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The Orange Table Awakening

What is so damn important about an orange table?

My table is bright, gorgeous, outrageous orange…as of last weekend. I have no idea what color this table was when it was born, but it was a poo brown when I bought it at goodwill for five bucks to serve as a holder for my son’s new gold fish murder scene, I mean tank (No need to go into that debacle here).  
Recently I realized keeping that table poo brown was a symbol of continued connection to my old, boring, expected life – the one I did all I could to disembowel back in 2012. I despised seeing that connection in some ways: I was still toeing the “what will other people think” belief system and I truly wanted to gouge that part of me out immediately, never to see it again. But in my moment of sickness and disgust, I had to wonder if maybe some of you freedom seekers are also still toeing that same line in undiscovered ways like me. Maybe you have a “poo brown table” in your life you need to colorize to reveal the real you.

At this point we can safely divide into a few mindsets with respect to this idea:

1. Those of you that are done with this idea as of right now: grasping exactly what I mean because of where you are in your own evolution and you have “evolved enough” to “go it alone” (snicker). You need not one more drop of my nonsense and know it.

2. Others of you are just so over the self-help bullshit that you are sick of finding symbolism in everything and seeing it as a metaphor for the shit you need to shift, change, give up or heal. You are ready to gag on your own consumption of crap that isn’t actually getting to the core of the “more” you are seeking and are looking for something truly different.

3. And some of you want to identify, know you are not alone and discover another layer of your own growth and experience as a human right now. You suspect that perhaps this information will bring about our collective vibrational raising. So you, the truly curious freedom seeker are leaning in with a conspiratorial “tell us more”. And chances are – you know exactly what your personal poo brown table is right this moment.

I am talking to all of you – all you reflections of me, of each other and our varying attitudes based on everything we are. I think if you are REALLY wanting to forge your path, discover what is holding you back and kick the shit out of it, allowing yourself to move into that energy that is truly yours to keep growing in…well, we are one. So let’s keep going and see if we can find our connection in the rest of this story:

For this table, my son is my muse. As he chose colors for his bedroom at his dad’s newly constructed house, he picked some super bright amazingly gorgeous colors: Obstinate Orange, Blue Sky and Sassy Green. With these we created a couple of bold murals in his room to reflect his passion and joy for life.

Mo and Squeak Create Color


Since then, the leftover orange called my name. My most recent move had me craving color in my home – real, bold color for the first time since I left the beige drenched world of the suburbs. A bright green couch had answered the call, a peacock patterned love seat had flown in, my blue console requested a move home from its studio tour, and my bright orange elephant statue was honoring its place as the original color splash in my home.

The poo brown table begged to shine. As I looked at it in the blooming surroundings, I realized the basic browns that had defined my home for so long were being replaced. I was taken back to a shopping trip from times past where I waved my then husband over to look at something and before he even got to see it he said “lemme guess, it’s brown.” At the time, I staunchly defended my safety net of blending and conforming. But now, I am in a time and place where brown no longer feels safe.

4 coats later, that poo brown was gone. In its place stood a bright shining orange table accenting my peacock couch, and I felt like me was reflected in my home. Every time I walk into that new apartment home of mine, I see all the colors I love so much and I am at home: spiritually, physically and emotionally, for the first time in perhaps years. It is my energy and my home.

I had to release my attachment to that old brown table which was that part of me that still believed there was some safety in normal. In layering those coats of paint I was confronted by a few other formerly “safe” attachments I didn’t realize were still there such as:

1. The corporate path is THE path to financial security.

2. Your home should reflect what others think of you before what you truly want for yourself.

3. Relentlessly meet expectations – regardless of how they manifest: be the “spiritual” person, coach the way everyone else does, follow formulas of the “uber successful”, continue to rely on the past as guidance and boundaries

4. Same is safe. Change is not safe.

5. There is a mythical someone external to my truth watching my every move and judging me to be authentic or inauthentic. And somehow this matters.

Yeah, I totally get how ridiculous all of this seems, but as I layered those coats of orange an equal measure of stripping away was taking place in my awareness. I became aware that I was in violation of my own belief system – still. I still have growth to achieve in this forging my own path way of life I have begun and the next step to take was releasing those horrid ideas that still had a tether to my being. Buh-bye.

So my orange table is, for now, a symbol of commitment to my warrior’s path of fighting for me and my own beliefs and discovering what is real for me and what isn’t. My path isn’t yours, but my passion is centered on supporting you seekers as you create yours, so here are some questions to consider:

What is your poo brown to orange table? What is the symbol in your life of a belief that needs to be examined, overhauled and adjusted to a new truth, a new normal, a new safe or a new way of life for you? I’d love to hear about it. Email me at Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru to share and maybe I’ll feature your story in an upcoming post!

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave. To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Do You Work Your Life, or Does Life Work You? by Don Marlette

Every day you wake up and promise yourself that you’re going to live today to the fullest, and not let  your fears hold you back. You decide to do the tasks you’ve been putting off forever, deal with the assignment that’s been nagging you for the last two weeks, but –  somewhere along the way – you lose your nerve.   You keep postponing things and making excuses for all the wrong things that happen in your life.

And so it goes.  Every.  Day.

How do you take charge of your life?

Our culture’s conviction is that there must some technique, secret or product that, when applied properly, will make all our dreams come true and make us eager for the next step in our path.  The truth is there is no secret at all.  There is no magic system, seminar or ritual that will instantly erase your fears and zap you into your best life ever.  It’s really not a question of “how” to do anything!

We’re asking the wrong question.  Instead of asking “how” to take charge of your life, it is better to ask what kind of response life is asking of you from the outset.  Just as a child “out of control” is sometimes simply asking to be heard, your life may be asking you to stop and listen to your heart for a moment.

Actions to take charge of one’s life often fail because they are not inspired actions.  Think about when you’ve fallen in love.  Did you go out and buy the book, “The 8 Habits of Twitterpated Lovers” or “How To Enjoy the Person You’re Head-Over-Heels In Love With”?  No way!  Love itself seemed to take over, and you followed a mindset of inspired action that seemed to pull you effortlessly from one idea or action to the next.

The same is true about your life.  Life is not a project; it’s a love affair!  We spend far too much time building monuments bereft of meaning and fixing problems that are best left to someone else, all in the name of being “busy”, rather than taking inspired action from a heartfelt call.

You are not asked by life to “work on” things, to create personal growth projects or construct role-based goals, ideals and aspirations simply for their own sake.  Instead, you are asked to fall in love with life, allow your hopes and dreams to emerge from a passion-driven heart, and take inspired actions to make these hopes and dreams a reality.

The first step toward living from that passionate state is the most important.  Stop.  Find a quiet place with your journal and a pen.  Close your eyes and focus inward.  Listen to your heart’s call.  What is it saying to you at its deepest level?

The next step is to take an honest inventory of your life right now.  What is working in harmony with that call?  What is working against it?  And then be brutally honest with yourself: Are you willing to let go of those things that are in working against your heart’s deepest longing?

Finally, ask your heart what two or three actions you can take over the next week to make its desires a reality.  Listen carefully and note those actions.  Make a commitment to do them, realizing that these are inspired, soul-driven actions with a higher purpose.  You will quickly realize that these actions are things you really want to do, because they lead you to a life you actually want to have.

As you accomplish each action, celebrate it.  After all, this is not busywork; you are taking meaningful steps toward a soul-realized life!

Once you actually experience the energy and joy from moving toward who you really are, other inspired actions will start to emerge into your awareness.  Now I won’t lie to you: challenges will come your way at times.  Yet, you will be able to face these challenges, knowing that you are aligned with a greater purpose, and this alignment will give you the insight, energy and resolve to overcome those obstacles with creativity and focus.

 

Ready to move forward with your heartfelt life?  Don Marlette can help.  Sign up for a free 30 minute consult and learn more about Don Marlette and the entire No Limits Life team at http://www.nolimitslife.guru