Hello again! Thank you so much for coming back!
Last month I shared about a personal transformation that I am going through, and it got me thinking about transformations that happen to people. Which then got me thinking about how much really happens “to” us and how much we choose to happen. Some people call it fate, or destiny, others call it free will, and still others will say it’s all a matter of what you choose to allow in your life.
I believe it’s a combination of all of them. So, while we’re not going to talk about the deeper meaning of destiny or fate and the power of the cosmos, I am going to explore the idea of how much control do we have over the things that happen in our life and how much (or little) are we taking responsibility for it?
To give this some context, I’ll give you some various examples of the concepts I mentioned. A car accident or winning the lottery may be considered fate or destiny, choosing one job over another would be free will, and adding a child to your family or a new car would be choices that we make. But could each of those examples fall into another category? The answer is, of course they could! A car accident could occur because someone chose to text and drive, and you won’t win the lottery unless you play. Choosing one job over another may be free will, but what factors do we weigh when making that decision? And adding a child to a family could be an unexpected surprise rather than a choice or buying a new car could be caused by your 30 year old Buick finally kicking the bucket.
All this is to say that no matter what choices we make even with the best intentions and after doing hours of research, some greater power can always play a part. So how do we move forward in such an unsure and unstable environment? One step at a time.
Sounds cliché, huh? But can you really accept that job without filling out an application and interviewing for it first? Not usually. Can you have a baby without some kind of fertilization process first? Nope. The point is, you have to start somewhere. The question is, when, when will you start? And I have the answer…
You will start at the exact moment that you stop letting fear control your decisions.
You’re may be thinking, “Yea, that’s easy to say, but what about paying my bills, or taking care of my kid’s or spending time with friends.” And my response to that is, at some point all of those become excuses that hold you back because you’re afraid of what might happen if you do try to follow your dreams. If you want something bad enough, if you make the choice that it is important enough to you, then that is the moment you will also start developing your plan to achieve that dream.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: I don’t want to misrepresent what I’m sellin’ here. Making the decision to follow your dream isn’t always easy and without pain, sacrifice, tears, and time. But there will also be laughter, feelings of accomplishment with the little victories you achieve, and celebration! One thing you may not always find when pursuing your dreams is support from people, even those closest to you. This is natural because when you are trekking out on a new journey, it can make people uncomfortable because you’re changing and they aren’t sure how that might affect them, or it reminds them of all the dreams they haven’t gone after. Don’t worry, while this may feel painful at the time, know that if you ever need support on your journey, reach out to me, I am here for you. (apply for a discovery session)
Now back to you getting everything you want in life. Once you’ve decided the when (the moment you let go of fear and excuses) you’re now in the purgatory of, How?
While you may feel the urge to quit your job and go back to school full-time, try to resist that urge unless you know you can financially afford it. Taking this first step forward isn’t about making quick or irresponsible decisions, it’s about giving yourself time (a day, a week, sometimes more) to acknowledge that you have made the choice to follow your dreams, be proud of that choice, and then come up with your first draft (and maybe your only draft) of your action plan. This can be as detailed or as basic as you want. There are 2 things I want you to remember about your action plan:
- If you choose to go the basic direction, still make sure that you’re considering all the areas that may be affected as you move forward (finances, time commitment, relationships, where you live, etc.) Even if you don’t write each area down, take the time to think through them to make sure you’re considering things that may be pitfalls down the road if they are ignored. If you’d like some help thinking through different areas, contact me and I would be happy to work through them with you!
- And second, be willing to be flexible. Like I mentioned at the beginning, that greater power, whatever you believe, may feel like it’s trying to derail you from achieving your dream. You will most likely go through times that it feels like everything is working against you. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. This is the universe challenging you to see how bad you really want it. This is your opportunity to show your strength and determination, and will be the point just before you achieve your dream.
So your homework…
- Write down a list of ALL the dreams you can think of that you have right now and dreams that you used to have but something happened that made you stop even considering that from ever happening.
- Then, try to prioritize that list at least to get your top 5 dreams you’d like to achieve.
Once you’ve done that, you’ll be ready for what I have in store for you next month! Come back again!
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Until next month, wishing you many blessings!
Kari Rossetti is a Life Coach specializing in Career Exploration, Empowerment and Freedom. She has been developing her skills informally over the past 5 years and recently discovered her calling to practice these natural skills professionally while challenging herself to grow and be the best coach she can. She is obtaining her Professional Coaching Certificate in Personal and Executive Coaching in December 2017 from the Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute. In her spare time she loves being in nature and playing with her family. She can’t wait to support you on your journey to freedom.