Take a moment and consider what feels most dangerous to you: is it physical, spiritual, intellectual or emotional in nature?
Conventional wisdom would suggest all kinds of radical options. As I have asked this question in workshops and discussions I have heard a few! Things like:
speaking in public
falling in love
climbing a mountain
swimming with sharks
parenting (that got a good giggle)
There were a ton of other physical risks that have come up in response to this question. And yes, these things are risky…but if you notice, most people head right for the physical risks with the exception of falling in love.
These are easy answers – pick something with the potential to inflict bodily harm and we can all agree that it is dangerous. Right?
There is another way to think about it though and that is what I want to focus on.
The Art of Living Dangerously creates the path to you skydiving, moto title winning or swimming with sharks. This path fires your emotional, intellectual and spiritual body – more than your physical. What if we think about living dangerously in these terms:
- Being afraid and doing it anyway
- Knowing there is more and going for it
- Trying new things – taking the leap
- Seeing new perspectives
- Experiencing instead of Existing
- Living by your values
- Never settling
- Transcending expectations
- Having faith in limitless possibilities
Imagine you lived in opposition to any of those thoughts…let’s take “Having faith in limitless possibilities” first. What would it mean if you have faith in limitless possibilities? Consider an area of your life you feel stuck or trapped in, it could be anything from a relationship, a job, a volunteer commitment or a belief.
For example when I was wanting to become a life coach, I was very locked into the idea that I couldn’t leave my 6 figure job and the obligations it had created or my life would fall apart. There were a lot of trapped and stuck attachments there:
- I had accumulated debt directly correlated to the amount of money I had: cars, houses, lines of credit, etc.
- I did enjoy my job and did well at it. I loved the people I worked with and generally enjoyed seeing them. Yet I didn’t feel inspired by my job, I didn’t see how my role was really serving others in the way I wanted to.
- I had an idea of what people expected me to be and I was fearful of disappointing them.
- My family had become accustomed to my salary, my schedule and my life the way it impacted them; and I couldn’t let them be affected by my desires – they needed to always take first priority.
When my life coach suggested that it was possible for me to create the life I wanted if I dedicated myself to figuring out what it was, I resisted at first. I was so focused on the narrow range of options I had decided were available that it was a good year of coaching with her before I was able to really open up to all of the things that could be if I allowed them into my life.
I had to do a few things to move past my self-created opposition to possibilities:
- I had to decide what an ideal day for me would look like.
- Sorting out what was important and what wasn’t to me then taking action to get free of what wasn’t.
- Realign my time to support what I wanted instead of what I felt like I “should be” doing.
- Starting to create that Ideal by pulling elements from it into the life I was living then.
On a daily basis I would ask myself “is this getting me closer or farther away from the life I truly want?” as I encountered challenges and opportunities.
I learned that not everything is worth the fight.
Over the next few weeks I will be tackling each of those Living Dangerously ideas as I prepare for my 2016 Art of Living Dangerously Creation Experience here in Cedar Rapids Iowa on September 9th and 10th. You can take a look at the agenda here and then grab early bird registration before August 15th.
I hope you’ll stay tuned to this blog and follow the steps to both the idea of living dangerously and the way I overcame my opposition to it!
Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave. To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru