Don’t Shop Small on Small Business Saturday: Shop Big

I propose an energy shift around Small Business Saturday.

First, let me be clear: I love small business. I even own a couple. 

I love it when people choose small businesses for their holiday shopping. It truly supports the economy in meaningful ways. Putting money into a small business owner’s hands to allow them to grow, support their family and contribute. This is a nice sales bump and a great way to take a piece of the holiday shopping pie for many businesses where their communities have embraced it.

What I don’t like is the hashtag #shopsmall

Nor do I like the emphasis on it or the inherent hypocrisy.

Allow me to state my case before you decide I am a small business hater…

  1. The hashtag:  #shopsmall

This hashtag is weak.  It is small and silly and holds limiting energy. Telling people to shop small at small business is offensive to me as a business owner. It feels like keeping small businesses small across the spectrum. I acknowledge this is the very nature of this business, but a small business can be big on energy and profits while still staying small in size…let’s let them get big on profits and energy.

Look at who the primary backer and originator of Small Business Saturday is: a Credit Card Company. A BIG Business who benefits from you whipping out that card to shop small while the businesses pay the fees for you to use that card.

Check out the history here.

How about a fee free, Saturday Credit Card Companies and processors?  If we really want to care about small businesses, don’t charge us a fee for a day, let us take all the money home…just a thought. Our state governments can give us a tax-free weekend for school shopping, it’s not unheard of to consider at least.

I am a believer in the power of intention and the power of words.  When we say, “shop small” and then head out to spend money, we are carrying small energy with us.  Small businesses need bigger energy.  We need more than the $2 sale, we need the $200 sale to stay afloat and thrive.  We need you to consider shopping BIG on small business Saturday (and beyond).

It is fabulous that this idea has spread and become nationally recognized and grown every year.  But what if it wasn’t just a day?

  1. The Emphasis.

The emphasis is silly to me as well.  I recently ran a free series targeting the gratitude posts that crop up about being grateful in November, but aren’t about creating a life habit of gratitude.  I say make gratitude a lifestyle habit. I find this in the same bag: build a habit and practice of shopping small, not just one day of the year. 

Don’t be ticked when your favorite glass studio moves because you don’t visit it. Do more than shrug your shoulder when a specialty store closes it doors that you had been “meaning to visit” but never found the time.

I, the small business owner, am here 365 days a year looking to support my family and grow in my abilities to extend new goods and services to you. Not just that Saturday after Thanksgiving.  

Small Businesses deserve more than one day of magnanimity. You as a consumer, deserve more. What if your habits of looking in small businesses first helped small business ecosystems to thrive?

  1. The Hypocrisy.

Small Business owners themselves need to also step up.  Small business owners need to also support other small business owners.  Where will you, small business owner, spend your dollars made from small business Saturday?  Will you head to a large grocery store to buy your food, or will you head over to the local store or co-op to share your dollars? Will you restock from the big wholesaler, or work with a small artist to fill your shelves?

Small business owners, we can do better. We can make this more than a Saturday – we can make it a habit and a sustainable practice. By engaging in it ourselves, by acting the way we want others to act.

Am I against Small Business Saturday? No.  But I am more in favor of a shift in all energies toward small business economic growth and health because there is a value shift to support it, not a holiday declared for it.

I propose a new set of hashtags #shopBIGatSmallBusinessALLyearlong #Supportbigatsmallbusinesses #shopsmallbusinessallyear #shopbigatsmallbusinesssaturdayandbeyond

That is my proposition: that we shift our energies from one day a year of investment in small business to a lifestyle commitment to shopping in small businesses. 

Am I being a bit idealistic?

I don’t think so, I live this way now.

I am asking you to truly think about the lifestyle you are creating with your financial actions. 

If this kind of thinking bigger, thinking in your own voice and shifting of mindset appeals to you, you’d better check out The Dangerous Elite Member Program – enrollment is open now through December 8th.        Learn more here

About the Author.

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

 

One Minute Musing: Misallocation of f#$ks

Game 2 of the world series seemed to be all about use of resources.  How the Dodgers used their bullpen last night, mattered. In case you missed it, they fell to the Astros in extra innings.  I’m no sports commentator or expert, but they appeared to come on strong early with their pitching resources and then pull that strength a tad early.  I’m guessing there is some review of resource application going on right now.

The obvious analogy for life is all about how we use our resources in daily living.  In my Facebook Group I have been running a free challenge called Free to Focus (on the F#$Ks you WANT to give) which is all about resource allocation.  When you apply your resources to the f#$s you WANT to give, you gain something: time, money, energy or a combination.  The implication is that you do this consciously and correct as needed.

We all make mistakes, this is part of our humanity.

This is how a world series should be: the best of the best working their hardest to take the victory.  This is good sports.  A tied series in game 2 is excellence in action.

I’m not pissed at our coaching staff at the Dodgers.  Not yet anyway.  They made a call, they gave their f#$ks where they thought best, and it didn’t work out. What they do now with that lesson matters.

Just as it does when you make a mistake and misallocate your f#$ks.  What you do next matters.

photo jun 20, 8 27 31 am

Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Traditions

The Dodgers, my Dodgers won last night in game 1.  I watched with my son, my brothers in different states watched with their children, just as we had watched with my mom and dad and our parents had watched with theirs and generations of Dodger fans in my family had watched before us. I remember baseball always being a thing in our family.

Rabid fans? No.  Solid fans? Yes.

My son was fascinated at how engaged I was in the game – he typically watched football while I half pay attention while doing something else.  This time, I did nothing but watch and he was intrigued.  I realized I hadn’t passed this tradition on quite like I had wanted.  He didn’t know he needed to root for Blue.  He didn’t know the names of our players or anything about the team.

So, we talked about it and I shared my memories of laying on the floor in my grandparents living room coloring or reading while my Grampa watched the game and alternately cheered and jeered with disgust at the boys in blue.  And how I would watch the games with my parents and we went through a drought time when all we could get was Northern California TV so we had to watch the A’s and Giants and hope for an odd broadcast of a Dodger Game; pre-cable era TV was feast or famine.

Traditions are important when they are important to you. This one is important to me and I think I’ll keep it around a while. Go Blue!

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: I Refuse to be Stress’s Bitch

I read an article recently that referred to the Japanese principle of Kaizen.  It inspired the author to take one minute each day to progress with something she wanted.  The article is called, “Overcoming Laziness: The Japanese Principle of Kaizen” by Dondi Leigh.

I was inspired to take action with this as well but wasn’t sure which direction to aim this intention.  Then it smacked me upside the head: my writing.

I get ideas ALL THE TIME and I don’t always follow them because I feel time constrained. So I decided to implement One Minute Musings.   Little bites of reality as I see them, lessons to learn or things I need to share with the world.

I am sure some of these will become bigger articles, but One Minute Musings is exactly what I need “write” now (haha I love my own jokes!)

So here is number one, I woke up with this today….

My neck aches, my back groans. My hips feel rusty!  Seriously, I am only 42 and I feel like I imagine an 80-year-old without an ounce of yoga under her belt would feel.

It’s time to let go of some stress.  I have been going, going, going and I’m going to take my own advice and stop – relax and be present.  Enjoy all the things I have going on and fuck the rest.

Stress sucks and I refuse to become her bitch again.

Join my Facebook Group to see these daily!

 

photo jun 20, 8 27 31 am

Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

Life, Focus, Power

THE POWER I GAINED LIVING A FOCUSED LIFE WAS NOT WHAT I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE

More than anything, I realized that I was giving a f#$k about a lot of things I really didn’t need to be GAF about.

Things like:

  • What other people wanted me to do
  • How I should fit in
  • How everyone else was measuring success

PRIOR TO THAT I MOSTLY I GAVE AF ABOUT THINGS THAT DIDN’T MAKE ME HAPPY – AND IT SHOWED:

  • I wasn’t healthy, stress ate me up and I bitched about more than I celebrated.
  • My answer to how are you was always “busy” (which isn’t an answer it’s a deflection to avoid revealing what’s really up in your life)
  • I kept thinking there was more to life than I was seeing…and I wanted to figure it out.

As I developed my own prioritization process which I now teach my clients and see them blossom with, I realized I was allocating F#$ks to things that drained me, not empowered me and that the power I would gain was simplicity – the ability to say yes to the things I aligned with and let the rest go.

FINALLY, I COULD BE FREE TO FOCUS ON WHAT I WANTED TO GAF ABOUT

Which is what inspired me to run a FREE CHALLENGE called FREE TO FOCUS in my Facebook group and provide deeper good stuff in a supporting email series.

