This week my son is in a 7 hour a day week-long soccer camp followed by a chiropractor session, a haircut, competitive club soccer tryout and bookended by soccer tournaments.
It’s a busy week for him.
It’s also prime training time for time management.
He’s 10 and life won’t slow down from here. Increasingly, demands will be placed on his time as he gets more social, craves more mobility, plays in middle school and high school sports in addition to his club and continues with his hunting and fishing seasons. Eventually (I shudder) he will have a girlfriend and she’ll want his time (she had better be good enough for him!). Life will get busier and as his parent it’s up to me to model for him the best way to manage those demands.
It’s the kind of thing we didn’t really talk about when I was his age, nobody did. I don’t remember people glorifying busy the same way – triple and double booked and racing all over hell and back to make it to every graduation, birthday, sport and event. People said no to the things that weren’t most important. That is the model I had. Rather than just talking about it, I crave modeling and living with a time management model that is simply…simple.
Back to my question: are you too busy for time management?
A few other versions of the question:
Are you too busy to focus on what is most important?
Why are you spending time on things that are not important to you?
Is there a reason your kids needs to play 4 sports?
Do you truly want to sacrifice your personal time and experience in this life to live vicariously through your kids, your friends or people online?
If I gave you 30 seconds, a minute even, could you list the 3-5 most important areas of your life and what you are doing to enrich them?
Are you investing in things instead of experiences?
These are the kinds of questions I had to ask myself almost a decade ago when I wanted to unscrew how screwed up my life had become. They were hard to answer – despite the model I had growing up. I had to spend some time working with a coach to pull away all the objections, forms of resistance and utter BS I had chosen to pile up around me.
If you struggle to answer those questions, you are in need of some serious overhaul in the way you manage your time. Time is a finite resource – we get 24 hours in a day, we get this one life to live (in this incarnation), and we deserve to treat ourselves well in how we use it. Not just well…outstandingly amazing. We deserve to treat ourselves outstandingly amazing.
Three things you can do right now in 5 minutes or less to start treating ourselves outstandingly amazing:
- Optimize the next 7 days. Spend 5 minutes looking at your commitments for the next 7 days. Say no to the things that are energy draining and unnecessary. Send the card instead of going to the graduation party of the neighbor kid you say hi to once a year. Say yes to the things that move you forward in life.
- Admit you can only be in one place at one time. Take a deep breath and recognize that you are only one being. You can only be in one location at one time. It isn’t your job to stress yourself out completely to make everyone else happy. If you choose to over commit, do it because it feels fun – not because you want to have a heart attack in the next 12 months and die from stress. Pick the event, activity or commitment that moves you forward and delegate, decline or defer the rest. FYI – I just postponed a massage so that I could focus on getting some work churned through so when I do get that massage, I am not freaking out about my to-do list.
- Schedule 15 minutes once a week to optimize your schedule. Right now, set a weekly appointment with yourself to spend 15 minutes a week optimizing the next month or so. It will always be a state of refinement, that 15 minutes will yield huge gains.
Yep, I get it, managing all the moving pieces of life is tough. Part of loving the life you are living is loving what you are doing in it. Those things are your choice. You can choose to be too busy for time management and just keep letting life happen to you.
You can take charge now, implement a couple of simple things and let me know how they work for you.
If you struggle, it may be time to bring in the big guns of life coaching and together we will look at what drives you to insanity and help you conquer that chaos and chart a fresh course full of purpose and straight up fun. Start here if this is you.
We have a mini-course on this coming up in August, then again in September. It will kick off on August 1 at 11am CST and run for 4 weeks then again on September 12 at 730pm and run for 4 weeks.
Right now I am looking for input on this course and would love to have you weigh in via this short survey – can you do that? It’s only 8 questions and I have a bonus for those of you interested in taking this to the next step.
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Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, help captive in Iowa, but willing to stay because her son anchors her in place and he is so totally worth it! An expert in helping people across the globe prioritize their values and create a life centered on what they value most, allowing them to shed stress, overwhelm and the BS that can suck the soul from daily living. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru