Facebook & Your Feelings

Oh Facebook, you allow us the opportunity to connect with people we otherwise wouldn’t connect to. You expose us to all types of perspectives and some of the most amazing recipes known to man. You also provide a home to the dreaded over sharers and complainers of the world that annoy the crap out of us! We ALL have that Facebook friend that drives us mad while we lecture them in our heads, we’ll never understand why they air their dirty laundry publicly or become a politician every time an election comes around.

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These people are draining us energetically, intentional or not.

Have you ever walked away from Facebook feeling more frustrated than before you checked it? If the answer is yes, you might want to rethink how you use it. Why? Because those feelings are in fact tuning your vibrational point of attraction whether you realize it or not. How you feel is your guidance system to know if you are attracting the people and circumstances you want or don’t want. It’s simple, if you’re feeling good you are on the right track to what you want and if you aren’t feeling good you are headed the wrong direction.

Do not despair, you can still use Facebook and keep your vibration on the right side of the tracks.

Consider these things when using Facebook:

Timing: 80% of smartphone users check their phones within 15 minutes of waking up. Most of us haven’t even brushed our teeth and we are opening ourselves up to a world of images and opinions that invoke feelings within us and start our day tuning to a less than ideal frequency. Consider when you check in – I suggest getting intentional with your vibration and getting your feet under you each day before you check in (literally and figuratively). It might mean that you don’t check in until after breakfast or after you’ve started your workday. Try tweaking your timing and see if you notice a difference.

Your friends list: How many friends do you have that you would actually speak to if you saw them in public? How many friends do you have that are negative and self-sabotaging? How many friends do you have that you can count on to provide positive quotes and articles that lift you up? Spend some time going through that friends list and get rid of the ones that don’t make you feel good. If you’re worried about hurt feelings or don’t want to cut the cord completely go to their page and unfollow them. Like magic you’ll no longer have to see them pop up in your feed and you’re still friends. Best of all they’ll never know!

The good stuff: Consider intentionally following pages that provide uplifting content, motivate you to reach your goals and make you feel good. Be intentional about what you’re exposing yourself to and control how you feel when using it. Here’s one of my personal favorites: https://www.facebook.com/NoLimitsLifeCoachingLlc/?fref=ts

At the end of the day you can be drained emotionally and energetically when you check in with the Facebook or you can be uplifted – what are you going to choose?

Abby

Abby Wickersheim is a life coach on the No Limits Life Team.  Her specialty is helping you tune your energies to what you want most in life and taking action to get it.  You can learn more about Abby and her programs at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Less is Happiness

In 2013 the sale was final on my suburban home.  A dream realized as I moved from my complicated, maintenance needy home of 2700 square feet to my 535 square foot apartment.  Just me and my son at this point, I sought less.  I wanted a simpler less “stuff” inspired life and I began to create it.  Last year I moved again; this time to a similar sized space cutting down my commute time – finding increased simplicity and reducing my overall footprint on the physical landscape of our world.  Walking to my studio a block away became a routine and I have loved it.

When I began to construct my idea of the perfect life, simplicity was my soul’s demand. Simplicity meant a greater degree of freedom and independence in my life, allowing me to create the lifestyle I wanted – not just the home, car or job, the WHOLE picture.

In each successive move, I freed myself of things: clothing, decorations, kitchenware, memorabilia, and more.  Each piece I discarded had become miscellaneous – without purpose- and with each discarded item, I felt lighter.  Several truckloads left the big house, several more when I got into the new space and couldn’t create a walkway through the boxes, even more when I moved to the latest apartment and gradually some moved out with the seasons over the past year as well.

Now I prepare for another move – this time to a larger place. As my 9 year old heals from his separation anxiety and gets bigger and more mature, he needs his own space.  A shared bedroom is no longer a place of security and simplicity, but a place of too close quarters and lack of freedom.  So it is time to consciously expand.

Tomorrow we make the move, my 30th, just one block down to a 2 bedroom apartment where my squeak gets his room and I get my private space back.  One might think it would be time to expand “things” or hold onto things “just in case”.  But I have taken no fewer than 8 boxes full of things to our local donation center in preparation for this move.  Just because I have the space, doesn’t mean I have to fill it.

As I sat in contemplation this morning, the connection of my last few moves to living in my life and participating in my life became clear.  In the past, I have clung to things as a measure of my worth or sense of success.  This behavior served only to stress me and create a false sense of security as I continued to build my altar to materialism and external opinion – really seeking to fill a void of lack I held inside.  It was like trying to paint an interior wall of a home from outside the window.

