Taking Action with Kari Rossetti

So, did you do your homework?  If you didn’t catch my last blog, no worries, I can do a quick recap so you can catch up!  I asked my readers to write down a list of ALL the dreams you have for your life right now.  Then think about dreams you’ve let go or stopped even considering them from happening.  Lastly, prioritize them.  Some of them may still be on you “that’s-no-longer-a-dream” list for a reason, so it can stay there.  Try to get at least your top 5 dreams, but even just 1 will work wonderfully for this next part.

This month is all about ACTION.

Before we run full speed ahead, allow me to remind you of how to achieve any goal…

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One step at a time.

 

I will be the first to admit, my name is Kari and I’m a list-aholoic.  (Crowd responds in a low mumble, “Hi, Kari.”)  I make a list of ever task and “to-do” I want to get done.  Sometimes the list gives me anxiety and I get overwhelmed just looking at it so I cope by dishing up a big bowl of ice cream and watching an unproductive show on Netflix.  *NOTE: This is NOT an effective method to achieving…well, anything.  Unless your goal is to catch up on your favorite series.  Then, CONGRATULATIONS on achieving your goal!!

But I’m going to guess that is probably NOT your goal.

So let’s refocus.  My list-making, and maybe yours, can cause anxiety, but generally the intention is to visual how you’re going to make it happen.  And again, say it with me, one step at a time.  You may have to repeat this to yourself dozens or hundreds of times while working toward achieving your goal.  I know I do…and it truly helps!

Take a look at what you’ve identified as your tippity-top goal.  Look at the goal and really reflect on how it will feel to achieve that goal.  Visualize where you might be, who you might be with.

Now, bring yourself back into this moment, right now.  Look at the goal again.  Write down 3 actions you can take this week and realistically accomplish that move you closer to your goal.  Only you know what you are already committed to this week, so take into consideration those commitments.  Look at your calendar and set aside intentional time you will dedicate to this goal and to your achievement of these action steps.

How do those actions you’ve set for yourself make you feel?  Do they feel like BIG goals or not-big-enough goals?  If you feel comfortable sharing them with someone, go for it!  Ask for support from a close friend or family member.  And remember, I am always here to support you too!

Until next month, good luck!  And wishing you many blessings♥

KariKari Rossetti is a Life Coach specializing in Career Exploration, Empowerment and Freedom.  She has been developing her skills informally over the past 5 years and recently discovered her calling to practice these natural skills professionally while challenging herself to grow and be the best coach she can.  She is obtaining her Professional Coaching Certificate in Personal and Executive Coaching in December 2017 from the Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute.  In her spare time she loves being in nature and playing with her family. She can’t wait to support you on your journey to freedom.

 

Are you Too Busy For Time Management?

This week my son is in a 7 hour a day week-long soccer camp followed by a chiropractor session, a haircut, competitive club soccer tryout and bookended by soccer tournaments.

It’s a busy week for him.

It’s also prime training time for time management.

He’s 10 and life won’t slow down from here.  Increasingly, demands will be placed on his time as he gets more social, craves more mobility, plays in middle school and high school sports in addition to his club and continues with his hunting and fishing seasons.  Eventually (I shudder) he will have a girlfriend and she’ll want his time (she had better be good enough for him!).  Life will get busier and as his parent it’s up to me to model for him the best way to manage those demands.

It’s the kind of thing we didn’t really talk about when I was his age, nobody did.  I don’t remember people glorifying busy the same way – triple and double booked and racing all over hell and back to make it to every graduation, birthday, sport and event.  People said no to the things that weren’t most important.  That is the model I had.  Rather than just talking about it, I crave modeling and living with a time management model that is simply…simple. 

Back to my question: are you too busy for time management?

A few other versions of the question:

Are you too busy to focus on what is most important?

Why are you spending time on things that are not important to you?

Is there a reason your kids needs to play 4 sports?

Do you truly want to sacrifice your personal time and experience in this life to live vicariously through your kids, your friends or people online?

If I gave you 30 seconds, a minute even, could you list the 3-5 most important areas of your life and what you are doing to enrich them?

Are you investing in things instead of experiences?

