Create Your Personal Manifesto in less than 5 hours

What if you had a creed, a set of rules to live by, a list of ideals that focused your daily living and your lifestyle? And it would enable a level of simplicity in your life deeper than you have experienced so far in life.  You’d have a clear understanding of where you are and what support you as you move through the rest of this incarnation.

Sounds decent right?

What would YOU say if you captured the lessons learned, guideposts and truths in your life?  How long would it take you to capture them? Would there be hundreds?  Well, sure there would, if you captured each and every instance of them…but chances are if you looked a little deeper and sought the themes you’d find them.

Are you curious?

Let’s do it.  

Follow the steps below.  In the parenthesis are the recommended times to spend in each activity.

  1. Allocate a chunk of time each day for a week where you record the pivotal experiences and values in your life. (10-20 minutes x 7 days = 140 minutes max)
  2. Spend some time analyzing what you found. (30-45 minutes max)
  3. Document the themes. (10-15 minutes max)
  4. Study them, are these your truths and guideposts? As long as it takes.
  5. Create your manifesto. (60 minutes)

The 13 Principles of The Art of Living Dangerously is mine. It took me 2 decades and 10 minutes to figure them out.  2 decades of finding myself, getting lost and finding myself again. In the end, I worked through the steps above and my 13 Principles of The Art of Living Dangerously came tumbling out.

As it poured out, I realized that YES!  YES!  This is EXACTLY what I live my life based on.  YES!

And then I wanted to share it with all of you…

So I created a program around it and I started blogging around it a little bit.  And it felt vulnerable so I backed off and haven’t been saying much about it!  Crazy right? I have this super cool thing, I know you’ll love it and I know I do and I know it could serve you if I let it!

In fact, after I shared this with a group of corporate women…I had tremendous feedback from them!

No more holding back.  In the coming weeks I will be sharing more and more on this lifestyle touchstone list. I hope you enjoy it.

And by the way….

What would yours say? Email and let me know Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru

Life Coach Jennifer Murphy is the creator of The Art of Living Dangerously, a glass artist, a Co-Director of Vets THRIVE Foundation and passionate about helping others find and fulfill their passion. Learn more on www.nolimitslife.guru

Get a Clue! 3 ways to gain insight to your “More”

You want more out of life?

What is that more?

Don’t know?

Guess what? You are not alone.

Of all the reasons people seek my services, this vies for first place with those seeking business advice and services.

I partner with people to define the “more” they are seeking

and create the path make it real.

Let me demystify this a little for you; because it isn’t as hard as you might think, or as hard as you can make it.  Trust me, I know how to make things super hard.  I am good at complicating things.  If there were a kingdom called “making shite hard when it doesn’t have to be” I’d be The Queen.

Bumps and bruises earned along the way have served to convert me to the strong advocate for simplicity I am today.  Life doesn’t have to be so blessedly hard, answering the big questions need not require you to jump through a shed load of hoops and twirls.

Here are 5 ways to push through your own constructs of “can’t figure out my more” to “oh….there are some clues!”

  1. Levels of Fulfillment. Think about your life.  When do you feel most fulfilled?  Is it when you are helping someone?  What aspect of that in particular?

Example:  I found myself most fulfilled when I got to have conversations with people that resulted in specific action for them to take to better whatever dilemma they found themselves in.   Empty gripe sessions were not fun for me, they left me drained.  I didn’t want to just listen.  And I didn’t want to let anyone go without an action to take to move forward with whatever they were struggling with.

Think of your life and get specific – when, where, how do you feel most fulfilled?

  1. What did you want to do when you were 5? Or 10? Or 15? Clues can reside in our childhood. What called us when we were younger and less jaded by “expectation” or “reality” or limiting beliefs? What did we want before the programming consumed us?

Example: At age 8 my son wants to be “an Army, a soccer player and a police”  His energy is craving the variety, the not being confined, the being active energy that these roles represent to him.  He also has a strong sense of justice and team behavior.  As he ages, the “what” this manifests into may change, but I can see the energies remaining and maturing into what he does with his life.

Go back to those childhood dreams – what energies were you connecting to?

  1. I wish I could…statements. Create a series of “I wish I could….” Then fill in the blanks. You don’t HAVE TO do them, but if you let your imagination and your inner guru guide you in these, you may find that you surprise yourself.

Example:

I wish I could write a book.

I wish I could work out every day.

I wish I could connect people with their purpose.

I wish I could get people to see how to just be who they want to be.

And so on.

Create an entry in your journal, set a timer for at least 5 minutes and create a series of I wish I could statements.  Be open to what flows out, no judging, just writing!  

Those three are decent ways to get started on shaking out some clues to your “what is my more?” answers. To go further, claim your free Confusion to Clarity Strategy Session with me and let’s explore more ways to discover your more.

Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, glass artist, creator of The Art of Living Dangerously.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Who Feeds First in Your World?

I woke up tired.  I was not excited to greet the day, the tasks before me fell flat without glitter or shine or attraction.

I knew immediately something was off and it took me about 2 seconds to figure out I needed to find some time to feed myself.

One of The 13 Principles of The Art of Living Dangerously is to Feed Yourself First.  I live by these principles based on hard won experience in creating the life I Love.

To feed yourself first means that you fill your physical, mental and energetic reservoirs so that you have what you need to meet your obligations and give to others when called upon.  When you are running on empty, what do you have to give others?  You have empty, you have nothing.

Yet, again and again we find ourselves saying yes when resent it, or at the very least dread it.  We commit, then overcommit to activities, obligations and money. We live beyond the capacity of our bank accounts, hours in the day and energy.  Some perverse logic tells us that the busier we are, the better we are. Or the more “stuff” we have the more important we are.

Bogus.

It is bogus thinking.  It is damaged thinking, bred from the battle lines of social media, the expectations of “everyone” and our belief that someone else’s opinion of us is more important than our own sense of authenticity, health and happiness.  So yeah, I call BOGUS on the idea that more is better and instead argue that when you feed yourself first, you can decide better when you have had enough.  When you let people force feed you or rip “food” from your hand, you are not empowered. You have given away your power.

It’s time to take it back and feed yourself, own your actions and decide what is right for you.

That was my conclusion when I woke that day, tired, grumpy and out of sorts. That night I had a session with a fellow practitioner and confessed my state of mind and realization that I was over committing, taking on things that I didn’t need to and inviting illness if I kept on.  I shared the example that earlier that day, in a part time job I hold, I agreed to work extra hours in a month that I sure as heck won’t have time to offer…as a knee jerk response.

When I committed to this path of mine, I had spiritual surgery to remove the spring in my ass popping me up to volunteer for everything in sight. As I heard myself saying yes to my boss, I wondered if it had somehow grown back in the night without my knowing.

I asked for my colleagues help in, once more, removing it and stepping back into my on philosophy that said I deserve to be taken care of at least as well as I care for others.

So this morning, I spent curled up with a magazine, a good cup of coffee and simply enjoyed for a while.  I ignored the pile of work, I ignored the emails, I ignored the “should” popping up and then ignored the initial extreme discomfort that ensued when I sat down.

As I turned pages, sipped at the brew and breathed deep into my soul, I felt stress and strain slip away, I felt my internal power system coming back online. It felt AMAZING!

When was the last time you fed yourself?

If it has been a while, here are a few things to consider:

  1. It won’t be convenient. Pick a time and do it.  It won’t fit nicely, you will have to say no to something else.  Remember that no is a complete sentence. Practice: No.
  2. This is for you to refuel and recharge. You’d advise a good friend if they were in a similar state right?? Treat yourself at least as well as you’d treat that friend.
  3. Keep it simple. You don’t need anyone else to take time for you. Yeah, a massage or a mani/pedi would be cool, but just go for a walk sans cell phone or partner. Grab coffee and a good book or mag. Do what you want to do, but would “normally” feel guilty indulging in. (Note: Guilt is not an emotion to let be normal.)
  4. Screw the guilt. Seriously.  Who told you that you couldn’t?  Who told you not to?  Who told you that you don’t deserve it?  I call BOGUS again.  Guilt is useless in this exercise.  Be stronger, push past that lie you tell yourself and let guilt be replaced by satisfaction and energy.
  5. Enjoy it. Take a deep breath and enjoy.
Why is this important?

Doing this will bring your energies to bear on what you want, instead of what you feel you “should” want.

  • What you want is to meet and dominate your calling, purpose, path, or whatever you want to call it.
  • What you “should” want is what you think others want you to pursue.

I’d love to hear how you feed yourself. What is the activity you deny yourself most often, that you wish you had more time for and feel guilty for wanting it?

Be honest…

Read this Before you Dismiss your Dreams Again

Today I got to see me a few years ago, not in any one person, but in many.  Of course, it got me thinking…let me share:

Some would be surprised to know that my default is introvert.  I would rather be alone or with a few I truly trust – which is only a few – than a roomful of people.

I love to observe people rather than participate with them.  As a species we are interesting.  Simply fascinating.

But wow, interacting with my clients, my groups and the places I get to go speak and deliver workshops is so powerful!  When you are with the right group…interacting the THE BEST.

Outside of those situations, it is often, really often, that I find myself not quite a part of what is going on.  I don’t mind.  I see it most keenly when I am at my son’s activities because the rest of the time, I tend to be with people more like me: wandering, seeking, creative spirits who want to be authentic and real.

I welcome the separateness I feel.

It’s not that the people I see when I am at my son’s activities aren’t that…it’s just that in general, they are more like the life I took action to move away from than the life I have now.  My life isn’t for everyone.  It is for me and I love it.  I love my life.  I love the randomness, I love the creativity, the lack of a 9-5, the sometimes unstable nature that has me wondering where that next grocery trip is coming from.

While to some it would feel chaotic, to me, it is simple.  There is a simplicity in doing what I love. My soul sighs in love for me as I do it.

I spent today watching people as we went to a soccer tournament, me and my squeak.  I saw the new vehicles, the workout gear never sweated in, the mass produced jewelry, the china made goods, the GMO laden food…I saw my former life reflected in many people around me.  It just is no longer my choice.

As we drove down to the games, my son and I were talking about how his brothers ate when they were home versus him.  It startled me to be reminded of a time when I was trying to feed my family well, making that transition, but hadn’t yet heard of the local Co-op.  I wondered how many people fit that description today. 

I wondered how many would say they are looking for more and better for themselves and struggling to find it.  Because the “it” is not yet defined for them.

A few key questions come to mind: 

 1. How do you define your “it”?

The “it” is personal, it is carnal, it is real and it is scary sometimes.  It can be real scary to know that your life does not suck, but that you know it can be different and be even better.

2. But what is that path to get there?  How do you navigate that? 

We all have that potential for more within us. We all can discover what “it” is in our lives and go after it.

Many who want to be coaches and inspirationalists find themselves in this boat.  “I have an idea, I want to help people, I want my life to be more…BUT” ….and then fill in the blank.  It might be time, money, others taking priority or lack of confidence. Or maybe something else for you?

3. If you can’t make time to live your dream, how do you think that inspires others?

What I find it really boils down to a true lack of order and clarity in your own life if this is you.  Once our own house begins to find order order, once we start the actions to clear away the self imposed chaos, we can find that direction and pursue it with a vengeance…as if angels carried our bags and forged ahead of us marking the path.

4. What needs to be put in order in your house? 

For me, one things was to reconcile with the fact that I enjoy being separate.  I don’t have to be the center of attention to feel valid.  I can be separate and still support my son. I can interact with others but not participate in what doesn’t agree with me.  I can disagree respectfully and not engender hatred.  I can own my decisions.

What is boils down to is truly loving who I have become.

Do you?

You can get to know you and love you if you don’t. Start with the intention to do so and allow the actions come in to your life. Most of us need to increase the time we spend with just us.  Book an hour for just you this week.

Immediately all the reasons that is too hard may have just spring up.  Too bad.  Push through them.  Is this important to you or not?  Do you believe you deserve this or not? 

If you don’t, then even more you need to force this time for you into your life.

Do it and let me know how it felt! 

Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, glass artist, creator of The Art of Living Dangerously.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Who is the Coach on Your Field?

I sat there listening to them scream at their players, berating their efforts, directing them and distracting them.  *Caution it’s about to get petty*….They had the look of high school about them with matching outfits complete with t-shirts pulled tight against their post baby pooches familiar in the kind of mom who lost the weight but isn’t in shape. *you were warned*   Their kids were exasperated and other parents got up and moved.  My son leaned into me to whisper, “gawd that’s annoying, I am so glad that isn’t you.”

Am I being judgmental?  You betcha.  I own that completely. 

I own that I probably shouldn’t care about the ridiculous outfits.  It isn’t something that needs to occupy real estate in my awareness. Nor is it any of my business. In reality, I thinks it’s cool to just be who you are.

