FALL INTO SOMETHING GOOD

Does your career leave you feeling like you fell into a vat of poo?

Is every day like swimming with concrete floaties?

Do you dread the day to tasks of being where you are?

You are not alone.

I was you once upon a time.

I blamed the dissatisfaction I felt in so many areas on the dissatisfaction I felt at work. I knew if I could find happiness at work, I’d be happier overall.

Research proves this: when you have a higher sense of career well being you feel a higher overall sense of well being.

Cool. How do you get it?

1. You fall into something good.

Instead of constantly bitching about how shitty your circumstance is, find the good. There is some small sense of goodness there. Maybe it is simply that the paycheck meets yours needs. That is good. Find the good to fall into every day and you will attract more good.

2. You act with good intention

You take action that are good for you. You eat right, you declutter, you drink water, you surround yourself with good high vibe people. You take action that you know is positive energy for you.

3. You get creative.

You look for the things you can shape to your style and you do it. The activities, events and processes that are tailorable, you tailor in such a way that you can find positive energy in them. This might mean a mindset shift, or a physical overhaul – or anywhere in between.

These three things have infinite numbers of outcomes ranging from finding a higher degree of satisfaction where you are or striking the entrepreneurial path. Wherever your energy takes you, falling in love with your career and satisfying that sense of “more” you have been craving is important for your overall well-being.

What are you going to fall into?

 

photo jun 20, 8 27 31 amI am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

Are you Acting Like you Want what You Want?

You walking around saying you want stuff and not actually acting to get it?

That’s pure silliness.

We see this a lot and it seems normal: many walk around wishing and wanting and aspiring…then not doing anything at all.

Society tells us to be normal, toe the line and be a part of what everyone else is doing. We do it…because well, that seems like the thing to do. Doing anything different would be weird – just ask everyone.

It takes some balls to stand up and say, “I will create what I want to create even though it is different!”

It takes more balls to act on it.

Top 5 things to adopt right now to start acting like you want what you want:

  1. Start saying I will instead of I want and see how your intent and phrasing changes.
  2. Start scheduling and allocating energy to the things you put on the ‘will do’ list.
  3. Release your attachment to fitting in: visualize your ideal state of being and accept one element at a time from that vision. Then act on your acceptance by doing it.
  4. Ask yourself why you are doing something you don’t love? Then ask what action you can take to replace it with something you love. Then do it.
  5. Love yourself enough to be your authentic, kickass self.

This isn’t rocket science – intellectually I know you understood this deep inside.  Emotionally though, we crave that acceptance of seeming “normal”. Let it go, no one is truly normal…we are all in some way different, we just squish it below the glaze of normality.

I’m done squishing stuff under that glaze. I’m done doing stuff because everyone else is or thinks I should.  As a result, I am MUCH happier, healthier and in love with me and my life.

You can create your own path, forge your own way and live a super awesome amazing life.  Start accepting that and be truly you.

Act like you want what you want and you will get it.

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Jennifer Murphy

I am a certified personal and executive coach ruthlessly focused on helping people live awesome lives.  I spent a large chunk of my life pursuing other people’s ideas of success and while those experiences were sublime in some cases, they weren’t the “more” I was seeking and I just never felt full. In 2011, I made the commitment to live life on my terms and everything changed. The life I love today was created and I am here to share and teach you exactly how to do the same for yourself.

I am founder of No Limits Life Empowerment Institute as well as a working glass artist, Reiki Master, Partner in Shaman Grocer in Iowa City, and Co-founder of the Midwest Reiki Festival.    My favorite time is spent doing anything soccer related with my aspiring world cup soccer player, 10-year-old Alexander.  I am also a pretty big fan of gaming (PS4) with my partner Craig while solving the world’s social problems. Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru

 

 

When You Are Sick

It all started with a “tickle” in the back of the throat. Then came the runny nose. Pretty soon, it was a full-fledged cold.

I’m not going to get into specifics about my cold (yuck!), but I want to invite you into a little exploration of the lesson of sickness.

Don’t worry; this won’t hurt a bit.

A week doesn’t pass where I don’t answer at least a few questions from someone – a client, friend or even a relative – about how to increase their intuition. I give my usual answers (meditation, learn a system, etc.), until the one that usually makes them stop in their tracks: listen to their own body. Believe it or not, the human body is an incredible intuition alert system, and, when it comes to sickness, the body can be a living opportunity to teach us volumes about ourselves and our relationships.

My own sickness had plenty to teach me, especially about spiritual identity and the role of spiritual practices in my life.

How did I get to that realization?  Let’s back up a bit.

Sickness is a sign of something out of sync or dis-ease in the human system. Notice I said “system,” not “body.” As human beings we are a composition of body and soul together, so dis-ease is not just a body problem; it can be a soul/mind problem as well.

Now that doesn’t mean that every physical problem can be directly traced to mind/soul problem. There are books that create numerous connections between body problems and life issues. These systems are interesting, and certainly have validity in some cases, but I don’t see a 100% correlation between the two. Sometimes bodily sickness simply happens.

Regardless of whether the sickness is a sign of deeper mind/soul problems, our response to that sickness is the same: we stop. The body wants to stop. We respond to that desire by attending to the needs of the body, making sure that we get appropriate medical care, adequate rest, and proper nutrition for efficient healing.

While attending to the body, it is also important to attend to the mind/soul as well. Many times there is a lesson or two that we are being taught in our sickness, which couldn’t be learned at any other time. This is the beginning of “hermit time.”

How we use our “hermit time” in sickness is very important. There are really three ways that we can use this time. First, we could use it as “poor-me” time, bemoaning our illness, lost time at work, our own personal suffering, and finding ways to ensure that everyone around us feels our pain in as many ways as possible. As we pursue this tactic, we generally feel our illness for a considerably longer time.

Second, we could use our hermit time as “extended work time.” We could get caught up on all that extra work, start a few more projects, and fee like we’ve accomplished a great deal. Of course, we also end up feeling worse for a longer period of time.

Finally, we could use our hermit time as time to listen. After all, our bodies are finally in a holding pattern, in a sort of desert where the heart can finally speak to us without being interrupted by the next urgent task on our list.

“I want to listen,” you say, “but how?” You certainly don’t want to fall into self-delusion where your mind wanders into strange territory, and you also don’t want to miss important insights.

There are four steps to listening to the heart during your hermit time:

  1. Get quiet
  2. Ask what the lesson/problem is
  3. Listen for the answer
  4. Treat the answer as the beginning of a conversation with the heart

1. Get quiet. To get quiet, I mean really quiet. No electronic devices. No phones. No Facebook. No television, Netflix, or movies. No radios or mp3’s. No books (you thought you could get away with that one, eh?). In other words, no input from outside. Picture yourself as being stranded in a literal desert, with no connections to the outside world. You cannot hear your heart when you’re distracted by everything else around you.

2. Ask what the lesson/problem is. Ask your heart what the actual problem or lesson is that you’re supposed to learn. Keep this very simple. Your heart is the core of who you are, your True Self, that contains an immense amount of wisdom. It is also your intimate companion through life. Ask this wise friend your deepest question, expecting the perfect response.

3. Listen for the answer. When you listen for the answer, pay attention to everything: your thoughts, feelings, even your memories, as they emerge in your consciousness. As you listen, disregard the first two or three answers that come up; they are often answer from the ego, trying to derail you from the work of genuine growth. If one of those answers happens to be the important one, fear not; it will come up again in a few moments!

At this point, it is helpful to have a notebook handy for insights as you receive them. If you rely solely on your memory, you will probably forget about 30-60% of what follows. So take good notes!

4. Treat the answer as the beginning of a conversation with the heart. This is where people usually don’t go. Go off the beaten track, and explore the answer further. Start talking to your heart, and also to Source/Higher Power/God about the answer you’ve intuitively received. (Yes, this is your intuition at work!) Have a very simple, loving and honest conversation about what it means for you, and how you can apply the lessons in your life. As in the previous step, pay attention to thoughts, feelings and even memories as they emerge; they are often veiled responses in your conversation. Yes, this does take some time, but I promise you: the conversation is worth it!

The result of this process is a conversation and insights that either set you on a new path in some part of your life, or fine-tunes the path you are walking right now. Sometimes, you may even find that your sickness will last a shorter time, since the lesson has been learned.

Every sickness is an opportunity for growth. The next time you get a cold, or your body is telling you to get some rest, try the approach I’ve outlined to get the most out of it.

Don MDonMarlette(558x800)arlette is, among many other things, a member of the No Limits Life team.  His unique blend of psychic insight, mediumship and practical wisdom guide spiritual practitioners and everyday people through the perils of everyday getting by to build lives that feel like they are singing their heartsong.  Learn more at www.nolimitslifeinstitute.com

 

I Almost Told my Coaching Career to F^& Off Last Night

This is a post about purpose.  It’s about how irritations are reflections of our own fears and insecurities and about the aha I got from the ridiculousness of self-exalted-look-at-me-gurus-without-substance when I looked in the mirror.  And I curse a lot in it…you’ve been warned.

Yep, I almost just hung it up and left the industry.  I was DONE being affiliated with a bunch of self-appointed inspirationalists [yes, I may have made up that word] and guides who still poison their bodies with shit food and post lives on social media promoting false affluence.

[Note:  I do know there are some true, real, amazing people out there doing good work, I have worked with them and proudly call them colleague.  I am not referring to them.  If you aren’t sure which group you are in for me….I’d honestly wonder why you’d care?  Does my opinion really matter? If it does, I’ll share my mirror. Read on.]

To put it lightly, I’ve been irritated by some stuff lately:

Memes full of spiritual platitudes…

Self-pronounced proud warrior posts about what a top notch (fill in the blank) someone is and how unique and awesome their ideas or products are…

Selfies of “look at how much farther I have to go with my weight loss or yoga pose or mediation or whatever” which is really just a plea for “LOOK AT ME”…

Perhaps I am just being a bitch, but some of this stuff I am seeing in my social media feeds makes me want to leave my profession.  How is showing me a picture of your ass or face or tri-cep or what-the-fuck ever, supposed to truly help me get off the couch and into the fired the fuck up energy I really need to move forward?    Especially when it is accompanied with words like “hubby says I look great but I know I still have work to do” or “it was hard to get here, but wow I feel good”…

I just feel annoyed. 

And I am also a bit (huge) of a snarky bitch on the inside and you are just hearing it right now.

I’ve come a long way.  And it wasn’t always pretty.  The path truly fucking sucked some days; other days I felt like the boss of the world.  The path still sucks some days while feeling gloriously golden others. That’s the nature of this super cool experience we call life.

I sat on my couch last night spewing my ire all over my ever patient partner who simply nods when I get like this and lets me get it out.  He then usually jumps in with some super supportive words like “it’s because they ARE all super fucking annoying and you are in a different place from them – that’s a good thing.”  I do love him for that…but my truth is, when shit irritates me…it is often because it is reflecting something back at me.

Hold on to your pants, shit’s about to get real people. I’m gonna tattle on me.  As I stared in to the abyss of my reflection, here is what came out:

If I’m going to be honest – and I generally think that’s a pretty damn good idea – what is irritating me is actually a fear for my own presentation of my mission.  I dislike the kinds of things I listed above because I want to avoid being perceived that way more than I want to avoid gaining 10 more pounds.  I’d gladly add 10 pounds to the scale and avoid being perceived as a super annoying, superficial, look at me and tell me I am amazing kind of person.

I want to just be real and tell you that you deserve a kick ass life.  If something in my life inspires your grab life by the balls energy – hell yeah!  Use it, let it inspire you.  But I’d rather help you find something in YOUR life to inspire you and leverage the hell out of awesome sauce energy already within you.

So when I find myself being irritated by this kind of spiritual platitude bullshit and self-indulgent crap, I have to look in the mirror and check out my own behavior and actions.  It’s a great reminder of my own value of authenticity and genuine desire to serve instead of simply being seen.

As a service business owner and leader, I have to sell, simply being seen isn’t enough.  I have to attract and retain clients or all I have is a monument to me and my idea.  I’m a terrible builder so any monument I tried to construct would be complete shite anyway. Let’s not taint our imaginations with that…to avoid that, I do have to tell you what my team and I can offer you.

In a sales class I recently taught, I heard myself saying that when we sell, we are solving a problem.  If the person talking to you doesn’t have the problem you can solve, they aren’t a client.  If they do have that problem, they may not select your solution for one reason or another.  But you do owe it to them to share the information and you owe it to yourself to discover more about the problem as you discuss.

Aha, a piece of the real is uncovered in my reflection. 

In the sales process, my goal is always to be true to me and to allow the client to be true to themselves.  So when I see people in my field promoting themselves over their solution, promoting their success without the reality of the obstacles that truly exist…I get irritated.  There are real problems and challenging situations out there that people deserve to find their way out of with real support. Glossing over it with a selfie and a fucking platitude never offered me a solution.

A solution is rooted in reality.  It is in hard work, self-actualization and a true desire to take action and invest your most precious resources of time, money and energy to keep evolving and growing into the person you know you can be, live the life you know is possible and to embrace today over someday.

How to Shift your Energy:

Next time you go to like a meme, comment “beautiful” on a selfie, or endorse a superficial call to action look within and ask yourself where it resonates.  How will it impact your life and how will you turn that inspiration into action?  How does that piece of “mmm that’s nice” help you?  What is the real message you are getting from it?

Maybe like me, there is actually a mirror in that moment giving you more than just that initial reaction.  Maybe it’s introspection and change time.

What I’ll be Doing:

I can tell you that from here, I am re-engaged in the vigilance of sharing relevant, helpful information with my community.  If you follow us on Facebook or Instagram look for the “so what?” in our posts, the inspired action offered and the investment you can make in becoming….REAL.

 

Jennifer Murphy is a life coach, help captive in Cedar Rapids, but willing to stay because her son anchors her in place and he is so totally worth it!  An expert in helping people across the globe prioritize their values and create a life centered on what they value most, allowing them to shed stress, overwhelm and the BS that can suck the soul from our daily lives.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru 

Upcoming Events! January 2017 Edition

Already 2017 is starting off strong for me and we aren’t even in it!  I’m pretty excited to share a few upcoming activities that you can join us with both in person and online!

January 16  Authentic Action Accountability Beta Teleclass (Kickoff) 

Join us for a 3 session Beta Program focused intensely on the accountability you need to get 2017 started in a strong way.  It’s just $30 for this initial session and if you love it, we’ll keep it going a while longer!!

Scroll down for further details on this program, or click here to register now because you know you need the support!

January 22 2-3:30pm Spiritual Dimension of Minimalism at Prairiewoods

I’ll be sharing my story of moving from success defined by external measurements of material value to true contentment based on my spiritual definition of success and we’ll discuss what that means for you. This workshop will be part lecture with lots of space for discussion. So if you are ready to expand your awareness of the sacred in everyday life, join this unique conversation! A suggested donation of $10 goes directly to Prairiewoods! Call Prairiewoods at 319-395-6700 to register**!

**I’m hoping they’ll have the online registration link up soon and I’ll update if they do!

Through January 31  Glass and Coaching 2017 Intention Setting 

A private session with me either over the phone or in person where we will set your specific intentions for the coming year, do an energy assessment and optimization and create your 2017 Energy Pendant.  This pendant will be infused with your intention for the coming year and the energy you need to embrace and support as you create your NO LIMITS 2017.  Through the end of January this session is just $100 and includes a 90 minute coaching and energy session and production and delivery of your pendant.  Register Now to get your personalized “Peace” of Inspiration for 2017  (after you submit payment I will send you a link to schedule).

Heads Up for February:  

February 8-22 Aligning Priorities at Kirkwood Continuing Education

Start feeling in control of your world and your resources in this 3 session workshop. Access the energy of empowerment as you take charge of your time, money and energy in a way that is in alignment with your priorities and sheds the conflict you experience in daily living.  With the support of  yours truly, a  Certified Personal and Executive Coach specializing in positive psychology, you will connect with techniques and energies to identify and live your optimal life.  Feel on purpose, energized and excited about your next phase of living after you complete this interactive discussion format course emphasizing energy balancing, alignment and empowerment! Click here to learn more and register via the Kirkwood Continuing Education Site

February 9-May 12 Customer Service Professional Certificate 

Training and professional certification programs for customer service representatives, call center, help desk, technical support, financial services support and administrative support professionals. Learn core knowledge and competencies on how call centers operate, including metrics, required skills and terminology. Focused study and practice on soft skills such as listening, speaking, questioning and de-escalating upset customers will be emphasized. After completing this course, successful graduates will have the certification and related experience to compete for customer service representative positions in the community. Books will be provided.

This course is perfect for you if you are looking to get back into the workforce, need additional professionalism and technical skills or are looking for a career change.

Learn More Via this link and contact Kelly Foresman (kelly.foresman@kirkwood.edu) at KPACE for more information, enrollment and potential funding assistance.

Heads up for March:

Beyond Rubies 2017

No Limits Life will be there with 3 presentations: 
Your Life Purpose in 60 minutes or Less from Don Marlette
The universe isn’t hiding your purpose – it wants you to find it and this workshop can help. Your life purpose is waiting for you to connect and Don Marlette is a master at helping you discover what has been hiding in plain sight using powerful, proven techniques.
Happy! from Jennifer Murphy
Small daily acts can improve your overall sense of happiness and engagement in what matters. You’ll self-assess, learn about dimensions of well-being and take away actions to start immediately.
Help for Self Help Overload from Jennifer Murphy 
Conquer common pitfalls in self-help: dusty book stacks, well intentioned intentions or pages of notes never revisited. Shed the mantle of “I Should” and heal yourself by engaging in simple prioritization techniques you can use anywhere.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION:

Authentic Action Accountability Program – Beta teleclass starts January 16th 

I want to invite you as members of the No Limits Life community to participate in a Beta Program: a 3 month Authentic Action Accountability Group Coaching Program that you can join now for just $30!  I am asking you before this goes out on social media tomorrow so that you can claim your spot if this appeals to you.

I also invite you to share this with your friends if you think they might like it. A lot of people set goals for the New Year, but not every makes it past the first few weeks, let alone the first few months.  We want to help you or that friend of yours get things done in a way that works for you!

But here’s the deal, I only have 12 spots, so forward it now if you think they’d love it.

What you’ll receive:

  • Three 60-90 minute group calls focused on action planning and execution of your goals. Everyone will be given a chance to speak and gain support for their goals.
  • Six Separate emails with productivity and energy alignment activities, tips and inspirations to support your goal achievement
  • Three 30 minute sessions with one of the No Limits Life Coaches to support your development and actions.

All for $30

We’ll approach this not from just a “get it on your schedule and make it happen” perspective, also from an energetic and mindset perspective.  Sometimes you have to shed a few layers of disbelief before you can access the power that achieves goals.  This is for you if you:

  • Have ever really truly wanted to achieve a goal and been unable to, but can’t pinpoint why.
  • Know exactly what defeats you with respect to getting things done and are ready to overcome it – 2017 will be the year you own it!
  • Lose momentum after the first week of 2 of trying to adopt a new habit or push through to a new goal.
  • Are you are ready to break the cycle of doing what you have always done and getting the same results. You are ready to do something different and get different results.

Love yourself enough to invest in what you truly want in 2017.

Seriously, just $30 and we will create a space for you to share your goals, push past the real or perceive obstacles and create actions you will take before our next meeting the next month.

I have personally benefited from similar groups in progressing toward living the life I want to live. A few of the benefits I received:

  • Confidence I wasn’t alone.
  • Accountability to getting things done and support when I struggled.
  • Perspective and ideas I wouldn’t have found locked in a room alone trying to figure it out.
  • Insight and power to overcome what was holding me back.
  • Connections with people I didn’t know I needed and now rely on!

If this sounds like energy you could use to get you unstuck with your goals and move forward with creating your life’s path, then join me!

We’ll meet the third Monday of every month at 8pm CST via a dial in you’ll receive upon registration beginning January 16th, 2017. Then we will meet on February 20 and March 20 2017.
Again, this is limited to 12 people to make sure we have enough space to give you each the right amount of energy.

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave.  To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru

 

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Are you Denying Your Love?

Do you have anything you LOVE to do and don’t?  Something you wish you could make time for and don’t?   You have lots of reasons why: work is busy, family is busy, you are tired, it’s expensive, you have to drive too far to do it, you don’t have the right supplies, the list could go on and on if I include all of the excuses I have heard from clients as to why they don’t do the things they love.

In those cases we are trading our soul for…what? 

In some cases, we can temporarily justify it.  We need to focus on our newborn children, a particularly demanding project at work, a family or financial crisis.  But those situations are temporary.  We trade our soul when we allow addiction to those short bursts of stress and they become habitual and then begin to feel easier than actually pursuing what we love. 

NOTE: If what you love is the constant drama of crisis, we aren’t going to go there. Go away, I don’t need that kind of crazy in my world – and truth be told, neither do you.

On my mind lately has been my love of writing.  I love to write, love it.  Loved it since I was a child; starting my first “dear diary” entry around 3rd grade.  So why do I deny it?

I can pull any number of excuses from the list above and tell you why they’d work for me in case against writing. But that is all they are, excuses; and you know what they say excuses are like…

My commitment to me right now is to release the limits of excuses today.  I’m embracing my love of writing now.

Your Living Dangerously Challenge: 

I challenge you to consider what you love and deny yourself.  Go through your excuses one by one and ask yourself when they expire. Be bold, write them down and give them an expiration date.  Celebrate their expiration and launch yourself into your love with abandon.

Release Limits, Embrace Life, Live Dangerously

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave.  To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru

 

 

 

The Interview by Don Marlette

What would the conversation consist of if the you you want to be interviewed the you were were or are right now?

I am a HUGE advocate for making choices and never looking back.  Much like driving down the road, the minute we start to look into the past, we often start to drive in circles and eventually crash.  My motto has become that of the 19th-century monk, Boniface Wimmer:  “Forward, forward.  Always forward!”

 I also believe that where you are now is always at the perfect time.  Every choice, decision and consequence we experience in life create a blend of experiences and attitudes, with their share of challenges to make us perfectly suitable to life at the present moment.  Even the work we feel an inner pull to follow in later life only makes sense with the bumps and bruises of our earlier self.

 With all that said, I am going to look back at my younger self, and pose some questions – complete with their answers from the less-experienced me.  What would it be like for me to coach my younger self?

 My history is rather involved, so here is a quick description to get you up to speed.  I became Catholic in high school, went off to college seminary then joined a monastery for four years.  I was sent to complete my Master’s degree, and then I left monastic life just before ordination.  After leaving the monastery, I chose to work as a full-time parish worship and music director.  At the time of this interview, I’m doing very well.  I’m well-known as a musician and composer, making a high salary, and I’m quite successful.

 May this interview be a teachable moment for me…and for you.

–Start Interview–

New Self:  Are you happy?

 Old Self:  Honestly, no way.  I dread coming into work each day.  This work has become an albatross on my back for years, stemming from when I started doing it.  You know, I really didn’t want to do this work to begin with, even though I’m becoming well-known for being good at it!  I just needed a job when I left the monastery, and this seemed like a good fit for what I could do.

I’ve felt nothing but frustration, even anger.  I don’t fit.  I don’t feel supported.  Everyone loves what I’m doing, but I hate it.  I get migraines before every rehearsal, and I rejoice on  the days when I’m sick and can’t come to work!  Quite frankly, I feel very disillusioned in all this, and I want out in the worst way.  The problem is that I feel trapped.  I don’t know what else I could possibly do. So I guess I’ll just keep plugging away, put up with the personalities and politics, and look forward to finally retiring.

 New:  It sounds like things aren’t what everyone thinks they are.  Truthfully, I can feel the frustration in your voice, the choices of your words, and even your hunched body posture.  You honestly don’t seem happy, so it’s good that you can be honest about that.

 You also sound like you’ve condemned yourself to this work out of a sense of entrapment.  You say there isn’t another way out of this.  That you are going to just put up with everything until you retire.  But from my end, I think when you retire, you are going to be one bitter old man!  You’re already there, in case you haven’t noticed.  You do know you’re going to die one day?  Is this how you want to be then?

 Old:  No way!  I’ve thought about that a couple of times.  I know that if I keep doing what I’m doing, I’m going to just get worse and worse, and I’m going to end up at my deathbed, wishing I had done something different.

 New:  Like what?

 Old:  I have no idea!  I just want to do something that gives me joy, that makes me happy, that helps me to spread that happiness to everyone else.  I guess I could entertain people, but that’s a hard life.  And it’s too late for me to go back for another degree and start over, though.  I’m married with two children already, so I can’t make time to do all that.  I can’t afford it.  That’s why I feel so trapped.

 New:  What do you like to do, though?

 Old:  I like to entertain people, like I said.  Of course, I also like to talk with people one on one.  I always liked doing that.  I guess I could say that I really like to help people.  That’s all I do here at the parish office: help the staff people with their own problems and stresses.  I usually know what’s on the mind and heart before they say anything, so it’s easier for me to get to the bottom of things.  They like it, and I feel so much more alive – really alive! – afterwards.  But, like I said, I can’t get another degree so I could do that for a living. 

New:  I noticed how you perked up just now.  Did you?  What’s holding you back from doing it – from helping people for a living?

 Old:  I told you already!  I don’t have the time or money to get another degree.  That’s why I’m still doing this job.  I can do it, and it pulls in the money.  True, I never see my family since I work seven days a week – even on vacation!  But that’s the sacrifice I have to make.  I don’t like it, but it’s all I can do.

 New:  Do you really believe that you can’t break out of this?  I don’t think it’s true.  You’ve got some talents you haven’t owned yet, like….

 Old:  Just stop there.  Those “talents” you’re talking about are wrong around here anyway.  No one will ever accept them.  It’s fine to entertain people with, but that’s it.  It doesn’t feed a family.  I can’t do that.

New:  So you’re just going to stay stuck…by choice?

Old:  I just don’t see any other way.  I’m stuck.  Period.

–End Interview–

 I would love to end this interview on a positive note, but it doesn’t.  I chose at the time to remain stuck, to refuse to think outside the box, to live a life of real misery.

 Living my dreams was not an option.  All that changed later, after a lot more suffering, anxiety and intense frustration.  I waited.

What about you?

Don Marlette is, among many other things, a member of the No Limits Life team.  His unique blend of psychic insight, mediumship and practical wisdom guide spiritual practitioners and everyday people through the perils of everyday getting by to build lives that feel like they are singing their heartsong.  Learn more at http://www.nolimitslife.guru