In moving toward a sense of internal success and creating a lifestyle built on experience and connection, I have felt more secure, more okay and more successful than ever before – making less money and having fewer things.

I participate actively in creating my life: deciding what to allow in or set a boundary against.  I reject the idea that someone else’s idea of success has to be mine.  My definition of success is what I strive for and connect with daily.

So with each move I make and each thing I release, I am allowing my life to be what I want it to be.  I am being intentional about what is allowed into my life and I am intentional about what I release.

And it feels so right.

For you:

  1. Survey your home – what is working with your energy and what is draining it? Are there things you need to release?
  2. Do you have a concept of what you want your lifestyle to involve? Is it all encompassing or focused on a single factor?
  3. Are you conscious about what you are allowing into your life? Or is it happening and you are trying to simply keep up?

We have a choice in what we create in this lifetime. Feeling successful in one area doesn’t have to mean sacrifice in all other areas.  And life doesn’t have to suck to want to make a change.  It can be good and get even better.  If you want a little guidance with this, let’s talk.  Grab a free 30 minute discovery session via my website www.nolimitslife.guru

Release Limits, Embrace Life.

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Integrative Life Coach Jennifer Murphy is focused on partnering with the professionally successful, yet personally unfulfilled, to create the connected, sustainable lifestyle they crave. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru

Do You Work Your Life, or Does Life Work You? by Don Marlette

Every day you wake up and promise yourself that you’re going to live today to the fullest, and not let  your fears hold you back. You decide to do the tasks you’ve been putting off forever, deal with the assignment that’s been nagging you for the last two weeks, but –  somewhere along the way – you lose your nerve.   You keep postponing things and making excuses for all the wrong things that happen in your life.

And so it goes.  Every.  Day.

How do you take charge of your life?

Our culture’s conviction is that there must some technique, secret or product that, when applied properly, will make all our dreams come true and make us eager for the next step in our path.  The truth is there is no secret at all.  There is no magic system, seminar or ritual that will instantly erase your fears and zap you into your best life ever.  It’s really not a question of “how” to do anything!

We’re asking the wrong question.  Instead of asking “how” to take charge of your life, it is better to ask what kind of response life is asking of you from the outset.  Just as a child “out of control” is sometimes simply asking to be heard, your life may be asking you to stop and listen to your heart for a moment.

Actions to take charge of one’s life often fail because they are not inspired actions.  Think about when you’ve fallen in love.  Did you go out and buy the book, “The 8 Habits of Twitterpated Lovers” or “How To Enjoy the Person You’re Head-Over-Heels In Love With”?  No way!  Love itself seemed to take over, and you followed a mindset of inspired action that seemed to pull you effortlessly from one idea or action to the next.

The same is true about your life.  Life is not a project; it’s a love affair!  We spend far too much time building monuments bereft of meaning and fixing problems that are best left to someone else, all in the name of being “busy”, rather than taking inspired action from a heartfelt call.

You are not asked by life to “work on” things, to create personal growth projects or construct role-based goals, ideals and aspirations simply for their own sake.  Instead, you are asked to fall in love with life, allow your hopes and dreams to emerge from a passion-driven heart, and take inspired actions to make these hopes and dreams a reality.

The first step toward living from that passionate state is the most important.  Stop.  Find a quiet place with your journal and a pen.  Close your eyes and focus inward.  Listen to your heart’s call.  What is it saying to you at its deepest level?

The next step is to take an honest inventory of your life right now.  What is working in harmony with that call?  What is working against it?  And then be brutally honest with yourself: Are you willing to let go of those things that are in working against your heart’s deepest longing?

Finally, ask your heart what two or three actions you can take over the next week to make its desires a reality.  Listen carefully and note those actions.  Make a commitment to do them, realizing that these are inspired, soul-driven actions with a higher purpose.  You will quickly realize that these actions are things you really want to do, because they lead you to a life you actually want to have.

As you accomplish each action, celebrate it.  After all, this is not busywork; you are taking meaningful steps toward a soul-realized life!

Once you actually experience the energy and joy from moving toward who you really are, other inspired actions will start to emerge into your awareness.  Now I won’t lie to you: challenges will come your way at times.  Yet, you will be able to face these challenges, knowing that you are aligned with a greater purpose, and this alignment will give you the insight, energy and resolve to overcome those obstacles with creativity and focus.

 

Ready to move forward with your heartfelt life?  Don Marlette can help.  Sign up for a free 30 minute consult and learn more about Don Marlette and the entire No Limits Life team at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

BE YOU!!!!!

Be you without apology.

Be you without guilt.

Be you, the whole beautiful you!

Why?” you ask, because the world needs you!!

There is a weird phenomenon that plagues the world today, a belief that we are not good enough as we are.  There is an unfair practice of others judging and ridiculing our fellow man when we ALL in fact have things that we could be better at. Please know this for sure: you are perfect just the way you are.

There are things that happen in our life we feel we can’t make it through and feel our imperfections were the cause. But look you are still here, still standing, and now stronger than ever. Each and every one of us has a journey to go through to understand and know who we really are.  On this journey we understand how powerful and awesome we each are through our own unique backgrounds and circumstances. Everything about us makes us the perfect and only candidate to live the authentic purpose of who we are meant to be and how to deliver our gift to the world.

BE BOLDBE BRAVEBE YOU_EDLet’s just sit back and think about how awesome the world would be if we all lived up to being our authentic selves.  We would have the chance to engage with all types of people through conversation, laugher and love because that fear of non-acceptance would be a thought of the past.  When we are able to play 100% from the person that we are and the person we are born to be, we really start to feel good in our skin and able to live our purpose in life!!!

The fact is that sounds very good and all…but believe me I know it’s easier said than done.  This is an ideal way to be but it is not easy to unlearn all the things you were taught and begin to learn the things you could know!  It is about taking the baby steps in efforts to fulfill that purpose and live from a place of authenticity.

Let’s Try It:

  1. The baby steps can start with an identifying the little things about you, by making a list of the things that you really enjoy doing, things that really make you happy.
  2. From the list, strip all the labels that you have learned through your life. Daughter, Son, Sister, Brother, Employee, Volunteer etc. this list of labels describes duties of what you think you should be. This does not get to the core of you, this is about YOU AND ONLY YOU. This is about taking the baby steps of identifying who you are and the things you like. It may seem pretty small, but that is where the big dreams start to unfold, at baby steps.
  3. Once you have been able to strip yourself of the labels, think of the little things that you notice that make you smile. Is it a song? Is it a smell? Is it a book? Is it a place? Whatever it may be make note of them daily: what makes your heart smile and feel like you could read that book, be in that place, all day without notice of time. That is something that you have identified to be part of the real you!

This, in my opinion, is a lifelong process. When you begin to become aware of the things that you love to do and start replacing the items of lack with items of love you will begin to see your life transform into one that you love.

The world needs you to be you without apology, without guilt, the true authentic you full of love and laughter with so much to give to the world.  We are all put here for our own specific purpose and it does not matter what that purpose is, if it makes you feel good and you enjoy it that is what it’s all about!

It’s all about you, being the best you, enjoying you, once you do that it begins to permeate throughout your relationships, your finances, your self-esteem, and your confidence will soon begin to replace fears.

You will begin to start to notice a new person coming forth, a person that no longer apologies for loving their laugher, no longer apologies for their beliefs and values. You will be the person you always have been but allowed fear to stand in the way!!  BE YOU! J

I’d love to hear about that special place or activity that makes you feel just YOU.  Comment below and share it with us!

 

Eilynn Dixon is a coach on the No Limits Life team. Her passion is to share with everyone they hold the power inside them to live their best life, the life of their dreams.  Learn more about Eilynn and the rest of the No Limits Life team at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

What’s the Law of Attraction really about?

from No Limits Life Team member,  Abby Wickersheim

Thoughts become things… that’s simple enough right?

Follow that mantra, manage your thoughts and you’re well on your way to living a lifestyle of the rich and famous. That was a revolutionary concept nearly a decade ago when The Secret was first released by Rhonda Byrnes. Her audience reached a global level as she shared the secret to it all, the law of attraction and positive thinking.

Like many of us do I was searching to find the key to it all, why was I frustrated and unhappy while others seemed to have it all? I watched with envy and jealously at those around me succeeding and it pissed me off enough to do something about it. I was 21 years old and new to the self-help world when my former boss gave me the DVD. I’ll admit I was expecting something so profound by the cover and title, it seemed to portray the masses being held down by the 1% and I certainly wasn’t a part of the 1%. When I finished the DVD I was excited about how easy it seemed, usually at the end of something like that there’s a sales pitch with a hefty price tag. You can get these great results IF you buy xyz and only IF.

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The Secret offered relief and control over my own life. It goes on to cover the Law of Attraction – like attracts like – if you’re in a pissy mood you’ll attract pissy circumstances. It also covers your thoughts essentially setting your attraction point.

If you think negative thoughts over and over you’re going to get negative people and circumstances in your life.

The egoic brain likes to pumps thousands of negative thoughts a day and it becomes impossible to fight against them. Soon I found myself feeling bad when I had those negative thoughts. I’m smart enough to know now that those thoughts are bringing me the very things I don’t want and yet I can’t stop them from coming. I did begin to see results though, while the negative thoughts were present I was increasing the number of positive thoughts than I had before.

While things got better, it wasn’t quite the level of action that I wanted to see. That’s when I came across author, coach and self-proclaimed bullshit fairy Melody Fletcher who threw some serious knowledge on me. In her book Deliberate Receiving she explains the crucial missing piece to creation and manifestations – emotions.

She explains that it’s not necessarily about what you think but rather how you feel that is setting your vibrational point of attraction. When you use your emotion as your guidance system you can start to move yourself from the “negative emotions” into the more positive ones. She explains that all emotions have purpose and that purpose is to show us our vibrational point of attraction. Our perception of emotions are what makes them seem negative but there truly are no negative ones. Tuning into your emotions gives you the power back to get the results you want in your world. Let’s say you want that shiny new car, you REALLY want it. Notice the feelings that come up when you think about the new car. Does your attention immediately go to the hunk of junk up currently have that keeps breaking down? And how does it feel when that comes up? Probably not so good, so while you’re down in those yucky feelings it’s going to be pretty challenging for that new car to come your way.

Deliberate Receiving not only comes with the knowledge, but it also comes with tools to make shit happen. If you want a no bullshit guide to understanding and implementing the law of attraction in your life this is the one for you!

Read the book? Share your thoughts below!

Abby

Abby Wikersheim is a Life Coach on the No Limits Life Team who knows that your thinking can change your life.  Learn more about Abby and the No Limits Life Team at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Intersecting with Long Time Friends 

Sometimes you are lucky enough to connect with people you share so much love with that even if time and circumstance come between you, when you talk again, it is as if no time at all has passed. I have a handful of friends in this arena and they are so special to me! 

Tonight I connected with a friend from my 2001 military deployment. We didn’t know each other before we deployed being from different units and specialities, but because of our jobs, we came into frequent contact. A friendship sparked and we found ourselves sharing “what will we do after deployment” stories, he commiserated with my mid-deployment divorce and I with his insane break up with his lady love. Returning to our base post deployment,  we stayed connected: we commiserated over failed relationship after failed relationship, promotions, separations and relocations. Our circle of friends expanded to others from our deployment and beyond, yet today he is the only one I stay in regular contact with. 

I was at his wedding, cried when I met his bride to be for I could not have created a better woman for him.  And I cried because I knew my marriage was falling apart as he found happiness. He and his bride cradled me in their home in Canada post divorce and helped my son and I create an amazing vacation memory we desperately needed. 

Tonight as we spoke and I caught up on family members comings and goings, sicknesses, victories and challenges I had a moment of wistfulness – a wanting to recapture the “good ol days” where our biggest concern was which bar to hit that Friday or who was picking up who at the airport. 

But as I surveyed my life and gained insight to his my next thought was how very blessed we both were: We had connected. We have stay connected and we can call each other months apart, pick up where we left off and support each other. My friend needed to hear that I cared and want the best for him and his bride and where they are right now, and I just needed to be there and be able to give my support without taking anything. 

Do you have these friends in your world? These gifts along your path whose path may take different twists and turns, but never fail to intersect, time and again?  When was the last time they intersected? Is it your turn to twist toward them and reach out for connection? If it is, do it. There is no reason to wait. 
Jennifer Murphy is an integrative life coach leading a team of incredible people to serve those who seek the next level of success in life. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

What Is Your Visionary Type?

by Don Marlette DonMarlette(558x800)

The word “visionary” conjures up a number of images in my mind’s eye: the guru on the mountain top who attracts followers of all stripes, the leader with a mystical look in her eyes who cares more about practical change and less about what people think of her, the rebel who charges ahead, undaunted by opposition on every side – and these are but a few!

At some level, we are all visionaries.  Remember the first time that you thought about who you wanted to be when you grew up.  Recall the last time you could see yourself in a serious relationship with someone.  These are examples of many “visionary moments” we experience.  When we allow certain visionary moments to grow and develop into a consuming passion, we pass into the realm of the visionary lifestyle.

How that visionary lifestyle will look depends upon you.  I have found numerology to be a helpful tool to discover one’s “visionary type” or mode of visionary life.  Once you know your Visionary Type, you can discover your strengths and areas for growth, so that you can live a visionary lifestyle that is in harmony with your highest self.

To discover your own Visionary Type, simply write down the numerical month and day of your birth in the spaces below.  Then add them together, and keep adding the individual numbers together until you get a single number.  For example, if I were born on August 18, (which becomes 08-18), I would write:

0 + 8 + 1 + 8  =  17  and then…  1 + 7  = 8  = Visionary Type

Now it’s your turn:

__+___+___+___  = _____   and then…  ___+___  =  ___  =  Your Visionary Type

Now that you’ve found your Visionary Type number, match it to the corresponding description below to discover more about your type!

  1. The Reforming Visionary. Your idealism is key to living out your vision.  You have very high standards, and want to be a person of integrity in living them each day.  While maintaining a fierce loyalty to your vision, you may have problems with resentment and patience.  Stay in the moment and avoid becoming consumed by self-criticism or criticism of others.
  1. The Helping Visionary. Your ease of expressing your true feelings, unconditional love for others, and ability to connect with others will help you to bring your vision into reality. Living out your vision may be challenging at times, due to a tendency toward becoming sentimental and overly concerned with the opinions of others.  Become more emotionally aware and self-nurturing to more effectively make your vision a reality.
  1. The Results Visionary. Your ability to pull people into your circle of friends will take you far. You can be very driven toward success, and work very hard to be productive and effective in everything you do.  Watch out for workaholism and egotism, as you may easily tilt toward burnout or over-concern about your image.  Work on becoming more self-accepting and authentic in your relationship with yourself, as well in your relationships with others.  A balanced life will help you achieve your vision more effectively than overwork and “burning the midnight oil.”
  1. The Independent Visionary. Your independence stems from your desire to be more reserved and alone. Solitude is your greatest teacher, as well as the wellspring of your own dynamic creativity.  Be careful of falling into self-pity or personal drama; your life is actually better than you may perceive it right now.  Good social interactions will help you gain perspective.  Strive to become more objective and principled so that you can see your true progress in achieving your goals.  You are doing better than you think!
  1. The Cerebral Visionary. Your constant curiosity, alertness to information, and innovative approaches help you on your path. Your pioneering spirit helps you blaze new trails in making your vision a reality.  Because you are very much “in your head”, you may tend toward becoming more isolated and eccentric than you would like.  Develop greater self-confidence and decisiveness, so that you don’t become trapped into thinking you have to do everything.
  1. The Responsible Visionary. You don’t really see yourself as the visionary type! You want to be secure in what you do, so striking out into the unknown is more than a little scary.  However, you do have a rebellious streak in you, and that rebelliousness is the hatchery of your true visionary creativity.  Get in touch with that, and courageously champion that vision with all your might.  Yes, letting go of security can be frightening, but life will become much richer for you when you do.
  1. The Playful Visionary. Your playfulness, spontaneous and optimistic nature will give you the fuel to achieve your goals. Beware of becoming too impulsive and off-task, however.  Once you make a decision, strive to follow through to its completion.  Also, get in touch with your own inner pain, as it will help you to become more authentic and reach more people effectively.
  1. The Challenging Visionary. Your strong self-confidence helps you to forge ahead and get things done, especially in making your vision a reality. Although your assertiveness can help you accomplish great things, be mindful that you do not become intimidating or controlling.  Use your strengths to become more inspiring for others and improve their lives.
  1. The Self-Effacing Visionary. Yes, you want to have a peaceful life and not trouble the waters too much, and there is a way to achieve your goals without stepping on too many toes. Realize that confrontation and occasional conflict are part of the work of manifesting your dreams, and your natural peacefulness and calm will make these confrontations less dramatic than you may fear.  Work on becoming more self-developing and self-confident to bring out the best in yourself for the good of others.

Keep in mind these Visionary Types are not set in stone.  They are intended to help you see your own strengths, and how you can incorporate them in to your life.  Your own unique “stamp” on your Visionary Type is not only important, but necessary for you to articulate, plan and implement a vision and goals that are truly your own.

Have fun adding this to your personal toolbox for making your dreams a reality!

Don Marlette is a powerful intuitive who loves to help people learn to sing their heart song! You can learn more about Don and how to work directly with him, take a class with him or attend his live event on April 2 by clicking here