But we all have those moments of petty judgment and being slightly (or more) bitchy.  So I release that, apologize for my thoughts and any pain they cause.

What I cannot let go it with is the constant distraction as they tried to “coach” from the sidelines.

Allow me to go a little deeper with this and let’s see if we can’t figure it out. 

I invested, took another job even, to commit my son to a Futbol Club for soccer.  Club soccer provides a professional coaching staff, discipline and training beyond what any parent coach can provide.

Example from practice recently: it was hard for me to sit in my sideline chair as my son was disciplined and made to sit out for a time because of, what I later learned, was his disrespectful behavior.  In the moment, I decided to trust the coach. I am glad I did.

This club is entrusted with the most precious thing in my life and I am asking him to invest in himself by playing and learning as hard as he can.  And I am asking the club to return that investment to him.  So why would I get in the middle of that?  And why would these parents feel like they need to?

I think the moment of clarity around this actually happened prior to this particular experience with these parents.  During the first game of the day, our staff coach had argued a little with the teenage referee.  He said, “these guys are u9 and this is a teaching experience, let’s cut a little slack and teach instead of penalize.”

So yeah, lighten up mom – all of us. Yeah, me too.

It is also a real metaphor for life. 

Where are you in your own growth pattern?

Do you think you already know it all?  Are you placing too many “should’s” on yourself?  Are there too many directors in your life? Do you need to figure out what mistake you made and learn how to never do it again? What lesson are you learning right now, what lesson is spirit teaching you?

A good coach helps you figure that out – whether you are on the soccer pitch or the field of life. My coaches helped me and continue to help me see the lessons before me and how I can get better at being me. If you want to keep leveling up, keep doing more and being more – you have to know where your direction is coming from. An awareness develops and the growth in inner confidence and the inner guru voice helps when those moments of sideline commentary appear (and sometimes that sideline commentary is the voice in my head) – I can decide, I get to choose whether I pay attention or not.

So where are you in your growth pattern?  Are there external voices you need to shut off? Are there patterns or lessons that keep repeating that you need to cut off energy to? What different action do you need to take now to move to the next level in your life?

If you aren’t sure, I can help you if you take the action of accepting my invitation for a complimentary 30 minute confusion to clarity strategy session.  We’ll get clear on what you want, what holds you back and talk about how you can move past it. Click here to accept.

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  (and get free stuff) Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

Who are You to Want More? (who are you to NOT want more?!)

“Oh, I wish I could…”

Stop that, you don’t get to think that way, you don’t get to “wish”.  You have responsibilities, commitments, a good job, a great house, all the trappings of success from the outside looking in.  You don’t need more, why are you wishing for it?

You have more than the average person, you don’t need to look further, be happy with your choices, stay the course, stay safe and secure and for pete’s sake don’t risk anything. 

The quandary of the person who has achieved success, who has found the lifestyle they envisioned as a young adult.  This is the quandary of the person who realizes this might not be enough and feels guilty for dreaming.

Some programming along the way has led us to feel guilty for wanting to answer the call for the spiritual “more” in life.  We have the material foundation we want, we checked all the blocks spelling success, but our soul, our insides whisper our need for more.  And maybe we feel gluttonous.  Who are we to want more?

Who are you to not?  Who are you to not go for more, to not pursue the whispers of your soul?  Why would you sacrifice a calling from within for a chemically treated lawn?

Life doesn’t have to suck to want to go for more.  Conversely, you don’t have to chuck away all of your hard earned work and security to follow the calling from within.

To make it work though, you have to listen.  You have to pay attention to what is important and focus,  letting go of everything else.  It starts with alignment.  It is with this idea in mind, I created my Align Your Life Boot Camp kicking off September 7th.  Super early bird pricing is in effect until August 2 and then it goes up to early bird of $97 through August 26th and full price of $197 until kickoff day.

It can be hard to transition your life away from what is currently demanding your resources to a less defined more spiritual pursuit of creating and following the path of who you truly want to be: the artist, the spiritual explorer, the business owner, the service provider, the less rigid and material lifestyle liver.

Whatever you want, if it is different at all from your current daily existence, it takes focus, planning and consistent action over time.

My 2 week boot camp is reinforced by 1 year of continued support in monthly calls, emails and a private facebook group.  So you don’t have to do 2 weeks and be done, you can continue to draw support and get your foundation solidly constructed for this new lifestyle you want.

I could not have gone from a six figure corporate income, married with multiple properties and cars to self-employed, single and living simply, without support.   My coach, my group programs and my consistent actions from them kept me focusing and moving forward.

I wanted it, I took action and I have been living it.

You can too.

Check out Align Your Life Boot Camp if you want to learn more.

To move forward now, try one new thing.  A diet or physical activity shift for example.  If you want to eat healthier try a simple move like adding one vegetable or fruit to your diet daily.  To increase physical activity, simply take a walk every day.  Small actions can lead to big ones when you act consistently.

What action will you take?

Jennifer Murphy of No Limits Life is a glass artist, life coach and founder of The Art of Living Dangerously Group and Private Coaching programs. She partners with aspiring creative and conscious entrepreneurs to conquer what holds them back from cultivating their ideas to create their purposefully aligned and prosperous lifestyle. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru

Conquering Chaos, Let’s Do This.

A sports team meeting put on the wrong night of the calendar, a payment programmed in on the wrong week, late everywhere you go, tired and short tempered, feeling perpetually behind, a list of “somedays” a mile long and the constant demand for more from those around you.

Does this sound familiar?

Do you ask yourself, “what the F&^&% am I thinking? Where is my head?”

Is your inner bully voice in his or her element enjoying this opportunity to throw salt on the beat down you are giving yourself?

If this isn’t you, stop reading now. If you have NEVER done this stop reading now.

Stop reading now and go apply for sainthood, or the better than everyone else award, cause you stinking rock.

But for the rest of us….yeah, let’s talk.

I was exactly as described above this week.  My son was horrified when we went to the girl’s soccer team meeting for his club last night instead of the boy’s team which had been the previous night.  I was late EVERYWHERE yesterday, a payment hit my personal account I had no idea was coming and threw my carefully planned finances all out of whack and you can imagine what that did for my emotional well- being…ugh.

It sucks to feel that way.  The fatigue that normal living induces gets amplified by roughly a gazillion at that point (I am assured by my kid that a “gazillion” is not a number but I am using it anyway, ya know…for dramatic effect).

Last night was the new moon and an excellent time just start fresh.  So I thought about what I know about moving out of this energy, because it isn’t normal for me.  I don’t live in this energy on a regular basis, and you don’t have to either.  Let’s get past it together shall we?

  1. Stop looking outside yourself.

I texted my best friend and partner in most things and asked him to give me boost. “Tell me I will figure all this out” I asked.  Well, he didn’t and I was momentarily pretty torqued.  I wanted him to solve this for me, and at the very least tell me I was going to be okay. My inner 4 year old was ready to go self- righteous temper tantrum all over the place.

Having a cheerleader and support system is awesome and I advocate it.  But they can’t give you false energy.  He had no idea if I would figure it out.  It wasn’t kosher to ask him to do that.  I have to figure it out.  That energy comes from inside me, and it is within you.

Go within and commit to releasing the chaos energy.  Release it from within and then others can support you with their love and affection.  Others can only support what you are willing to do for  yourself – they can’t do it for you.

I love to use Release Essential Oil by Young Living at these times to support me releasing the self-induced trauma and blocks. Focus on what you want to feel, how you want to be living and operating in your life and take the immediate action to get there. A conversation with your coach can help further guide you.

  1. Take a break.

In the midst of chaos the temptation is great to “do more”. More of whatever it is creating the chaos gets you….yeah, more chaos. Good luck with that approach. I’ll see you in the looney bin.

Instead STOP. Just STOP.  Stop pushing, stop pulling, stop powering through and evaluate where you are. Take a nap, play, binge watch your favorite bad TV, immerse yourself in a book, go for a walk. But STOP your current energy stream.

I spent last night reading book 11 in the Black Dagger Brotherhood series. If you love to escape with paranormal action romance and haven’t read this series, check it out and start from the beginning. Super fun.

Before you get too distracted with muscled fanged hotties and cool fight scenes, focus on my point: You must interrupt the current icky flow to start a fresh one.

Once you have interrupted the flow, you can refocus with fresh perspective. What needs to change? What can you no longer tolerate, what can you shift your approach to? What action do you need to take?