These are the kinds of questions I had to ask myself almost a decade ago when I wanted to unscrew how screwed up my life had become.  They were hard to answer – despite the model I had growing up.  I had to spend some time working with a coach to pull away all the objections, forms of resistance and utter BS I had chosen to pile up around me.

If you struggle to answer those questions, you are in need of some serious overhaul in the way you manage your time.  Time is a finite resource – we get 24 hours in a day, we get this one life to live (in this incarnation), and we deserve to treat ourselves well in how we use it.  Not just well…outstandingly amazing.  We deserve to treat ourselves outstandingly amazing.

Three things you can do right now in 5 minutes or less to start treating ourselves outstandingly amazing:

  1. Optimize the next 7 days. Spend 5 minutes looking at your commitments for the next 7 days.  Say no to the things that are energy draining and unnecessary.  Send the card instead of going to the graduation party of the neighbor kid you say hi to once a year.  Say yes to the things that move you forward in life.
  2. Admit you can only be in one place at one time. Take a deep breath and recognize that you are only one being.  You can only be in one location at one time.  It isn’t your job to stress yourself out completely to make everyone else happy.  If you choose to over commit, do it because it feels fun – not because you want to have a heart attack in the next 12 months and die from stress.  Pick the event, activity or commitment that moves you forward and delegate, decline or defer the rest.  FYI – I just postponed a massage so that I could focus on getting some work churned through so when I do get that massage, I am not freaking out about my to-do list.
  3. Schedule 15 minutes once a week to optimize your schedule. Right now, set a weekly appointment with yourself to spend 15 minutes a week optimizing the next month or so.  It will always be a state of refinement, that 15 minutes will yield huge gains.

Yep, I get it, managing all the moving pieces of life is tough.  Part of loving the life you are living is loving what you are doing in it.  Those things are your choice.  You can choose to be too busy for time management and just keep letting life happen to you. 

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You can take charge now, implement a couple of simple things and let me know how they work for you. 

If you struggle, it may be time to bring in the big guns of life coaching and together we will look at what drives you to insanity and help you conquer that chaos and chart a fresh course full of purpose and straight up fun.  Start here if this is you.

We have a mini-course on this coming up in August, then again in September.  It will kick off on August 1 at 11am CST and run for 4 weeks then again on September 12 at 730pm and run for 4 weeks.

Right now I am looking for input on this course and would love to have you weigh in via this short survey – can you do that? It’s only 8 questions and I have a bonus for those of you interested in taking this to the next step.

Click here to be an Influencer and provide us your thoughts on the best focus areas for the “Too Busy To Take It Time Management Mini Course”.

 

j36Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, help captive in Iowa, but willing to stay because her son anchors her in place and he is so totally worth it!  An expert in helping people across the globe prioritize their values and create a life centered on what they value most, allowing them to shed stress, overwhelm and the BS that can suck the soul from daily living.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru 

Moving Announcement!

Moving on (again)

I strategize. I plan. I take action.    

This is my process.  This is how I lead, how I execute and how I live.

No Limits Life Empowerment Institute is moving! (and so is shaman grocer and my glass studio!)

We’ve been planning for this move for at least a year and it is happening right now! I’m very excited.  Beyond excited and it’s been a super weird crazy experience, as it usually is when you level up your life and people around you…well, don’t.

I’ve been through this a few times and I’ve seen it with others.  When people decide to make a change that has them departing from a group or institution, the group or institution has a choice how it will react: be excited and supportive or take offense.  I’ve somehow ended up with some pretty low vibration associations which have taken the offense path and I am currently writing up some information and analysis on how to deal with that if it happens to you…because it happened to me.

Bottom line: low vibration atmospheres suck – literally suck the life out of you.  High vibration is the way to go – they empower and support and require more from the best of you while growing you.  Be high vibe.

BACK TO THE EXCITEMENT PART!

Here is the scoop:

No Limits Life Coaching became No Limits Life Empowerment Institute a few months ago.  You may have noticed that, or you may need to wake up….seriously, pay attention people! We have moved primarily online and are working on building our online home right now. (It’s like we are living in our RV on the property and are watching construction.)

We are also available locally and totally willing to travel to your home state or city for workshops or events.  Especially if you live near the beach or are anywhere in Washington State, California or Colorado.  I, Jennifer will personally be working out of the co-working space in Cedar Rapids – The Vault, for a while and I’m super excited! Our mission at No Limits Life Empowerment Institute is to help you move forward with your life using your strengths.

Shaman Grocer, our store is relocating to Iowa City, Iowa – home of the University of Iowa a big ten school you may have noticed on ESPN, the BIG10 network or anywhere college football is spoken of in loud bawdy cheers.  Or your doctor may have a diploma from there on her wall.  We will be at 114 ½ College Street in suite 5 in an area with a seedy reputation that is part of its charm for us and is slowly shifting from seedy to centered – the Hall Mall.

Shaman Grocer is our physical extension of the energy we cultivate daily.  As a minimalist it may seem a little weird that I own a store but here is how that works: we want you to buy things that you both love and that have function.  We sell our glass work but also things like sage, palo santo, resins, and local made soaps.  We cultivate relationships with local artists to find functional pottery, fabric items and woodworked pieces.  We offer incense, incense burners, and buy only what we can link to the source – we try our best to be responsible!! Our mission is to help you “Find your piece to find your Peace.”

(We’ll be online roughly 3 months after I wanted to be, later next week and I will share that link with you.)

Our glass studio is moving home with us.  We’ll be back up and running later this summer after we get into our new home and we will offer lessons again.  We may just be a little more selective since we are inviting you into our home.

So yes!  We are moving 3 currently co-located businesses into 3 separate locations.  Yes, it is chaotic as it sounds.  But we planned for this: we strategized, we planned and now we are acting.

….and it feels so good!

Keep up by making sure you follow up online:  

No Limits Life Empowerment Institute Instagram or Facebook @nolimitslifeempowerment

Shaman Grocer on Instagram @shamangrocer

Glass on Instagram @gatheringelements and @j.mo_dab

 

Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, help captive in Iowa, but willing to stay because her son anchors her in place and he is so totally worth it!  An expert in helping people across the globe prioritize their values to create a life centered on what they value most, allowing them to shed stress, overwhelm and the BS that can suck the soul from daily living.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru 

 

One Step

Hello again!  Thank you so much for coming back!

Last month I shared about a personal transformation that I am going through, and it got me thinking about transformations that happen to people.  Which then got me thinking about how much really happens “to” us and how much we choose to happen.  Some people call it fate, or destiny, others call it free will, and still others will say it’s all a matter of what you choose to allow in your life.

I believe it’s a combination of all of them.  So, while we’re not going to talk about the deeper meaning of destiny or fate and the power of the cosmos, I am going to explore the idea of how much control do we have over the things that happen in our life and how much (or little) are we taking responsibility for it?

To give this some context, I’ll give you some various examples of the concepts I mentioned.  A car accident or winning the lottery may be considered fate or destiny, choosing one job over another would be free will, and adding a child to your family or a new car would be choices that we make.  But could each of those examples fall into another category?  The answer is, of course they could!  A car accident could occur because someone chose to text and drive, and you won’t win the lottery unless you play.  Choosing one job over another may be free will, but what factors do we weigh when making that decision?  And adding a child to a family could be an unexpected surprise rather than a choice or buying a new car could be caused by your 30 year old Buick finally kicking the bucket.

All this is to say that no matter what choices we make even with the best intentions and after doing hours of research, some greater power can always play a part.  So how do we move forward in such an unsure and unstable environment?  One step at a time.

Sounds cliché, huh?  But can you really accept that job without filling out an application and interviewing for it first?  Not usually.  Can you have a baby without some kind of fertilization process first?  Nope.  The point is, you have to start somewhere.  The question is, when, when will you start?  And I have the answer…

You will start at the exact moment that you stop letting fear control your decisions.

You’re may be thinking, “Yea, that’s easy to say, but what about paying my bills, or taking care of my kid’s or spending time with friends.”  And my response to that is, at some point all of those become excuses that hold you back because you’re afraid of what might happen if you do try to follow your dreams.  If you want something bad enough, if you make the choice that it is important enough to you, then that is the moment you will also start developing your plan to achieve that dream.

IMPORTANT NOTICE: I don’t want to misrepresent what I’m sellin’ here.  Making the decision to follow your dream isn’t always easy and without pain, sacrifice, tears, and time.  But there will also be laughter, feelings of accomplishment with the little victories you achieve, and celebration!  One thing you may not always find when pursuing your dreams is support from people, even those closest to you.  This is natural because when you are trekking out on a new journey, it can make people uncomfortable because you’re changing and they aren’t sure how that might affect them, or it reminds them of all the dreams they haven’t gone after.  Don’t worry, while this may feel painful at the time, know that if you ever need support on your journey, reach out to me, I am here for you. (apply for  a discovery session)

Now back to you getting everything you want in life.  Once you’ve decided the when (the moment you let go of fear and excuses) you’re now in the purgatory of, How?

While you may feel the urge to quit your job and go back to school full-time, try to resist that urge unless you know you can financially afford it.  Taking this first step forward isn’t about making quick or irresponsible decisions, it’s about giving yourself time (a day, a week, sometimes more) to acknowledge that you have made the choice to follow your dreams, be proud of that choice, and then come up with your first draft (and maybe your only draft) of your action plan.  This can be as detailed or as basic as you want.  There are 2 things I want you to remember about your action plan:

  1. If you choose to go the basic direction, still make sure that you’re considering all the areas that may be affected as you move forward (finances, time commitment, relationships, where you live, etc.) Even if you don’t write each area down, take the time to think through them to make sure you’re considering things that may be pitfalls down the road if they are ignored.  If you’d like some help thinking through different areas, contact me and I would be happy to work through them with you!
  2. And second, be willing to be flexible. Like I mentioned at the beginning, that greater power, whatever you believe, may feel like it’s trying to derail you from achieving your dream.  You will most likely go through times that it feels like everything is working against you.  Don’t give up.  Don’t give in.  This is the universe challenging you to see how bad you really want it.  This is your opportunity to show your strength and determination, and will be the point just before you achieve your dream.

So your homework…

  • Write down a list of ALL the dreams you can think of that you have right now and dreams that you used to have but something happened that made you stop even considering that from ever happening.
  • Then, try to prioritize that list at least to get your top 5 dreams you’d like to achieve.

Once you’ve done that, you’ll be ready for what I have in store for you next month!  Come back again!

If you’d like to get started on your next steps sooner, sign up for a Free Discovery Session!

Until next month, wishing you many blessings!

Kari

Kari Rossetti is a Life Coach specializing in Career Exploration, Empowerment and Freedom.  She has been developing her skills informally over the past 5 years and recently discovered her calling to practice these natural skills professionally while challenging herself to grow and be the best coach she can.  She is obtaining her Professional Coaching Certificate in Personal and Executive Coaching in December 2017 from the Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute.  In her spare time she loves being in nature and playing with her family. She can’t wait to support you on your journey to freedom.

 

 

 

 

When You Are Sick

It all started with a “tickle” in the back of the throat. Then came the runny nose. Pretty soon, it was a full-fledged cold.

I’m not going to get into specifics about my cold (yuck!), but I want to invite you into a little exploration of the lesson of sickness.

Don’t worry; this won’t hurt a bit.

A week doesn’t pass where I don’t answer at least a few questions from someone – a client, friend or even a relative – about how to increase their intuition. I give my usual answers (meditation, learn a system, etc.), until the one that usually makes them stop in their tracks: listen to their own body. Believe it or not, the human body is an incredible intuition alert system, and, when it comes to sickness, the body can be a living opportunity to teach us volumes about ourselves and our relationships.

My own sickness had plenty to teach me, especially about spiritual identity and the role of spiritual practices in my life.

How did I get to that realization?  Let’s back up a bit.

Sickness is a sign of something out of sync or dis-ease in the human system. Notice I said “system,” not “body.” As human beings we are a composition of body and soul together, so dis-ease is not just a body problem; it can be a soul/mind problem as well.

Now that doesn’t mean that every physical problem can be directly traced to mind/soul problem. There are books that create numerous connections between body problems and life issues. These systems are interesting, and certainly have validity in some cases, but I don’t see a 100% correlation between the two. Sometimes bodily sickness simply happens.

Regardless of whether the sickness is a sign of deeper mind/soul problems, our response to that sickness is the same: we stop. The body wants to stop. We respond to that desire by attending to the needs of the body, making sure that we get appropriate medical care, adequate rest, and proper nutrition for efficient healing.

While attending to the body, it is also important to attend to the mind/soul as well. Many times there is a lesson or two that we are being taught in our sickness, which couldn’t be learned at any other time. This is the beginning of “hermit time.”

How we use our “hermit time” in sickness is very important. There are really three ways that we can use this time. First, we could use it as “poor-me” time, bemoaning our illness, lost time at work, our own personal suffering, and finding ways to ensure that everyone around us feels our pain in as many ways as possible. As we pursue this tactic, we generally feel our illness for a considerably longer time.

Second, we could use our hermit time as “extended work time.” We could get caught up on all that extra work, start a few more projects, and fee like we’ve accomplished a great deal. Of course, we also end up feeling worse for a longer period of time.

Finally, we could use our hermit time as time to listen. After all, our bodies are finally in a holding pattern, in a sort of desert where the heart can finally speak to us without being interrupted by the next urgent task on our list.

“I want to listen,” you say, “but how?” You certainly don’t want to fall into self-delusion where your mind wanders into strange territory, and you also don’t want to miss important insights.

There are four steps to listening to the heart during your hermit time:

  1. Get quiet
  2. Ask what the lesson/problem is
  3. Listen for the answer
  4. Treat the answer as the beginning of a conversation with the heart

1. Get quiet. To get quiet, I mean really quiet. No electronic devices. No phones. No Facebook. No television, Netflix, or movies. No radios or mp3’s. No books (you thought you could get away with that one, eh?). In other words, no input from outside. Picture yourself as being stranded in a literal desert, with no connections to the outside world. You cannot hear your heart when you’re distracted by everything else around you.

2. Ask what the lesson/problem is. Ask your heart what the actual problem or lesson is that you’re supposed to learn. Keep this very simple. Your heart is the core of who you are, your True Self, that contains an immense amount of wisdom. It is also your intimate companion through life. Ask this wise friend your deepest question, expecting the perfect response.

3. Listen for the answer. When you listen for the answer, pay attention to everything: your thoughts, feelings, even your memories, as they emerge in your consciousness. As you listen, disregard the first two or three answers that come up; they are often answer from the ego, trying to derail you from the work of genuine growth. If one of those answers happens to be the important one, fear not; it will come up again in a few moments!

At this point, it is helpful to have a notebook handy for insights as you receive them. If you rely solely on your memory, you will probably forget about 30-60% of what follows. So take good notes!

4. Treat the answer as the beginning of a conversation with the heart. This is where people usually don’t go. Go off the beaten track, and explore the answer further. Start talking to your heart, and also to Source/Higher Power/God about the answer you’ve intuitively received. (Yes, this is your intuition at work!) Have a very simple, loving and honest conversation about what it means for you, and how you can apply the lessons in your life. As in the previous step, pay attention to thoughts, feelings and even memories as they emerge; they are often veiled responses in your conversation. Yes, this does take some time, but I promise you: the conversation is worth it!

The result of this process is a conversation and insights that either set you on a new path in some part of your life, or fine-tunes the path you are walking right now. Sometimes, you may even find that your sickness will last a shorter time, since the lesson has been learned.

Every sickness is an opportunity for growth. The next time you get a cold, or your body is telling you to get some rest, try the approach I’ve outlined to get the most out of it.

Don MDonMarlette(558x800)arlette is, among many other things, a member of the No Limits Life team.  His unique blend of psychic insight, mediumship and practical wisdom guide spiritual practitioners and everyday people through the perils of everyday getting by to build lives that feel like they are singing their heartsong.  Learn more at www.nolimitslifeinstitute.com

 

A 420 Reflection

Normal is a relative term. It really is. Think about it for a moment.  Your routine, your rhythm for your day is yours and yours alone.  It is your normal.

The values and situations you grew up with were normal when you were growing up with them.  You woke up, you had things happen, they were normal.  And the things that happened in your day were likely different than the things happening in your peers day.  Their breakfast routine or homework routine was different.

Take my son for example.  He is driven farther than anyone in his class to get to school and I am guessing he is among a minority if not alone in the fact that he often gets up at one household yet has breakfast and gets ready for school at another.  His normal is different than others in his class. As a 10 year old he is learning a lot of flexibility and gaining the ability to transition through situations pretty well.

It gets me thinking about my own normal growing up as I note the date on the calendar – April 20, 2017.  Known better in certain circles as a holiday called 420.

When I was growing up in California, it was the mid to late 70s and 80s, I graduated high school in 1992.  (Don’t hurt yourself doing the math – I am 42 as I type this article.)  Cheech and Chong were funny guys on the record player and 8 track.  There were funny smelling plants in the backyard we didn’t tell everyone about and in the den there was a red tray that I wasn’t to touch.  The water filled smelly piece with the black sticky residue was also off limits.

The sweet, slightly musky smell of weed permeated my childhood. It was normal.  I didn’t see it as a big deal, it was just there.  Large groups of people around me used it. It was just part of life.

The Red Ribbons showed up in my life a few years later and I remember seeing a display put up by the local sheriff with all kinds of illegal substances and thinking – hey, I know what that one is…

Around that time, the smell became not quite so constant.  If it was happening, I wasn’t seeing it. Why was never my business and I don’t know that I asked.  I don’t remember it being a big deal one way or another.

In high school I was offered some and thought – well yeah, why not?  It’s normal.  In fact, I am almost 100% sure weed was the reason I passed geometry. My junior year of high school I was “busted” smoking after a football game, in my cheer uniform with some football players.  I was horrified to be called into the dean’s office and interrogated.  They threatened to call the sheriff and I was horrified at what that could mean.  I was a good girl. Good girls don’t get the sheriff called on them.

When I got home that day, my mother was waiting and she was not mad at me. Not for trying it anyway.  She was mad at my judgement on timing and placement. She admitted it would be hypocrisy to condemn me for something that was not a foreign substance to her and that she didn’t believe was the worst thing I could be doing.  In addition to the on campus suspension I had been awarded, the temporary suspension from the cheer squad and suspicion of “narking” by my peers, I was grounded for a few weeks.

I didn’t smoke after that. I just didn’t.  It wasn’t a conscious decision to stop or a dislike or anything else.  What really happened was alcohol took over my life.

As an alcoholic I wanted the chaos and insanity and drama that alcohol brought that weed simply didn’t invite in my life.  With weed I passed geometry, with alcohol I failed health.  But by God, I committed to alcohol.  After all, alcohol was legal so why shouldn’t I overindulge and drink as much as I could?  And like an Iowan at a corn syrup…oops I mean corn, festival, I went for it.

For the next 10 years or so I let alcohol dominate me:  through a career in the military where I found many of my kind, through passing out while driving and waking up on the side of the road half collapsed out the driver’s door, through alcohol poisoning and lost memories, marriage and divorce, lost friendships, bad, bad choices and more.  So much more pain than I can describe, or that you want to hear.  Alcohol took me to dark, dark places.

I recovered 14 years and 2 days ago.  It used to be a huge, big deal.  Now I have a new life and the day itself isn’t as big a deal as the gratitude I have for the life I get to live now.

I am interested in this movement of the legalization of marijuana on so many levels:

  • There are so many medical benefits which I saw up close as I watched my aunt recover from breast cancer in a medically legal state.
  • I am intrigued by the vast amounts of information and misinformation out there. The fear based op-eds and the scientists and doctors coming out with more and more research.
  • The dollars gained in taxes in states like Colorado where medicinal and recreational can be purchased and the dollars spent on crime prevention and jails in states where it isn’t legal.
  • Watching Tommy Chong on Dancing with the Stars then reunited with Cheech Marin on stage right here in Iowa a while back was fascinating– a state where you can use cannabis oil to treat certain conditions but you can’t buy it here (note: you can buy CBD oil here), instead you have to trek it in from another legal state across illegal states and pray to whatever you believe in that you don’t get caught bringing medicine to a family member or loved one that experiences intense relief when using it.
  • As a glass blower I can’t help but be fascinated by those artists whose work largely heads into the weed market. Their creativity and artistry is mind blowing.  If you haven’t watched Degenerate Art on Netflix yet, queue it up.  And this 60 Second Docs piece on Robert Mickelson and his work will  blow your mind.

I think we as a society are headed into a new normal – maybe more like the childhood I remember even.  My family couldn’t have projected what they were preparing me for as I was exposed to all that I was exposed to, but as I see it today it is like seeing an old friend.  That moment your olfactory senses are tickled by a scent that brings back happy childhood memories, like gramma’s cookies might do for someone else.  Across the nation people are benefiting from the use of medical marijuana and of legal age adults are choosing the mellowing effects of weed over the chaos of alcohol.

It may not be for everyone, but neither is your anti-depressant or pain management pill.

When I think of the lifestyle I want, the life I want for my son, I pray that he never chooses to drink the way I did.  I hope and pray he didn’t inherit the disease that took me to places I never wanted to go, but signed a contract in blood with as I took those first sips.

What I want is for him to pursue life the way I have chosen – his own way. I want for him, and for everyone, to know that it is super cool to be you.  Just be you, not some expected version that needs to measure up against anything else.  I think as we move towards a more authentic state of being, it is natural to also move toward more natural products for our bodies.  Our bodies crave the new normal of natural, not the old normal of processed synthetic, toxic mind and body altering substances.

Whatever your normal is today, think about it.  Is it right for you?  Is it really, really right for you?  Are you informed on all sides of the issue you spout off about, vote on or endorse?  Do you know your own story and what works for you and what doesn’t?

It is time to live dangerously: define your normal, don’t let it be defined for you.

 

My first time on the big girl torch

My first big torch experience

Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, help captive in Cedar Rapids, but willing to stay because her son anchors her in place and he is so totally worth it!  An expert in helping people across the globe prioritize their values and create a life centered on what they value most, allowing them to shed stress, overwhelm and the BS that can suck the soul from their daily lives.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru 

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Kari

No Limits Life Empowerment Career Domain Expert Kari Rossetti 

As I was thinking about what to write this month, I started to panic.  You know that tightness in your chest.  Your mind starts racing and you can’t slow it down to focus on a productive thought.  What do I have to teach people?  Why do I think I know what’s right for someone else?  Why should anyone listen to what I have to say?  Am I a fraud?

Then it hit me.  “Kari, you are your own client,” I said to myself.  (I’ll go into what I mean by this a little later, so stay tuned)

To answer my own questions for you…I have a lot to teach people.  We all have unique experiences and perspectives to share that someone, even just one person, could find invaluable and life-changing, and so do I.

I don’t think I know what is right for anyone, besides myself.  I think that comes from within us.  We each already know what is right for us, it’s just a matter of acknowledging and accepting it.  And sometimes that process can be scary.  We might be afraid we’ll lose someone in our lives if we acknowledge we need something different to be happy, or we may change jobs and not know if we’ll be successful, or maybe our acknowledgement and acceptance will take us to a whole new part of the country or world to live out our “right-ness”.  What I do know is that I LOVE helping people uncover what is right for them.  To help gently guide it into the light and then begin to own it, be proud of it, appreciate it and celebrate it.

No one “should” listen to what I have to say.  I, and many of my acquaintances, use the saying, “Don’t “should” (aka sh*t) all over yourself.”  In other words don’t set yourself up to feel defeated by saying, I should do this or I should be feeling like that.  You have to WANT to do this and WANT to feel like that, and then you make it happen in each of your choices.  So no, you “should” not listen to what I have to say unless you WANT to make the choice to be a happier, healthier, more fulfilled YOU.

I am not a fraud.  And the reason I can say this with certainty and with confidence is because I whole-heartedly believe everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this point; to help people.  I genuinely care about people’s struggles, I get gleefully excited when someone succeeds and feel empathy in the depths of my soul when someone feels alone, helpless or hopeless.  It’s not just my life experiences that fuel my passion.  I was born this way.

Sometimes my connection with a person goes so deep that I feel as though I can feel their pain.  I can’t ever know what someone else is fully experiencing, but to give you an example; I saw a video on Facebook the other day.  A little girl had a cat who had passed away a few months ago.  She missed him terribly.  One day her mom had gone out and gotten her a kitten and surprised her with it when she got home from school.  They filmed the little girl going into her room and finding the kitten in a large clear box in her room.  Her emotions went from inexplicable excitement to inaudible sobbing asking her mommy if she got to keep the kitten and thanking her mom over and over for this kitten.  And what do I do?  I start sobbing, over this little girl and her kitten.

You see, a few months ago my husband and I lost our dog.  She was only two and we were devastated, absolutely heartbroken.  I could not live without a dog in our house and while it was hard to get a new puppy so quickly, we knew it was what was best for us.  So when I saw this little girl with her knew kitten, it hit very close to home for me.

We all have these moments if we make the choice to look close enough at ourselves to see how connected we really are to people we may think we have nothing in common with, or think that we can’t relate to what they are going through, or don’t think we have anything to teach them.  All of this is to say, the reason I do what I do to help people discover what they love to do is because I have discovered what I love to do…

So here we are, back to me being my own client.  When I say I am my own client, I don’t want to misrepresent the fact that I have had many teachers, mentors and complete strangers along my path that have helped me discover my own purpose.  But I am my own client in the sense that once all those people are gone for the day, the moment or forever, I am the only one who can put those lessons into practice, to make the choices that will make my goals and dreams a reality.  No one can do it for me, and I am not here to do the work for you.  I am here to guide, challenge and support you just as I have been by individuals and experiences in my life.

To finish out my introductory blog to you, I want to leave you with a story about how all things I questioned about myself have manifested answers for me in the past 8 weeks and confirmed that I am going in the right direction.

Two months ago I was “released” from my job.  That is how it was presented to me, and in some ways it was very fitting because I felt like a prisoner.  I deeply cared about the organization that I was working for, but I did not agree with how the C-suite treated, responded and interacted with their employees.  Employees were talked about as burdens or ungrateful.  Just before I was “released” some changes were being made to address these issues, so they had at least acknowledged that there were issues.  Without all the fun details, ultimately I had expressed some thoughts about the changes that were going on and some situations that had come up to use as examples of why these changes to their employee policy were important.  My viewpoints were not appreciated and here we are today…

I have now started two new jobs.  A full-time and a part-time job in addition to my career coaching here!  And I could not be happier.  Both organizations that I have started with are a complete 180 from where I was, and not just my last employer, but any employer I’ve had…EVER!  The organizations VALUE their employees and they make it evident in all their operations, in their benefits packages, in their compensation, all throughout the organization.  And the best part…I get to help people!

In all my jobs, I get to help people.  I am a Health Education Assistant at a community college, so I get to help students register for courses to become a Paramedic or EMT, or take other courses for CPR, First Aid and even babysitting.

I am also a job coach for individuals with barriers to independence.  I get to support and encourage them as they work toward becoming independent in their employment and meeting their employer’s expectations.

And then there’s you.  You’ve gotten this far so maybe there’s a reason.  Maybe you’re thinking, “I do think I need a change.  Something just doesn’t feel right or feels a little off in my life, and I need some fresh perspective to sift through all of it with me.”  Well, that’s what I do best; evaluate, organize and support.  I may have lost my job eight weeks ago, but I found myself and a much happier fulfilled version.    And I will do everything I can to help you achieve that for yourself!

Please come back next month where I will dig deeper into how you can get started on your own transformational journey!

Until next month, wishing you many blessings.

Oh, and here is the link to that video with the little girl and her kitten.  Yes, I watched it again, and cried…again WATCH THE VIDEO 

 

Kari Rossetti is a Life Coach specializing in Career Exploration, Empowerment and Freedom.  She has been developing her skills informally over the past 5 years and recently discovered her calling to practice these natural skills professionally while challenging herself to grow and be the best coach she can.  She is obtaining her Professional Coaching Certificate in Personal and Executive Coaching in December 2017 from the Coaching and Positive Psychology Institute.  In her spare time she loves being in nature and playing with her family. She can’t wait to support you on your journey to freedom. Schedule a discovery session with the No Limits Life Empowerment Coordinator to learn more about working with Kari.