chaos in the short or long term.  You can use these in the moment and every single day to live in the present.

As I shared, sometimes you fall off the wagon.  Sometimes you find yourself caught in the chaos spiral and living in a pretty crazy energy. Well…get your crazy on and then be done with it; fire up the conquering energy and burn down crazy town.

Live Dangerously, Be You

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  (and get free stuff) Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

3 Ways to Work the Hustle for Determined Entrepreneurs

There was this musician my former husband and I really liked. When we’d hear of her playing in town with her band, we’d make a point go and enjoy.  She was a little grungy, a lot talented and played rock like it came straight from her soul’s connection to spirit.

One day, my then husband came home from working in one of the neighboring cities and he shared he had seen our favorite musician working at a sandwich shop near his work site. We were surprised, we had seen her only in her element, working her guitar and pushing her passion through to the audience. Making sandwiches seemed…weird. And truthfully, it made us uncomfortable.  I wondered if she was embarrassed at having to work another job, and what was happening with her music if it wasn’t supporting her?

I could not have been more clueless.

My life at this point had me making a six figure income and combined incomes had us pushing multiple 6 figures.  We had little worry about in the material realm and tended to be extravagant.  The tips we’d give musicians, artists, servers and the like were simply part of our lifestyle, what as expected. Though we had both grown up without much, we had become accustomed to having.

She was simply working the hustle.

I didn’t know it at the time, but seeing our musician on both sides – the stage and the sandwich shop – it was water on the seed of my own calling.

Since then, life has gotten different. I have returned to my roots in many ways and created new ones in so many more. In the course of creating 5 businesses, and closing three of those, I have learned a few things about following your calling as a business and what it can take sometimes to keep the faith and do what it takes to work the hustle.

  1. A part time job can be your best friend.

I recently took two.  One is very synergistic with my coaching –the lead coach in The Wealth Creation Institute for Intuitive Business Coach Michael Mapes.  I lead the WCI social media group and do the private coaching appointments for the group.  The second is as a merchandiser where I stock a company’s product in a store account.  It is oddly fun and I get a unique experience of watching all sorts of people at all kinds of hours. Observing humans IS my favorite spectator sport.

The first time I ran into someone I knew when I was doing my merchandising job, I was embarrassed.  I was embarrassed and wondered if they’d react to me the same way I reacted to my musician those years ago.  And then I kicked my inner bully to the curb and embraced what I was really doing: Whatever it takes to keep pursuing my dream and gathering experience along the way.

Both of these jobs provide me incredible insight and perspective I can use in my writing, in my glass, in my own growth and in my practice. In a choice between abandoning my calling and doing what it takes to keep going, I choose keep going. I believe so heartily in my calling to partner with others, to inspire others to create the life they love, and creating functional glass art, that I will do what it takes to keep moving it forward – working the hustle. 

  1. Haters gonna Hate

Yep, you will have naysayers. There will be voices in your life that attempt to crush your energy.  Usually these voices fall into one of two categories: people who are too afraid to do it themselves or people who are faking following their dream and are afraid of exposure through the mirror of your authenticity.

These people can be both in your face and passive aggressive.  In both cases your reaction is the same: keep going.  Keep pursuing what you want, they only get the power you give them and you can choose to give them none.

There is a third hater voice you might hear, your own inner bully. Overcoming this hater can be the hardest because it goes right for your deepest insecurities.  This is exactly where external perspective of a coach or another trusted source can be vital to keep you on track.

  1. Focus equals flourish. Fear equals failure.

Where you focus flourishes, it will grow under your attention and nurturing.  This is important because if you are focusing on the administrative side of your business only, you will not grow sales or gain clients through marketing.  If you are an artist and all you do is create and never showcase your work or go public with it for sale,  you will never sell it. There are multiple pieces of the puzzle of being in business for yourself and each must be focused on in turn.

Fear is a terrible decision maker.  Inaction in the face of fear is tantamount to failure.  When you let fear take the driver’s seat, your focus on everything else becomes moot. Fear may be always present, what matters is the role it plays in your life.  Is it the muscle bound monkey on your back, or is it the fly buzzing around, the one you can smack with a proper swatter?

You choose what you focus on.  As I work multiple jobs these days, this has become crucial. To line up what I need to focus on and when I smack fear down and simply focus.  I am present whichever job I am working: merchandising, coaching in my practice, coaching for someone else, working in my studio on my torch, or parenting my son.  I have to be ruthlessly present, ruthlessly focused and passionately dedicated to doing the best I can in each place.

What does all this mean to you? Well, where are you? Where do you find the parallel in what I described above?

Meditate or journal with these questions if you are a dedicated entrepreneur who sees him or herself in the words above: 

  1. Would a part time job enable me to continue to pursue my calling?
  2. Who are the naysayers in my life and how can I make them less effective?
  3. What am I focusing on? Is it getting me where I want to be? What action can I take now to shift the energy and the results?

Hustle is hustle, it is energy and focus and motion and taking action.  Your actions define you more than  your words, much more. Your calling demands action from you, working the hustle however it manifests.  There are many more aspects to working the hustle – what are yours?

If you need help getting your hustle on track grab a free 30 minute confusion to clarity strategy session on my website at www.nolimitslife.guru

Comment below or email me at Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

5 things I wish I understood fully BEFORE I decided to become a Life Coach

Life Coaching is a tough business.  One that just about everyone seems to think they’d be amazing in, and maybe they are right.  A lot of people are empathic, great listeners and offer great advice.  The world needs those talents and needs them in lots of locations and with lots of groups of people.

Life coaching is a bit more than being a great listener and offering great advice  though. For example one of my favorite sounding boards isn’t a coach, he is a person of too many passions to succinctly describe (and none of them would be adequate anyway), which is why I seek his counsel often.   But I don’t think he gives me life coaching, he gives me friendship and counsel.

I don’t pay for friendship.

I do pay for accountability, objectivity and to learn new tools and techniques to optimize my life.

When a client signs up for coaching with me, that is what I want to give them – I want them to find that so that they can have healthy friendships where they can receive friendship and counsel and offer it in return and whatever else they want in life.

As I hit my three year anniversary as a coach I find my business in a tougher place than it has ever been.  It is the hill that won’t seem to stop going up.  But I am determined to see its peak and am not going anywhere.  Why would I?  I feel like I just figured out why I am coaching and what I am here to coach people on!

The Art of Living Dangerously as the core of my work emerged a couple of months ago and I feel like I found my message.  It took three years, but I am so glad it is here.  The Art of Living Dangerously is about creating the life you feel meant to live. It is not about following a step by step method or program, it is about getting some guidance and intense one on one work to allow you to create your path one step at a time.  I have some information on the (un)program here if you are interested.

There are 5 things I have learned as a coach over the last three years that would have been amazing to fully understand starting out – I knew them, but understanding them has been a journey.  If you are feeling the call to coach, here are a few things to think about:

  1. There is zero stability (at certain points).

As a coach, your paycheck is entirely dependent on someone else being willing to part with their money for optimization of themselves.  And women, who make up my primary niche, can be terrible at investing in themselves.  I partner with people who know there is more to life than routine and retirement and want to give more in life through creation of a lifestyle that feels on purpose and prosperous.

There is a need for consistent recruitment, consistent attention, tracking, and vigilance about building a pipeline of potential clients if you want to reach that point of stability.

Too often the perception that it is simple – hang a sign and people will flock.  That would be nice, but you have to create the stability through your own actions and continued actions focusing on delivering your core message and service to your clients and potential clients.

  1. Not every client will do the work.

Often, those who could benefit most from coaching have over committed themselves to the point that coaching feels counterproductive to them instead of the enable it can be if they allow it a) in their life and b) let it work.

They may make the monetary investment, but they will not truly invest in the spiritual, emotional and physical work necessary to invest in the shifts and growth to get them to where they want to be.  They keep seeing the what, but refuse to see the how.

Some of these people can come around in time, I was one of these kinds of clients.  I worked with my coach for almost 3 y ears before real change occurred externally.  Internally, I was sometimes conscious of the change, sometimes not but there it was happening.

Intuition is huge here – learning to trust whether the client will ever listen or is too deeply rooted in their beliefs to want to change.  The client has to want it as least close to as much as you want it for them. You can’t take it personal when they don’t want it as much as you do for them.

  1. Sales and Marketing is a HUGE part of this career.

You can dislike sales and marketing, but you still have to do it. The ‘aha’ I had around this was when I realized when I really believed in what I was offering to clients as a transformative experience,  it felt good to offer to someone I knew I could truly partner with to create the change they want in their life.

If you authentically 100% believe in what you are offering, it isn’t sales, it is service.  If you offer it to people only when you know they can benefit, it isn’t sales, it is service.

  1. You have to talk to people.

As a business owner you have to reach out to talk to people, you cannot just wait for them to find you.  For many, many reasons people will not reach out: sometimes they don’t know they need to, sometimes they are simply afraid to. One on one or live interaction is imperative to doing this work, not just hiding behind a computer updating social media hoping that someone will find you.  They will find you that way, but not as greatly as if you get out and see them.

  1. Focus on the Service, not the Money.

Money pays the bills, we can’t ignore it.  But when you offer a service that is valuable and focus on delivering that service – people will want to pay for it.

There is a coffee house in my neighborhood that is an exact example of what not to do.  I don’t want to give them my money because every single time I go in there, it takes way too long to have my order taken – I will often stand at the counter for a minute or longer as 3 or 4 employees walk right by chatting with each other about one thing or another and not even acknowledging that they have a customer.  Then it is always as if it is there first day there as they scramble to find a coffee cup or pastry container or whatever I ordered, and these are counter people who have been there a while.  I go there only when I am severely caffeine deprived and the alternative is closed because I don’t like to give them my money.  I usually leave irritated at best and angry more often than not.

On the other hand, across the street, there is another coffee place that I adore – amazing service, great product, good interaction and I enjoy giving them my money.

I’d always rather be place 2 than place 1 in my business.  I want people to feel as though they are cared for, they get what they ordered and they are happy to pay for it.  I do what I can to focus on the service.

Hindsight is a tricky thing. 

I did  all I could to prepare myself for this business.  I took a certification course, I worked with a coach, I took classes, I used mentors, I did all I could to keep arming myself.

But being able to step back and look at what I wish I had fully grasped when I started, these are the fundamentals I am not sure I could have known fully without the experience of doing or not doing them and seeing the results then correcting or adjusting where needed.

The key I have found is continued focus on self-awareness, growth and expansion.   This is where The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program serves aspiring coaches and people who seek to create a life they feel meant to live.  It is to create that environment, lifestyle and energy of self-awareness, growth and expansion that is uniquely suited to you and your business aspirations.

If you have inclinations toward a coaching or healing career, the Art of Living Dangerously is a great place to explore this path and lay down the framework for your exact right business and lifestyle.  Learn more here and claim a free 30 minute strategy session to discuss your options.

If you are already a coach or healer – what do you wish you had known when you started out that you have learned along the way?  I have shared my personal learning – what is yours?

Jennifer Murphy lives dangerously as an artist, life coach and writer.  Learn more about her and how individual or (un)program coaching can help you create your path at www.nolimitslife.guru