  1. Commit.

This can be the hardest.  Now you have to commit to doing it different.

After my vampire indulgence and a good night’s sleep, I got clear on how to do today.   I committed to today being different.  And so far, I am on track and it feels good.  I have been on time, been productive, said ‘no’ where I need to and been present in the moment.  This feels more like me.

Notice I didn’t commit to the unending future. I committed to today. Today, this moment, is where you are – be there and commit to there.

Tomorrow, commit again and renew your commitment every single day. Commitment to living the life you want is not a one and done thing. It is an everyday agreement.

Every day, sit with yourself and agree to live with intention, as your authentic self guides you to live and commit to progress.

These are my simple steps to conquering chaos in the short or long term.  You can use these in the moment and every single day to live in the present.

As I shared, sometimes you fall off the wagon.  Sometimes you find yourself caught in the chaos spiral and living in a pretty crazy energy. Well…get your crazy on and then be done with it; fire up the conquering energy and burn down crazy town.

Live Dangerously, Be You

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  (and get free stuff) Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

What does Living Dangerously have to do with Life Coaching?

A life coach is about organizing your life, getting on track, finding your purpose, having someone hold you accountable when you can’t seem to do it by yourself. Right?

Living dangerously is about being a dare devil, jumping out of airplanes, cliff diving and extreme sports. Right?

Not from where I stand.

While those things are true, there is also more to the story.

I was walking up to my favorite deli a few weeks ago and was hailed with “Hey Jenn, How’s living dangerously these days?!”  A colleague from one of my networking groups happened to be standing by and he said, “That’s interesting, what does life coaching have to do with living dangerously?”

My passion flared, I felt myself grow larger (and slightly snarky if I am honest – how dare someone not get it?!), with my response that the two have everything to do with each other.  Everything.

A brief discussion ensued about my deli pal’s new business venture and how he was going for it – following his dream. And his dream isn’t the safe path, it’s a little dangerous.  The challenge to my philosophy from my colleague was answered without my intervention. My snarky beast went back to her cave.

Our true callings, our soul’s purpose, our life path is often not the safe, protected, always secure course in life. But, it feels more right than anything else we could possibly do once we muster the courage to embrace it.

There was a time I was a dreamer, I had big plans, I spoke of them, I planned and re-planned them.  I wanted them with an ache in my heart. And I settled.  I wanted to travel the world, be a veterinarian, a lawyer, a writer, a gypsy.  I wanted to live in a big city and a cabin in the woods – I wanted to explore this world we live in. And I settled.

I went to a local college instead of going away as I wanted. But then the universe answered me and I went into the military.  Certainly not a safe path as 9/11 struck and I was carried off to combat zones along with so many others.

I got to live a portion of my dream from there forward, but it wasn’t the full embodiment.  I did travel, I went places, I explored, I had mini adventures.  But deep inside I knew it wasn’t me.

Does this sound familiar?  Are you holding back somewhere in your life? Is there a part of you that remains unfulfilled even though parts are sublimely wonderful?

This is where coaching overlaps with living dangerously. 

That sharp pain in your soul that says “this is not enough” is the part of you wants to be dangerous, that wants to stop settling and go for the big dream.  It is the part that wants to create the lifestyle that you dream of and stop saying someday.

Someday energy is soul crushing energy.

To embrace the dream, to answer your soul’s calling can feel like the most dangerous thing you have ever done.

In the moment of acceptance of this calling, you can feel all alone.  You can feel like no one will get it, like you are the first or the only to do this.

While your journey is unique – of course it is, it is yours – you are not alone. You do not have to make the leap of courage and faith alone, this is where coaching does help.

I chose this focus in coaching because without my coach, I don’t know that I’d have come to the crossroads and made the turn down the dangerous path as quickly as I did.  I could have kept ignoring the call longer and gotten more discontent, more unhealthy from stress and fatigue, ignore more of the opportunities before me and continued to shrink to fit perceived expectations from external sources.

You don’t have to do this.  I believe you don’t and I believe there is an art to making this all work in your life that you don’t have to fumble through alone.

Coaching and living dangerously go hand in hand.  The coach is the guide, drill sergeant and healer in your corner as you create the fresh canvas of your lifestyle which embraces your true calling and purpose.

