What Kind of Life Coach has a Panic Attack?

RECENTLY I HAD A PANIC ATTACK.  A SERIOUS ONE.  I THOUGHT I WAS HAVING A STROKE.

I’m sharing this because you need to know that even when we KNOW what we need to do, what we SHOULD be doing and what is the BEST for us…we can still get caught up in the reactiveness of life and get overwhelmed. Even when we are professionally trained in how to overcome and avoid such energies.

I have been making some shifts lately, getting ready to go back to school, a new position as an adjunct teacher at Kirkwood Community, and automating a shit ton of processes inside my business to alleviate daily ankle biter BS. It’s been a lot.  And I have felt like it has been a lot.  I also recognize…

THIS IS ALL AWESOME, LIFE IS PRETTY GOOD RIGHT NOW. 

Yet, as I went to push purchase on a tool that would help me do some of that automation… I SEIZED. My vision went dim and started to darken, my chest squeezed, my heart pounded and stuttered, I got lightheaded and nauseous, all the signs and symptoms of a panic attack.  My partner helped me settle in to a chair and I crashed for a few hours.  CRASHED.  That $10 a month purchase tipped me over the edge.

I had a choice: beat myself up and tell myself how weak I was to be reacting like this.  Or take inventory, answer the question: WTF IS GOING ON? 

I have a deeply ingrained method in place in my Aligning Priorities Tool) which allowed me to work through this pretty quickly and realize what had been piling on and needed to be shed and what needed to stay so that I can continue to move forward in my life and create and live in the lifestyle I want to create and live in. 

MY LIFE DOESN’T SUCK. BUT I NEEDED TO MAKE A CHANGE.

THOUGH THAT FEW HOURS OF SLEEP FELT FUCKING AMAZING.

I HAD TO SHIFT A FEW THINGS:

  1. I committed to revamping my private coaching services and a long overdue price increase for elite level private coaching.
  2. I said no to a few things I was saying yes to energetically, physically and mentally.
  3. I reminded myself that I am in charge of my lifestyle and nobody but me can determine what works and what doesn’t.
  4. I resisted a lot of the things I wanted to shift and then cosmically smacked myself when I realized I was doing that and once again remembered I am human and screw shit up sometimes.
  5. I automated what could be automated and took good stock of what I needed to pull back on in my businesses in order to go forward with everything I want to be going forward with.
  6. I cut myself some slack and I scheduled a day off during what is projected to be a very busy time ahead.

Here is the deal, if you are laying on the couch and your back says, “hey that doesn’t feel good, you need to move.” You move. It’s not a thing you have to struggle with (unless there is an animal or child on you, in which case, all bets are off). 

WHEN YOUR SOUL IS UNCOMFORTABLE, IT TALKS TO YOU TOO. Sends you messages through your intuition and opportunities and more.  And we ignore them, because we can.  The discomfort isn’t great enough. And then, the universe grabs you like an errant child and you get a talking to: you get sick, seized with anxiety, whatever.

This isn’t necessary. You don’t have to do this.  I was reminded of this – the signs showed up way before this panic attack; I just ignored them.

IF YOUR SOUL IS FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE, GO WITHIN AND FIND YOUR ANSWERS.
No panic attack needed.

OH, YOU THOUGHT I’D TELL YOU HOW TO GO WITHIN?

NOPE. YOU KNOW HOW TO DO THIS. GO DO IT.

If you really struggle, follow the link to the tool above.  If you don’t want to do that, join my Facebook Community and try some of the tools there.

Right now, through January 3rd, I am offering a 90 minute session for $97 (a $225 value).  Grab that and let’s figure out the right combination for optimizing where you are. 

If none of that sounds good, email me for a consult via my website.

THE CHOICE IS – AS EVER – YOURS.

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

Jennifer Murphy is ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  Jennifer spent a large chunk of her life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” she sought, and she just never felt full. In 2011, she made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life she loves today was created and she is here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

Jennifer is founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute, a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer, Best Selling Author of The Art of Living Dangerously, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Challenge What is Possible

I took my Customer Service Professional Class for a tour yesterday to the Toyota Financial Services Offices here in town.  On the second floor was a full wall sized graphic with an incredibly futuristic concept car. One of my students was enraptured by the design, trying to figure out how one would even enter or exit it.  I, on the other hand, was enraptured by the tag line: Challenge What is Possible.

Yes!  Challenge what is possible.

I heard a variant on this years ago at a proposal workshop for a program we were pursuing with the company I worked for: Create the Art of the Possible.

Both are about thinking differently, refusing the status quo and moving beyond expected.

When I heard it years ago I remember feeling fired up – the phrase “the Art of the Possible” sparked something within and I knew there was something there for me.

Inspiration kicks down your door when it feels like it.  Not always because you took a 3-day silent retreat or read the book to end all books.  Sometimes it is a phrase seen or heard in passing.

I have been questioning some things, looking for confirmation and options and choosing forks in my path recently.  Today I have deadlines to make decisions.  I needed the reminder to look beyond expected, normal and safe.

Challenge what is possible.  Beautiful words. How will you challenge what is possible today?

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Traditions

The Dodgers, my Dodgers won last night in game 1.  I watched with my son, my brothers in different states watched with their children, just as we had watched with my mom and dad and our parents had watched with theirs and generations of Dodger fans in my family had watched before us. I remember baseball always being a thing in our family.

Rabid fans? No.  Solid fans? Yes.

My son was fascinated at how engaged I was in the game – he typically watched football while I half pay attention while doing something else.  This time, I did nothing but watch and he was intrigued.  I realized I hadn’t passed this tradition on quite like I had wanted.  He didn’t know he needed to root for Blue.  He didn’t know the names of our players or anything about the team.

So, we talked about it and I shared my memories of laying on the floor in my grandparents living room coloring or reading while my Grampa watched the game and alternately cheered and jeered with disgust at the boys in blue.  And how I would watch the games with my parents and we went through a drought time when all we could get was Northern California TV so we had to watch the A’s and Giants and hope for an odd broadcast of a Dodger Game; pre-cable era TV was feast or famine.

Traditions are important when they are important to you. This one is important to me and I think I’ll keep it around a while. Go Blue!

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: I Refuse to be Stress’s Bitch

I read an article recently that referred to the Japanese principle of Kaizen.  It inspired the author to take one minute each day to progress with something she wanted.  The article is called, “Overcoming Laziness: The Japanese Principle of Kaizen” by Dondi Leigh.

I was inspired to take action with this as well but wasn’t sure which direction to aim this intention.  Then it smacked me upside the head: my writing.

I get ideas ALL THE TIME and I don’t always follow them because I feel time constrained. So I decided to implement One Minute Musings.   Little bites of reality as I see them, lessons to learn or things I need to share with the world.

I am sure some of these will become bigger articles, but One Minute Musings is exactly what I need “write” now (haha I love my own jokes!)

So here is number one, I woke up with this today….

My neck aches, my back groans. My hips feel rusty!  Seriously, I am only 42 and I feel like I imagine an 80-year-old without an ounce of yoga under her belt would feel.

It’s time to let go of some stress.  I have been going, going, going and I’m going to take my own advice and stop – relax and be present.  Enjoy all the things I have going on and fuck the rest.

Stress sucks and I refuse to become her bitch again.

Join my Facebook Group to see these daily!

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

FALL INTO SOMETHING GOOD

Does your career leave you feeling like you fell into a vat of poo?

Is every day like swimming with concrete floaties?

Do you dread the day to tasks of being where you are?

You are not alone.

I was you once upon a time.

I blamed the dissatisfaction I felt in so many areas on the dissatisfaction I felt at work. I knew if I could find happiness at work, I’d be happier overall.

Research proves this: when you have a higher sense of career well being you feel a higher overall sense of well being.

Cool. How do you get it?

1. You fall into something good.

Instead of constantly bitching about how shitty your circumstance is, find the good. There is some small sense of goodness there. Maybe it is simply that the paycheck meets yours needs. That is good. Find the good to fall into every day and you will attract more good.

2. You act with good intention

You take action that are good for you. You eat right, you declutter, you drink water, you surround yourself with good high vibe people. You take action that you know is positive energy for you.

3. You get creative.

You look for the things you can shape to your style and you do it. The activities, events and processes that are tailorable, you tailor in such a way that you can find positive energy in them. This might mean a mindset shift, or a physical overhaul – or anywhere in between.

These three things have infinite numbers of outcomes ranging from finding a higher degree of satisfaction where you are or striking the entrepreneurial path. Wherever your energy takes you, falling in love with your career and satisfying that sense of “more” you have been craving is important for your overall well-being.

What are you going to fall into?

 

photo jun 20, 8 27 31 amI am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Two Big Reasons you Need a Strategy for your Idea

 

Sure. You could fly by the seat of your pants. In fact, in certain situations, the ability to be agile and flexible and adaptable to whatever is happening is a key strength. But a plan focused on both near term and long-term implementation of your ideas that allows you to use that agility in a focused fashion makes you unstoppable.

 

The two BIG reasons you need a strategy for your Idea:

 

  1. You get a cohesive plan to support your growth in your market or expand into adjacent markets
  2. You stay in touch with your customers and how your market is changing so you can adjust and grow with it

 

Warning, I am going to be direct right now.  If you can’t deal, stop reading.

 

If you don’t understand either one of the points I just stated, you need to get up to speed.  If you aren’t doing them, that’s a different story.  But if you don’t understand them, you need to get to learning right quick.

 

Your idea is awesome, give it the energy it deserves.  Build it a strategy.

 

Hopefully at this point, you are wondering how.  Since I am partial to my business of helping people do this, I’d tell you to start with a free No BS Business Strategy and Support Consult Session with me — > Here

 

If you don’t want to chat with me about it, visit sba.gov and check out the great free resources they have available.

 

If that isn’t your jam, get on google and type, what is a strategy and why should I have one and comb through the data, research and anecdotal evidence that supports having a strategy.

 

I did all three: I hired a coach, I referred to the SBA and I researched.  Plus, I had years of experience building strategies under my belt from my time in corporate America and entrepreneurship.  Even with that experience, I hired help.

 

Because I can fall in love with my ideas and how they should grow, act and be accepted too easily and I need external perspective.

 

What will you do?

 

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Jennifer Murphy

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru