I’M SO OVER…EVERYONE…

My inner bitch goes on a rampage sometimes, and it’s kinda fun. Seriously, if you could hear my inner dialogue at times, you would seriously wonder if I even like people.

 

The answer is sometimes.

 

But sometimes, I am so over everyone…I just can’t.

 

I can’t listen to one more story of learned helplessness.

 

I can’t deal with one more poor me my Mercedes is dirty rant.

 

I can’t watch one more beneficiary of privilege bemoaning the state of the world while sipping a double non-fat, no whip pumpkin spice whatever. (And I don’t even get the whole pumpkin spice fascination, I mean I love pumpkin but for reals with the obsession??)

 

And I can’t deal with fall lovers and pumpkins on front porches in mid-September (dude, it’s 95 degrees, that shit is going to rot!).

 

Yes, this all goes through my head.

 

We all have these moments, or days, or even weeks.  And I think it’s okay.  It’s okay to be cynical and snarky and indulge your inner bitch (even if you are a dude) from time to time.

 

You are human, it’s okay.  You aren’t any less spiritual than anyone else.  You aren’t an uncaring person and you don’t have to beat yourself up for years and days and go see a spiritual guru to heal you.  You need to admit you are human.

 

Now, if this way of thinking begins to dominate you, begins to be your decision maker and makes you intolerant of people, situations and ideas around you on a large scale you might need to seek help.  You might need to get some perspective from a healer, coach or a therapist.  Sometimes, we just get some wires crossed in our lives and need a little help uncrossing them.

 

I am a healer and a coach.  I work with people sometimes who have created this trap for themselves – the I am so over everyone mindset that has taken root. I usually use a combination of healing and coaching to unburden the mind, body and soul from whatever has taken root there and let the person see with fresh eyes and enable the resilience within them to make the shift into the optimal life they are capable of living. In many cases, this is the first step in coaching with someone – to free them from their own cage.

 

Which are you?  In a moment of snark and indulging your inner bitch, or in need of fresh perspective and ways to break free of the cage you constructed around yourself?

 

Apply for a Lackluster to Limitless Session with me if you find yourself in the cage – I can help you jailbreak!

 

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Jennifer Murphy

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Break Away From the Group

Yesterday I took my son to Maquoketa Caves State Park. It is what it sounds like: caves in a park. And it’s awesome.
 
While there we saw a lot of things I could write about which promote conformity and crush, absolutely crush freedom. I could be disheartened by a few of the things I saw, instead let’s reflect.
 
A daycare group was there at the same time. The canyon rang with not the sounds of nature, but the sounds of daycare providers wrangling their charges.
 
“Don’t climb on that”
“Stay on the path”
“be quiet” (what?)
“Not so fast”
 
and my favorite “You’ll get dirty, stop that.”
 
Strip away the safety concerns. I get those and as a mom whose kid has been in daycare, appreciate them.
 
Children + Park = so much experience to be had.
 
Yet time and again they were reigned in, curiosity squashed, interaction terminated and opportunity to immerse in what their bodies and souls were craving crushed.
 
Meanwhile, my same aged son is terrifying me with his daredevil perches on out-croppings. We engage fully with wet muddy shoes and body and sprints down trails to the next adventure.
 
We played hop rock in the creek at one point and came across a fawn serenely grazing 6 feet from us. We watched in wonder for about 20 minutes outlasting any group that joined us during that time.
 
Several times we found ourselves alone in a cave or on a trail simply being as we felt and tuned in to the amazing earth and water energy surrounding us.
 
I have no interest in curbing enthusiasm. I have zero energy for “stay in line” outside of a real safety concern.
 
What those kids experienced yesterday happens every day to all ages: the idea that you have to stay with the group and do what the group is doing and don’t dare to explore your own path – it’s dangerous and you may do something the rest of the group isn’t ready for.
 
But maybe you are ready to do something dangerous.
 
If it’s time to unleash your inner warrior and get dangerous,
I have something for you.
 
It’s the five week warrior club. Info session is Sunday at 5pm. I’ll share the 5 key tenets of freedom as I teach them and gift you a guide and video series as part of the webinar.
 
I’ll also tell you about the club and how it could impact you and your quest for freedom.
 
Don’t be those kids all grown up and your daycare provider simultaneously. Stop telling yourself to stay in line and stop allowing others to tell you that. Start being dangerous: be you.
 
Interested? register here: http://eepurl.com/cZbvZL
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I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created.

My background is 10 years in the US Army as an officer, 10 years in Corporate America and then the last 6 running my own business. I have deployed twice in combat scenarios, worked with foreign governments and militaries and worked extensively in international business.  I have an undergraduate in Criminology, an MBA and certification in Positive Psychology. I have led organizations from 3-400 and love developing people and helping them create their next steps in life and work. 

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well we a working glass artist, Reiki Master,  Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10 year old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. 

Less is Happiness

In 2013 the sale was final on my suburban home.  A dream realized as I moved from my complicated, maintenance needy home of 2700 square feet to my 535 square foot apartment.  Just me and my son at this point, I sought less.  I wanted a simpler less “stuff” inspired life and I began to create it.  Last year I moved again; this time to a similar sized space cutting down my commute time – finding increased simplicity and reducing my overall footprint on the physical landscape of our world.  Walking to my studio a block away became a routine and I have loved it.

When I began to construct my idea of the perfect life, simplicity was my soul’s demand. Simplicity meant a greater degree of freedom and independence in my life, allowing me to create the lifestyle I wanted – not just the home, car or job, the WHOLE picture.

In each successive move, I freed myself of things: clothing, decorations, kitchenware, memorabilia, and more.  Each piece I discarded had become miscellaneous – without purpose- and with each discarded item, I felt lighter.  Several truckloads left the big house, several more when I got into the new space and couldn’t create a walkway through the boxes, even more when I moved to the latest apartment and gradually some moved out with the seasons over the past year as well.

Now I prepare for another move – this time to a larger place. As my 9 year old heals from his separation anxiety and gets bigger and more mature, he needs his own space.  A shared bedroom is no longer a place of security and simplicity, but a place of too close quarters and lack of freedom.  So it is time to consciously expand.

Tomorrow we make the move, my 30th, just one block down to a 2 bedroom apartment where my squeak gets his room and I get my private space back.  One might think it would be time to expand “things” or hold onto things “just in case”.  But I have taken no fewer than 8 boxes full of things to our local donation center in preparation for this move.  Just because I have the space, doesn’t mean I have to fill it.

As I sat in contemplation this morning, the connection of my last few moves to living in my life and participating in my life became clear.  In the past, I have clung to things as a measure of my worth or sense of success.  This behavior served only to stress me and create a false sense of security as I continued to build my altar to materialism and external opinion – really seeking to fill a void of lack I held inside.  It was like trying to paint an interior wall of a home from outside the window.

In moving toward a sense of internal success and creating a lifestyle built on experience and connection, I have felt more secure, more okay and more successful than ever before – making less money and having fewer things.

I participate actively in creating my life: deciding what to allow in or set a boundary against.  I reject the idea that someone else’s idea of success has to be mine.  My definition of success is what I strive for and connect with daily.

So with each move I make and each thing I release, I am allowing my life to be what I want it to be.  I am being intentional about what is allowed into my life and I am intentional about what I release.

And it feels so right.

For you:

  1. Survey your home – what is working with your energy and what is draining it? Are there things you need to release?
  2. Do you have a concept of what you want your lifestyle to involve? Is it all encompassing or focused on a single factor?
  3. Are you conscious about what you are allowing into your life? Or is it happening and you are trying to simply keep up?

We have a choice in what we create in this lifetime. Feeling successful in one area doesn’t have to mean sacrifice in all other areas.  And life doesn’t have to suck to want to make a change.  It can be good and get even better.  If you want a little guidance with this, let’s talk.  Grab a free 30 minute discovery session via my website www.nolimitslife.guru

Release Limits, Embrace Life.

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Integrative Life Coach Jennifer Murphy is focused on partnering with the professionally successful, yet personally unfulfilled, to create the connected, sustainable lifestyle they crave. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru