Do You Work Your Life, or Does Life Work You? by Don Marlette

Every day you wake up and promise yourself that you’re going to live today to the fullest, and not let  your fears hold you back. You decide to do the tasks you’ve been putting off forever, deal with the assignment that’s been nagging you for the last two weeks, but –  somewhere along the way – you lose your nerve.   You keep postponing things and making excuses for all the wrong things that happen in your life.

And so it goes.  Every.  Day.

How do you take charge of your life?

Our culture’s conviction is that there must some technique, secret or product that, when applied properly, will make all our dreams come true and make us eager for the next step in our path.  The truth is there is no secret at all.  There is no magic system, seminar or ritual that will instantly erase your fears and zap you into your best life ever.  It’s really not a question of “how” to do anything!

We’re asking the wrong question.  Instead of asking “how” to take charge of your life, it is better to ask what kind of response life is asking of you from the outset.  Just as a child “out of control” is sometimes simply asking to be heard, your life may be asking you to stop and listen to your heart for a moment.

Actions to take charge of one’s life often fail because they are not inspired actions.  Think about when you’ve fallen in love.  Did you go out and buy the book, “The 8 Habits of Twitterpated Lovers” or “How To Enjoy the Person You’re Head-Over-Heels In Love With”?  No way!  Love itself seemed to take over, and you followed a mindset of inspired action that seemed to pull you effortlessly from one idea or action to the next.

The same is true about your life.  Life is not a project; it’s a love affair!  We spend far too much time building monuments bereft of meaning and fixing problems that are best left to someone else, all in the name of being “busy”, rather than taking inspired action from a heartfelt call.

You are not asked by life to “work on” things, to create personal growth projects or construct role-based goals, ideals and aspirations simply for their own sake.  Instead, you are asked to fall in love with life, allow your hopes and dreams to emerge from a passion-driven heart, and take inspired actions to make these hopes and dreams a reality.

The first step toward living from that passionate state is the most important.  Stop.  Find a quiet place with your journal and a pen.  Close your eyes and focus inward.  Listen to your heart’s call.  What is it saying to you at its deepest level?

The next step is to take an honest inventory of your life right now.  What is working in harmony with that call?  What is working against it?  And then be brutally honest with yourself: Are you willing to let go of those things that are in working against your heart’s deepest longing?

Finally, ask your heart what two or three actions you can take over the next week to make its desires a reality.  Listen carefully and note those actions.  Make a commitment to do them, realizing that these are inspired, soul-driven actions with a higher purpose.  You will quickly realize that these actions are things you really want to do, because they lead you to a life you actually want to have.

As you accomplish each action, celebrate it.  After all, this is not busywork; you are taking meaningful steps toward a soul-realized life!

Once you actually experience the energy and joy from moving toward who you really are, other inspired actions will start to emerge into your awareness.  Now I won’t lie to you: challenges will come your way at times.  Yet, you will be able to face these challenges, knowing that you are aligned with a greater purpose, and this alignment will give you the insight, energy and resolve to overcome those obstacles with creativity and focus.

 

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GET BACK IN THE GAME

contributed by Eilynn Dixon

You are likely familiar with the biggest game of the year for football where fans and players to get to see the final showdown of the two best teams. This year 2016 it was between Denver Broncos and Carolina Panthers, I had the awesome opportunity of visiting Denver on the night of the game. As I watched the winning fans revel in their triumph it made me think about how The Big Game is so much like our everyday game of Life and how important it is for us to stay in the game!

There will be moments in life that you want to get out of the game, stay on the sidelines and watch everyone else play. This is not living the life of your dreams and this will not get you to your Big Game of living the life of your dreams. You can either choose to keep looking at what others are doing and saying “oh wow that is nice”, “wish I could do that”, or you can get back in the game and choose a different position. That is what it is all about – staying in the game; there will be moments you might need a break and to get rehydrated, take a vacation, visit friends for overdose of laughter, exercise, anything that will give you fuel to keep you going. Then you get back out there and keep playing. There will come a time when you begin to analyze the position that you are playing, maybe it does not seem as challenging anymore or you are having a hard time defining your duties. These positions of life are where we start to look inward and see what is most important and decide that we can either stay where we are in unhappiness or we can change the position of life and start living the life of our dreams.

There was a time in my life about two years ago that I had a really tough time figuring out what to do next for me and how to get me out of a rut. It was like I woke up one day and asked myself, “Where did I go? Where am I?”

  • There were days when I didn’t want to get out of bed and see anybody, but I just pushed myself each time and went through the motion.
  • Even going through the motion I still just felt like a shell.
  • My Grandmother had recently passed and my relationships were in turmoil.
  • I couldn’t tell if I was still grieving or if I was just upset at the world. I had a hard time allowing myself to just be me and be okay with who I was at that moment.

I had to make a decision to either stay on the sideline of living the life of a shell or get back in the game.

It is ok – whatever happened in the past, today is a new day, and the opportunity to live a new way. I am ready to get back in the game and play a different position and create a different playbook. There might be a chance to even get a few new team members.

It’s all about making the necessary choices and execute actions to become that person you want to be not be the person the world expects you to be.

It’s about recognizing all your gifts, talents, happiness that make up your wonderful self that is you!! We cannot afford to sit on the sidelines you have to stay in the game and always remember to look to your Higher Power for guidance. My Coach and Captain of my game is my Heavenly Father, He keeps the game fair as He promised and provides all the equipment, tools and gear I need to be successful. I just keep my heart full of faith and gratitude while enjoying the little moments and taking baby steps to live the life of my dreams.

Do This If It’s Too Late to Follow Your Dreams

contribute by: Don Marlette

The clock is ticking.  Time is pressing forward.  Only minutes before that big meeting, and you’re still only halfway to your destination.  Then the blame sets in: who’s fault is it?  Mine?  Someone else?  Next time, you say to yourself, I’ll make more time.

Sound familiar?

Or perhaps this?

The clock is ticking.  Time is pressing forward.  You’re past your “prime of life” (whatever that means!), and you have that itching desire to do something new with your life.  Something you’re excited about (finally!), and everyone around you is urging you to go for it.  But I’m too old, you think, too set in my ways.  It’s too late.  It will cost too much time, money, patience….I can’t do this.

Whether it’s the meeting or appointment that weighs us down, or the change that might put us on the path of a new life, these situations have a point of convergence, a piece that pulls them together that starts a chain reaction often leading to confusion and frustration: time.

Not enough time.  Too little time.  No time.  Past time.

I found myself on that same path, too.  I was successful at my work.  The music was sounding great, people loved what I was doing, I was even writing music for choirs and churches.  Yet, in all that flurry of activity and production, something was hollow.  Something didn’t ring true.  Stressed, fearful, and always on edge, I started asking the hard questions that come late at night: Is this all there is?  Isn’t there more?  The answer? It’s too late.  I will just keep going and find enjoyment outside of the work I’m starting to dread.

I was compromising.  I knew that deep down.  A deeper reality was emerging.  The truth was that I had heard my heartsong – the song that my soul refused to remove from my inner awareness – and I chose to not listen to it.

There is more to the story, of course.  In the end I decided to unstop my ears and and actually listen to my heartsong. I started to dance to my heartsong, and put that song into real-world action.  It was uncomfortable.  It was scary.  But I did it.  And I found joy and inner peace.

You see, the truth is that the clock isn’t really ticking.  Time isn’t actually pressing forward.  Believe it or not, all of that is just words.  True, time helps us gather with others at the same moment, makes the trains run smoothly, and reminds us of obligations, but when time becomes a tyrant, it’s time for a revolt!

It is never too late to make changes or even to begin our lives again.

Time is not meant to measure our lives.  Our lives are meant to make time special, beautiful, and the stuff of legend.

It’s not about where you are in age, but where you are in awareness.  Some people take longer to be aware than others.  A ten-year-old and a 70-year-old can both be at the same stage of inner awareness.   It’s not about how long you live; it’s about whether you truly live at all. 

You are called to fruitful living.  Living that matters to the lives of others.  A life that lives, that loves, that makes a real difference.  If you find that you need to make changes to make that life happen, then it’s time to make the changes.  Follow that intuitive hunch that tells you there really is something more than the “this” you’ve settled on.

Everything happens at just the right moment in our lives.  That nudge to change jobs that grows over time?  It’s happening at the right time.  That decision to start speaking up for your needs?  It’s exactly the right time.  That inner shift that tells you to get out of the empty routine you’ve settled for, and start making meaningful, purpose-filled decisions?  There’s hasn’t been a more perfect time to start!

It’s all at the right time.  Now is the time to hear your heartsong.

It’s time to dance!

 

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A Solid (And Easy) Foundation for 2016

by Don Marlette

 The New Year has begun, and it’s time to set your goals for the year. Make your dreams happen, improve your relationships, change your job, lose some weight… the list is endless. Then you have to figure out how to actually do all of it without going crazy!

Regardless of your goals, it’s important to begin with a solid foundation. Most of the time, though, we build our hopes and dreams on the shifting sand of our current habits. When our dreams and goals are challenged, our old habits kick in to gear, and everything starts to shift. Before we know it, the sand has shifted and our house is lost to the elements. Sabotage!

When we choose to build our dreams and goals on the solid rock foundation of simple and easy daily practices and habits, everything changes. Challenges may happen, but we can weather them more successfully, and we greatly increase our chances of meeting our goals, no matter what they are.

Below are three foundational practices: the Morning Minute, the Random 100, and the Evening Shoes. These provide a solid foundation that will give you greater control over your day, increase your sense of accomplishment, and infuse your life with gratitude.

1. Morning Minute. This is probably the toughest – and most rewarding – practice that you can do. It is a huge step in taking control of your life. And it’s as simple as waking up in the morning.

You’re sleeping soundly, indulging in that latest dream….and the alarm beings to sound. Time to wake up! Or is it?

Usually, one would hit the snooze button for a few extra minutes of shut-eye. But why? After all, those few extra minutes are going to be interrupted again by the blare of the alarm, which means you really didn’t get any good “extra” sleep anyway.

Choose instead to get up at the first sounding of your alarm. Yes, it means putting your feet out of the bed onto the cold floor. Yes, it means pushing yourself a bit more. Yes…you would rather stay in bed.

But. But. In the first minute of the day you’ve met a challenge and crushed it! You’re already a rock star! This starts the ball rolling in a positive direction. After all, if you can truly engage in “mind over mattress” and master yourself for this first minute, there is so much more you can do to make your best life start happening for the rest of the day!

2. The Random 100. You have work to do, people to meet, and time to use wisely. Yet, we seldom realize how much of our days are spent in criticism of ourselves (or others), wanting “more” to happen, and constant comparison of ourselves to any number of people, standards or ideas.

The Random 100 challenges us to make random acts of gratitude at least 100 times each day. Rather than focus on what’s missing, the Random 100 moves our attention to what is already present, with an attitude of thankfulness and gratitude. It’s as simple as saying “thank you” when something positive happens, and saying “thank you” when something challenging comes our way.

Over time, gratitude starts to become a focus for our day, and we begin to see the real gift of the Present Moment, with all its power and possibility.

3. Evening Shoes. The Evening Shoes is a perfect time to reinforce all the positive steps you’ve made today. And it’s as easy as looking at your shoes.

Take a look at your shoes. Where have they been today? Where did you go? What did you do? What people did you meet…or avoid? Just think about it for a moment.

Now think about your victories. What triumphs did you have today? What positive steps did you make for any or all of your goals?

Finally, think about tomorrow. What will you do differently tomorrow? What new steps will you take in your shoes? What will make your shoes have an even more awesome report tomorrow night?

Now you can go to sleep knowing that you’ve made progress, and tomorrow is another set of forward steps in the right direction.

These three habits are simple, easy, and you can do them for a lifetime. They provide you with a solid foundation that will give you more confidence to achieve your goals, whether they are for the day, month, year, or even a lifetime.

Try them for one month, and experience the change for yourself!

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Live Your Best Life in 2016

By Eilynn Dixon

At the beginning of every New Year we all have the feeling of a clean slate to accomplish those things that we wanted to do last year or just something NEW for you in the New Year. This is a common theme for several of us: to set forth to live our best life for the New Year.

Well let’s really think about what it means to make a goal to make that new you, is it about the goal or is it more about the baby steps of action to really reach the goal? I think many do not reach their resolution or give up because we take a huge quest and try to swallow at once: we want to lose 100 pounds and see it gone by January 31st or the old faithful of saving a little more but then January 31st comes and we don’t see six figures in our bank account so we go back to old spending habits.

Let’s have a different mindset for how we will not only set the goal for a new you, but how to take the small steps of success to achieve your goal and stick with it past January 31st.

We all want to live the life of our dreams and we tend to allow fear stop us so many times and get in the way of what really matters most. We don’t realize it really is the little things that mean the most and make the biggest differences, for example:

  • When you make small steps to move past your fears it is not as scary.
  • It’s easier if you take baby steps to get to your goal by chopping up your quest into bite size pieces; much easier to swallow and results can happen sooner than January 31
  • Small steps help us move past our lack of discipline and be able to see the small accomplishments to propel us to continue.

It is all about putting one small step in front of the other and before you know it, you have walked a mile when you thought you were only going to walk a few steps.

If your goal this year is to lose a few pounds, change your mindset of “diet” and think instead of lifestyle change, here is what that could mean:

  1. Make the small change to incorporate drinking more water. This may not seem like much, if you are a soda drinker and you make the choice, to not just quit drinking it all together, but instead to make the conscious decision that you will have a cup of water instead of a soda at least once a day for about a week – you will make progress in your health overall.
  2. Then the next week you can say, “Maybe I will just have a soda in the afternoon and water or some form of water throughout the day.” This small change will have a major impact on your health, your energy and your weight. You will start to notice even just after the first few days there is a difference in you. Now don’t get me wrong – it is hard when you are addicted to a certain drink and why it is important to make the small steps of drinking a little here and there in efforts to not deprive yourself but to help you change the way you view beverages and how important the what type of beverage is consumed.
  3. You will begin to realize, it really is all about perception and engage the mindset of “I need something to hydrate and alleviate thirst and water is free and provides what I need” this gives you experience based reasoning that really makes drinking water more attractive than a soda J

When we become aware of our thoughts and how much they play into our behaviors it is a little easier to make those small changes. We usually don’t realize it is even an issue until we choose to make a conscious different choice.

For 2016 you can live your best life and that is by chopping up those goals into bite size pieces and before you know it, it will be December 31st and you can finally check off that one resolution you have had for about ten years now! 

 

No Limits Life Staff Member Eilynn Dixon is a Life Coach, Single Mother to 4 Boys and Best Life Advocate for all who want to go from okay to fabulous!  Contact jennifer@nolimitslife.guru about opportunities to work directly with Eilynn or have her come speak at your organization. Or Visit www.nolimitslife.guru to learn more about the No Limits Life Philosophy and team.