FREE TO FOCUS IS ABOUT YOU FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT TO GAF ABOUT

  • Letting go of distractions
  • Saying yes to the stuff that energizes and empowers
  • Stepping into the MORE that has been eluding you

Click here to join the challenge kicking off 23 October and you will receive

5 days of email and video support

Invite to the Art of Living Dangerously Facebook Community where you can share your successes for chances to win prizes

Access to life changing activities that can move you out of the rut of wanting more and not getting it, feeling overwhelmed by other people’s f#$ks and general “omg will it just stop?!” energy

Click here to join!

 

WHAT DO YOU GAF ABOUT?

WARNING: I am going to say the F word in this email.  If this offends you, please stop reading.  We are probably not compatible at this point. I appreciate you, who are you are and your boundaries – stay strong with them.  Me, I say the F word and I am cool with it.

WHAT DO YOU GAF ABOUT?

Super popular term these days right?  What do you give a f#$k about?

My partner has a t-shirt from our local co-op that says Local AF set against a picture of the state we live in.  Not our home state, but the state we live in.  It symbolizes where we get our food from.  Because, we GAF about our food.

We toss this phrase around a lot lately…and like so many, it has become diluted.  Because to truly GAF about something is significant.

I mean we only have space for so many fucks to be given in our world before the fucks we give become too many.

HOW MANY THINGS IN YOUR WORLD ARE YOU GIVING A FUCK ABOUT THAT YOU NEED TO STOP GIVING A FUCK ABOUT?

Where do you really need to and want to invest your fucks?

I recently read “The life changing magic of not giving a f*ck” by Sarah Knight and loved every word. Totally recommend you read it.  Her approach is similar to what I developed in aligning priorities – the tool I crated to help people focus on what matters most to them in creating life they love.

It is similar in that the focus is on doing what you want to do, not what you think you should do.  There is a HUGE difference in doing what you want to do over what you think you should do when it comes to energy investment aka fuck investment.

I particularly love the idea of a fuck budget:  setting up a number you have to give and when they are all gone…sorry fellas, no fucks here.

Love that.

I sped through the book, eating up the words and concepts and it felt instantly at home in my psyche.  In part because I already philosophically aligned 100% and in part because I needed to read it in that way to go even deeper with the energy.  Maybe you do too: get your copy here from amazon, or check your local library.

MORE SIGNIFICANTLY, IT INSPIRED THE UPCOMING FREE CHALLENGE I AM OFFERING IN MY ART OF LIVING DANGEROUSLY FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: 

Free to Focus (on the f#$ you WANT to give). It kicks off 23 October and is 5 days of sorting through your fucks and where you want to allocate and invest in them, thereby bringing your focus to the stuff you truly care about!

Each day will have a theme and those that post daily will be entered to win fabulous prizes!

Signing on via the link below will provide you exclusive access to the video and email series that goes even deeper in to each of the topics for the challenge (and it serves as week 1 of the Motivated for More 13-week EOY/BOY program that helps to finish on top and start even higher as we transition years)

READY TO JOIN? CLICK HERE TO GO ALL IN  ON THE CHALLENGE!

 

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Jennifer Murphy

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru

 

FALL INTO SOMETHING GOOD

Does your career leave you feeling like you fell into a vat of poo?

Is every day like swimming with concrete floaties?

Do you dread the day to tasks of being where you are?

You are not alone.

I was you once upon a time.

I blamed the dissatisfaction I felt in so many areas on the dissatisfaction I felt at work. I knew if I could find happiness at work, I’d be happier overall.

Research proves this: when you have a higher sense of career well being you feel a higher overall sense of well being.

Cool. How do you get it?

1. You fall into something good.

Instead of constantly bitching about how shitty your circumstance is, find the good. There is some small sense of goodness there. Maybe it is simply that the paycheck meets yours needs. That is good. Find the good to fall into every day and you will attract more good.

2. You act with good intention

You take action that are good for you. You eat right, you declutter, you drink water, you surround yourself with good high vibe people. You take action that you know is positive energy for you.

3. You get creative.

You look for the things you can shape to your style and you do it. The activities, events and processes that are tailorable, you tailor in such a way that you can find positive energy in them. This might mean a mindset shift, or a physical overhaul – or anywhere in between.

These three things have infinite numbers of outcomes ranging from finding a higher degree of satisfaction where you are or striking the entrepreneurial path. Wherever your energy takes you, falling in love with your career and satisfying that sense of “more” you have been craving is important for your overall well-being.

What are you going to fall into?

 

photo jun 20, 8 27 31 amI am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru