What Kind of Life Coach has a Panic Attack?

RECENTLY I HAD A PANIC ATTACK.  A SERIOUS ONE.  I THOUGHT I WAS HAVING A STROKE.

I’m sharing this because you need to know that even when we KNOW what we need to do, what we SHOULD be doing and what is the BEST for us…we can still get caught up in the reactiveness of life and get overwhelmed. Even when we are professionally trained in how to overcome and avoid such energies.

I have been making some shifts lately, getting ready to go back to school, a new position as an adjunct teacher at Kirkwood Community, and automating a shit ton of processes inside my business to alleviate daily ankle biter BS. It’s been a lot.  And I have felt like it has been a lot.  I also recognize…

THIS IS ALL AWESOME, LIFE IS PRETTY GOOD RIGHT NOW. 

Yet, as I went to push purchase on a tool that would help me do some of that automation… I SEIZED. My vision went dim and started to darken, my chest squeezed, my heart pounded and stuttered, I got lightheaded and nauseous, all the signs and symptoms of a panic attack.  My partner helped me settle in to a chair and I crashed for a few hours.  CRASHED.  That $10 a month purchase tipped me over the edge.

I had a choice: beat myself up and tell myself how weak I was to be reacting like this.  Or take inventory, answer the question: WTF IS GOING ON? 

I have a deeply ingrained method in place in my Aligning Priorities Tool) which allowed me to work through this pretty quickly and realize what had been piling on and needed to be shed and what needed to stay so that I can continue to move forward in my life and create and live in the lifestyle I want to create and live in. 

MY LIFE DOESN’T SUCK. BUT I NEEDED TO MAKE A CHANGE.

THOUGH THAT FEW HOURS OF SLEEP FELT FUCKING AMAZING.

I HAD TO SHIFT A FEW THINGS:

  1. I committed to revamping my private coaching services and a long overdue price increase for elite level private coaching.
  2. I said no to a few things I was saying yes to energetically, physically and mentally.
  3. I reminded myself that I am in charge of my lifestyle and nobody but me can determine what works and what doesn’t.
  4. I resisted a lot of the things I wanted to shift and then cosmically smacked myself when I realized I was doing that and once again remembered I am human and screw shit up sometimes.
  5. I automated what could be automated and took good stock of what I needed to pull back on in my businesses in order to go forward with everything I want to be going forward with.
  6. I cut myself some slack and I scheduled a day off during what is projected to be a very busy time ahead.

Here is the deal, if you are laying on the couch and your back says, “hey that doesn’t feel good, you need to move.” You move. It’s not a thing you have to struggle with (unless there is an animal or child on you, in which case, all bets are off). 

WHEN YOUR SOUL IS UNCOMFORTABLE, IT TALKS TO YOU TOO. Sends you messages through your intuition and opportunities and more.  And we ignore them, because we can.  The discomfort isn’t great enough. And then, the universe grabs you like an errant child and you get a talking to: you get sick, seized with anxiety, whatever.

This isn’t necessary. You don’t have to do this.  I was reminded of this – the signs showed up way before this panic attack; I just ignored them.

IF YOUR SOUL IS FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE, GO WITHIN AND FIND YOUR ANSWERS.
No panic attack needed.

OH, YOU THOUGHT I’D TELL YOU HOW TO GO WITHIN?

NOPE. YOU KNOW HOW TO DO THIS. GO DO IT.

If you really struggle, follow the link to the tool above.  If you don’t want to do that, join my Facebook Community and try some of the tools there.

Right now, through January 3rd, I am offering a 90 minute session for $97 (a $225 value).  Grab that and let’s figure out the right combination for optimizing where you are. 

If none of that sounds good, email me for a consult via my website.

THE CHOICE IS – AS EVER – YOURS.

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

Jennifer Murphy is ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  Jennifer spent a large chunk of her life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” she sought, and she just never felt full. In 2011, she made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life she loves today was created and she is here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

Jennifer is founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute, a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer, Best Selling Author of The Art of Living Dangerously, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: The Questions You Need to Ask

Minute Sized Writings designed to provoke your soul

Should I stay, or should I go?  Which choice to make? What to do next? 

All questions I hope are flowing your brain as much as they flow through mine. 

These mean we are challenging the status quo – that we are unwilling to settle for less than we crave. 

What questions are flowing through your brain?

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Challenge What is Possible

I took my Customer Service Professional Class for a tour yesterday to the Toyota Financial Services Offices here in town.  On the second floor was a full wall sized graphic with an incredibly futuristic concept car. One of my students was enraptured by the design, trying to figure out how one would even enter or exit it.  I, on the other hand, was enraptured by the tag line: Challenge What is Possible.

Yes!  Challenge what is possible.

I heard a variant on this years ago at a proposal workshop for a program we were pursuing with the company I worked for: Create the Art of the Possible.

Both are about thinking differently, refusing the status quo and moving beyond expected.

When I heard it years ago I remember feeling fired up – the phrase “the Art of the Possible” sparked something within and I knew there was something there for me.

Inspiration kicks down your door when it feels like it.  Not always because you took a 3-day silent retreat or read the book to end all books.  Sometimes it is a phrase seen or heard in passing.

I have been questioning some things, looking for confirmation and options and choosing forks in my path recently.  Today I have deadlines to make decisions.  I needed the reminder to look beyond expected, normal and safe.

Challenge what is possible.  Beautiful words. How will you challenge what is possible today?

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Misallocation of f#$ks

Game 2 of the world series seemed to be all about use of resources.  How the Dodgers used their bullpen last night, mattered. In case you missed it, they fell to the Astros in extra innings.  I’m no sports commentator or expert, but they appeared to come on strong early with their pitching resources and then pull that strength a tad early.  I’m guessing there is some review of resource application going on right now.

The obvious analogy for life is all about how we use our resources in daily living.  In my Facebook Group I have been running a free challenge called Free to Focus (on the F#$Ks you WANT to give) which is all about resource allocation.  When you apply your resources to the f#$s you WANT to give, you gain something: time, money, energy or a combination.  The implication is that you do this consciously and correct as needed.

We all make mistakes, this is part of our humanity.

This is how a world series should be: the best of the best working their hardest to take the victory.  This is good sports.  A tied series in game 2 is excellence in action.

I’m not pissed at our coaching staff at the Dodgers.  Not yet anyway.  They made a call, they gave their f#$ks where they thought best, and it didn’t work out. What they do now with that lesson matters.

Just as it does when you make a mistake and misallocate your f#$ks.  What you do next matters.

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Traditions

The Dodgers, my Dodgers won last night in game 1.  I watched with my son, my brothers in different states watched with their children, just as we had watched with my mom and dad and our parents had watched with theirs and generations of Dodger fans in my family had watched before us. I remember baseball always being a thing in our family.

Rabid fans? No.  Solid fans? Yes.

My son was fascinated at how engaged I was in the game – he typically watched football while I half pay attention while doing something else.  This time, I did nothing but watch and he was intrigued.  I realized I hadn’t passed this tradition on quite like I had wanted.  He didn’t know he needed to root for Blue.  He didn’t know the names of our players or anything about the team.

So, we talked about it and I shared my memories of laying on the floor in my grandparents living room coloring or reading while my Grampa watched the game and alternately cheered and jeered with disgust at the boys in blue.  And how I would watch the games with my parents and we went through a drought time when all we could get was Northern California TV so we had to watch the A’s and Giants and hope for an odd broadcast of a Dodger Game; pre-cable era TV was feast or famine.

Traditions are important when they are important to you. This one is important to me and I think I’ll keep it around a while. Go Blue!

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: The Nature of Wind

Growing up in my mountain town we had these powerful winds that blew through called Mono Winds.  They’d take out the weaker trees, discover which roofs needed new shingles and blow people around as they tried to do just about anything. They could be disruptive and dangerous.

I loved to lay in bed and listen to their rumbling and screaming through the oak and pine trees outside my window, branches scratching at the glass. Their eerie sounds were somehow soothing. It was just nature doing what nature did.

The simplicity of those moments came back to me as I fell asleep to the sound of wind outside my window last night.  A different landscape produces different sounds: a city-scape now instead of a forest and a rolling hills country instead of mountains.  But still, nature did what nature does, and I just got to listen.

We aren’t in charge of everything. Wind will do what it needs to do, and we don’t have to do anything except bear witness.  A reminder, we simply coexist.

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

One Minute Musing: Weak Links

Over the weekend my son and I traveled to a soccer tournament almost 2 hours away – both days.  4 hours on the road meant lots of time for podcasts.  I chose Malcolm Gladwell’s Revisionist History for our trip and encountered an interesting thread embedded in one where he was talking about college education and endowment funding.

The podcast itself was riveting, but the part that caught my attention the most was about soccer and it being a weak link sport. In other words….the team is only as good as it’s weakest link.  The best player on the team is no use if the other players can’t pass well enough to get him the ball.  The best defense in the world isn’t enough if the goal keeper can’t stop the ball…etc.  He referred to the book “The Numbers Game” by Christopher Anderson and I now have it on hold at the library.  (amazon link)

As a soccer mom and a student of human beings and leadership, this concept fascinates me and I can’t wait to read and learn more. It begged the question…where are the weak links in my world and how can I train them to be better?

Where can you?

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

One Minute Musing: I Refuse to be Stress’s Bitch

I read an article recently that referred to the Japanese principle of Kaizen.  It inspired the author to take one minute each day to progress with something she wanted.  The article is called, “Overcoming Laziness: The Japanese Principle of Kaizen” by Dondi Leigh.

I was inspired to take action with this as well but wasn’t sure which direction to aim this intention.  Then it smacked me upside the head: my writing.

I get ideas ALL THE TIME and I don’t always follow them because I feel time constrained. So I decided to implement One Minute Musings.   Little bites of reality as I see them, lessons to learn or things I need to share with the world.

I am sure some of these will become bigger articles, but One Minute Musings is exactly what I need “write” now (haha I love my own jokes!)

So here is number one, I woke up with this today….

My neck aches, my back groans. My hips feel rusty!  Seriously, I am only 42 and I feel like I imagine an 80-year-old without an ounce of yoga under her belt would feel.

It’s time to let go of some stress.  I have been going, going, going and I’m going to take my own advice and stop – relax and be present.  Enjoy all the things I have going on and fuck the rest.

Stress sucks and I refuse to become her bitch again.

Join my Facebook Group to see these daily!

 

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Jennifer Murphy Life Coach

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

Life, Focus, Power

THE POWER I GAINED LIVING A FOCUSED LIFE WAS NOT WHAT I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE

More than anything, I realized that I was giving a f#$k about a lot of things I really didn’t need to be GAF about.

Things like:

  • What other people wanted me to do
  • How I should fit in
  • How everyone else was measuring success

PRIOR TO THAT I MOSTLY I GAVE AF ABOUT THINGS THAT DIDN’T MAKE ME HAPPY – AND IT SHOWED:

  • I wasn’t healthy, stress ate me up and I bitched about more than I celebrated.
  • My answer to how are you was always “busy” (which isn’t an answer it’s a deflection to avoid revealing what’s really up in your life)
  • I kept thinking there was more to life than I was seeing…and I wanted to figure it out.

As I developed my own prioritization process which I now teach my clients and see them blossom with, I realized I was allocating F#$ks to things that drained me, not empowered me and that the power I would gain was simplicity – the ability to say yes to the things I aligned with and let the rest go.

FINALLY, I COULD BE FREE TO FOCUS ON WHAT I WANTED TO GAF ABOUT

Which is what inspired me to run a FREE CHALLENGE called FREE TO FOCUS in my Facebook group and provide deeper good stuff in a supporting email series.

FREE TO FOCUS IS ABOUT YOU FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT TO GAF ABOUT

  • Letting go of distractions
  • Saying yes to the stuff that energizes and empowers
  • Stepping into the MORE that has been eluding you

Click here to join the challenge kicking off 23 October and you will receive

5 days of email and video support

Invite to the Art of Living Dangerously Facebook Community where you can share your successes for chances to win prizes

Access to life changing activities that can move you out of the rut of wanting more and not getting it, feeling overwhelmed by other people’s f#$ks and general “omg will it just stop?!” energy

Click here to join!

 

I should, I should, I should!

I should I should I should

If you had to count, how many times a day do you think you burden yourself with this phrase?

I should can carry some heavy consequences with its energy when you misuse it.  When you use it as reason to do something even when you don’t want to, don’t need to and it doesn’t fulfill you or those you care about in any way. But people expect it, so you do it. Because you should.

The ruler of should metaphor applies here: the ruler you carry around, never measuring up to, of all the things you should be doing, thinking, or feeling.

And every time you look at the ruler to see how you are measuring up – the ruler gets a little taller, or you get a little smaller and you never quite make it to the mark that others have drawn for you.

There is always a more out there.  Though, intuitively you know that more isn’t anywhere on that ruler…you keep looking.

And you feel like you never measure up.

What if you were free of the ruler and free to focus on all the fucks you WANT to be giving about the things you want, need and which provide a sense of fulfillment?

Should (used in the way of measuring) dictates to you.  When you are free to focus, you GAF where you want to GAF – no longer subjugated to anyone else’s should.

THIS IS WHY I DEVELOPED MY 5 DAY CHALLENGE KICKING OFF 23 OCTOBER: FREE TO FOCUS (ON THE F#$KS YOU WANT TO GIVE)

  • To free you from should
  • To release you from the doing, thinking and feeling you should be doing to the doing, thinking and feeling you ne dot be doing to create an awesome life
  • To indulge that craving for more you feel but haven’t been able to answer because you are so distracted by should

BE FREE, FREE TO FOCUS, ON THE THINGS YOU TRULY CARE ABOUT.

Sign up here to receive 5 days worth of emails and videos, get your invite to join the Facebook group to become eligible for challenge prizes and shift your focus into a more authentic you.

Join the FREE TO FOCUS 5 DAY CHALLENGE HERE

BEGIN FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT TO GAF ABOUT