Try this:

  1. Create a limitless living list: set a timer for 5 minutes and write down everything you want to do and be in this life time.
  2. Acknowledge where you are taking action on any of it now.
  3. Be honest about how you feel about the action you are taking – are you settling?
  4. Is where you are okay? If it is, take no action. You are fine, be content and be well.
  5. Do you want different? If yes, then I encourage you to schedule a confusion to clarity strategy session with me where we can look at what different is and ways to get different energy moving in your life.

To pursue who and what you want to be is perhaps the most dangerous move you can make – it is vulnerable, it is real and it requires courage to accept and embrace it.  Your authentic true calling is within you waiting to be discovered and you deserve to become that energy.

Live Dangerously, Be You.

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

3 Ways to Work the Hustle for Determined Entrepreneurs

There was this musician my former husband and I really liked. When we’d hear of her playing in town with her band, we’d make a point go and enjoy.  She was a little grungy, a lot talented and played rock like it came straight from her soul’s connection to spirit.

One day, my then husband came home from working in one of the neighboring cities and he shared he had seen our favorite musician working at a sandwich shop near his work site. We were surprised, we had seen her only in her element, working her guitar and pushing her passion through to the audience. Making sandwiches seemed…weird. And truthfully, it made us uncomfortable.  I wondered if she was embarrassed at having to work another job, and what was happening with her music if it wasn’t supporting her?

I could not have been more clueless.

My life at this point had me making a six figure income and combined incomes had us pushing multiple 6 figures.  We had little worry about in the material realm and tended to be extravagant.  The tips we’d give musicians, artists, servers and the like were simply part of our lifestyle, what as expected. Though we had both grown up without much, we had become accustomed to having.

She was simply working the hustle.

I didn’t know it at the time, but seeing our musician on both sides – the stage and the sandwich shop – it was water on the seed of my own calling.

Since then, life has gotten different. I have returned to my roots in many ways and created new ones in so many more. In the course of creating 5 businesses, and closing three of those, I have learned a few things about following your calling as a business and what it can take sometimes to keep the faith and do what it takes to work the hustle.

  1. A part time job can be your best friend.

I recently took two.  One is very synergistic with my coaching –the lead coach in The Wealth Creation Institute for Intuitive Business Coach Michael Mapes.  I lead the WCI social media group and do the private coaching appointments for the group.  The second is as a merchandiser where I stock a company’s product in a store account.  It is oddly fun and I get a unique experience of watching all sorts of people at all kinds of hours. Observing humans IS my favorite spectator sport.

The first time I ran into someone I knew when I was doing my merchandising job, I was embarrassed.  I was embarrassed and wondered if they’d react to me the same way I reacted to my musician those years ago.  And then I kicked my inner bully to the curb and embraced what I was really doing: Whatever it takes to keep pursuing my dream and gathering experience along the way.

Both of these jobs provide me incredible insight and perspective I can use in my writing, in my glass, in my own growth and in my practice. In a choice between abandoning my calling and doing what it takes to keep going, I choose keep going. I believe so heartily in my calling to partner with others, to inspire others to create the life they love, and creating functional glass art, that I will do what it takes to keep moving it forward – working the hustle. 

  1. Haters gonna Hate

Yep, you will have naysayers. There will be voices in your life that attempt to crush your energy.  Usually these voices fall into one of two categories: people who are too afraid to do it themselves or people who are faking following their dream and are afraid of exposure through the mirror of your authenticity.

These people can be both in your face and passive aggressive.  In both cases your reaction is the same: keep going.  Keep pursuing what you want, they only get the power you give them and you can choose to give them none.

There is a third hater voice you might hear, your own inner bully. Overcoming this hater can be the hardest because it goes right for your deepest insecurities.  This is exactly where external perspective of a coach or another trusted source can be vital to keep you on track.

  1. Focus equals flourish. Fear equals failure.

Where you focus flourishes, it will grow under your attention and nurturing.  This is important because if you are focusing on the administrative side of your business only, you will not grow sales or gain clients through marketing.  If you are an artist and all you do is create and never showcase your work or go public with it for sale,  you will never sell it. There are multiple pieces of the puzzle of being in business for yourself and each must be focused on in turn.

Fear is a terrible decision maker.  Inaction in the face of fear is tantamount to failure.  When you let fear take the driver’s seat, your focus on everything else becomes moot. Fear may be always present, what matters is the role it plays in your life.  Is it the muscle bound monkey on your back, or is it the fly buzzing around, the one you can smack with a proper swatter?

You choose what you focus on.  As I work multiple jobs these days, this has become crucial. To line up what I need to focus on and when I smack fear down and simply focus.  I am present whichever job I am working: merchandising, coaching in my practice, coaching for someone else, working in my studio on my torch, or parenting my son.  I have to be ruthlessly present, ruthlessly focused and passionately dedicated to doing the best I can in each place.

What does all this mean to you? Well, where are you? Where do you find the parallel in what I described above?

Meditate or journal with these questions if you are a dedicated entrepreneur who sees him or herself in the words above: 

  1. Would a part time job enable me to continue to pursue my calling?
  2. Who are the naysayers in my life and how can I make them less effective?
  3. What am I focusing on? Is it getting me where I want to be? What action can I take now to shift the energy and the results?

Hustle is hustle, it is energy and focus and motion and taking action.  Your actions define you more than  your words, much more. Your calling demands action from you, working the hustle however it manifests.  There are many more aspects to working the hustle – what are yours?

If you need help getting your hustle on track grab a free 30 minute confusion to clarity strategy session on my website at www.nolimitslife.guru

Comment below or email me at Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru

Are you a Cliff Jumper? Or a Trail Taker?

Neither is wrong – whether you are a dive right in, feel the rush as you take the plunge kind of person, or if you want to take the longer, less abrupt trail to creating the life you crave. Both paths can get you exactly where you want to be.

Sometimes, it takes both paths to get you there – a walk down the trail on the side of the mountain until you get to just the right ledge to leap from.

I jumped into coaching with my coach in 2010.  It was 2 years later that I made the more profound leap into the life I really wanted to be living.  I took the slower, winding trail for while, discovering the nooks and crannies of my life and exploring what was working and what wasn’t. I became very well acquainted with who I was and what I was dealing with.  Because of this, when I reached the right ledge, I saw it for exactly what it was and I was ready to jump.

Both took courage.

It takes courage to get ruthlessly honest with yourself and see what is working and what isn’t.

For some of us, we need to ease into our dream and do it over time. For some of us, we prefer the band aid approach – just go for it, quickly. As I shared, I did both.

So which are you? Or perhaps a better question is this: which is the right approach for you right now? They are both action, which action do you chose?

The third option is a non-starter, inaction.  Inaction sucks as a vehicle for creating the lifestyle you truly want.  No more space to be wasted on this idea.

The Cliff Jumper:

Cliff jumpers tend to be impulsive.  You leap and figure out how to safely land while in mid-air. This can be a legitimate approach in many situations and has served me well more than once.

Cliff jumping energy gets unnecessarily dangerous when done without thought.

Cliff jumping energy is always dangerous, but that danger is positive and a propellant when done consciously and with intent.  When you understand the leap you are making, you have looked at the possible positive and negative outcomes and you have a plan in mind for what happens next – leap away.

This energy is very positive and supportive for people who are ready for change now.  Like right now, yesterday now. You can’t stand one more minute of the same. Something needs to change and you are ready for whatever it is.  This was the energy I hired my coach with – I needed change and I needed it to start now.

The Trail Taker:

Trail Takers tend to be gatherers of experience. While they also want a change, they want to go at it with either more caution, or over a period of time.  Perhaps there are already energies in motion to create the ledge for them and they need to understand the plan for the leap, or there is need to figure out who they are and what they really want from a leap.

Trail Takers need to build a foundation and an understanding of who they are and what they are doing.

Then they become cliff jumpers when their right ledge appears.

Which are you?

  1. Spend some time with the question in journaling or meditation.
  2. Go for a walk in the woods and pay attention to how you respond to the walk. Are you anxious to get to the end, or are you enjoying the path?
  3. Get an assessment: claim your Confusion to Clarity Strategy Session with me and let’s figure out if you are a cliff jumper or a trail taker and what you can do about it.

If you crave some change, if your soul is calling for something more, knowing which energy is serving you to create that more is one step toward finding it. It can feel dangerous to answer this call, courage is the antidote to fear.  You can feel the fear and do it anyway – be courageous.

Live Dangerously, Be You.

Learn more about Life Coach, Glass Artist and Creator of The Art of Living Dangerously (un)Program,  Jennifer Murphy at www.nolimitslife.guru