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Are you Denying Your Love?

Do you have anything you LOVE to do and don’t?  Something you wish you could make time for and don’t?   You have lots of reasons why: work is busy, family is busy, you are tired, it’s expensive, you have to drive too far to do it, you don’t have the right supplies, the list could go on and on if I include all of the excuses I have heard from clients as to why they don’t do the things they love.

In those cases we are trading our soul for…what? 

In some cases, we can temporarily justify it.  We need to focus on our newborn children, a particularly demanding project at work, a family or financial crisis.  But those situations are temporary.  We trade our soul when we allow addiction to those short bursts of stress and they become habitual and then begin to feel easier than actually pursuing what we love. 

NOTE: If what you love is the constant drama of crisis, we aren’t going to go there. Go away, I don’t need that kind of crazy in my world – and truth be told, neither do you.

On my mind lately has been my love of writing.  I love to write, love it.  Loved it since I was a child; starting my first “dear diary” entry around 3rd grade.  So why do I deny it?

I can pull any number of excuses from the list above and tell you why they’d work for me in case against writing. But that is all they are, excuses; and you know what they say excuses are like…

My commitment to me right now is to release the limits of excuses today.  I’m embracing my love of writing now.

Your Living Dangerously Challenge: 

I challenge you to consider what you love and deny yourself.  Go through your excuses one by one and ask yourself when they expire. Be bold, write them down and give them an expiration date.  Celebrate their expiration and launch yourself into your love with abandon.

Release Limits, Embrace Life, Live Dangerously

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave.  To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit www.nolimitslife.guru

 

 

 

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Face your shit.

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Photo by Hieu Li via Unsplash

When I sat down to write a blog post about stress management I thought about your typical solutions to relieving stress.  Take a bath, read a book, or go for a walk…

 

But then it dawned on me, those things are just band aids for your symptoms. They don’t get to the root of what is causing your stress so you’ll never see lasting results. If you want to reduce yourself of stress once and for all, there’s really only one option: face your shit.

I know that sounds harsh, especially if you opened this up looking for a nice bulleted list of things to do, but when you avoid your problems they cause lingering stress. At first it’ll be just a little bit to get your attention. You can heed the warning or turn away and watch your stress get louder and louder. You’ll see stress manifest in all areas of your life, maybe with nagging back pain or trouble sleeping. Until you give yourself the opportunity to deal with it and let that energy go, you’ll never rid yourself of the stress.

I’ve learned the hard way in my life. One of my biggest stressors, as with most of us, is

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Photo by Vitoly Taranov via Unspalsh

MONEY. I got to a point where I avoided it like a professional, I’m talking hardcore. I didn’t look at my budget, I didn’t open the mail and I left those bills in stacks. I told myself I’ll get to them later, I’ll check my bank account and budget my bills LATER, but later never came (weird right?). I did the bare minimum to get by, dealing with the absolutely critical bills. I told myself that I had plenty of money, until I was forced to face my shit.

One day getting my much-loved coffee, I swiped my card and it didn’t work. SHIT.

I pulled over into a parking spot expecting to feel a rush of anxiety, fear and frustration as I pulled up my banking app. I had to face that my bank account was negative sixty-two cents and I have a family to take care of. But in that moment I felt very calm, almost a level of peace you can say, which is not the reaction most people have when they realize they have no money! I felt that way because I finally faced my problem, accepted the reality and I literally felt the energy leaving. I LET IT GO!

Accepting where you’re at doesn’t mean that you’re stuck there, once you’ve accepted your reality you can get to work creating what you do want.  You don’t have to wait until you’re forced to deal with what’s causing you stress, pay attention to the many signs along the way and those begin with how you feel. When you think about the area that gives you the biggest stress, how does it make you feel? If the answer is not good, FACE IT. Look at it head on, accept that you’re there and that you can choose in that moment what you do want.

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Photo by Jared Erandu  via Unsplash

Get proactive with your own stress management, don’t wait until it gets out of control. Your body, friends, family members and even strangers will appreciate having a stress free you!

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Abby Wickersheim

Abby Wickersheim is a life coach on the No Limits Life team.  Her focus is working with people to align their personal energetic vibration with the vibration of what they truly want to create.  She uses her personal coaching program “Positive on Purpose” to guide people from frustrated and blocked to open and positive. Learn more at www.nolimitslife.guru

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The Orange Table Awakening

What is so damn important about an orange table?

My table is bright, gorgeous, outrageous orange…as of last weekend. I have no idea what color this table was when it was born, but it was a poo brown when I bought it at goodwill for five bucks to serve as a holder for my son’s new gold fish murder scene, I mean tank (No need to go into that debacle here).  
Recently I realized keeping that table poo brown was a symbol of continued connection to my old, boring, expected life – the one I did all I could to disembowel back in 2012. I despised seeing that connection in some ways: I was still toeing the “what will other people think” belief system and I truly wanted to gouge that part of me out immediately, never to see it again. But in my moment of sickness and disgust, I had to wonder if maybe some of you freedom seekers are also still toeing that same line in undiscovered ways like me. Maybe you have a “poo brown table” in your life you need to colorize to reveal the real you.

At this point we can safely divide into a few mindsets with respect to this idea:

1. Those of you that are done with this idea as of right now: grasping exactly what I mean because of where you are in your own evolution and you have “evolved enough” to “go it alone” (snicker). You need not one more drop of my nonsense and know it.

2. Others of you are just so over the self-help bullshit that you are sick of finding symbolism in everything and seeing it as a metaphor for the shit you need to shift, change, give up or heal. You are ready to gag on your own consumption of crap that isn’t actually getting to the core of the “more” you are seeking and are looking for something truly different.

3. And some of you want to identify, know you are not alone and discover another layer of your own growth and experience as a human right now. You suspect that perhaps this information will bring about our collective vibrational raising. So you, the truly curious freedom seeker are leaning in with a conspiratorial “tell us more”. And chances are – you know exactly what your personal poo brown table is right this moment.

I am talking to all of you – all you reflections of me, of each other and our varying attitudes based on everything we are. I think if you are REALLY wanting to forge your path, discover what is holding you back and kick the shit out of it, allowing yourself to move into that energy that is truly yours to keep growing in…well, we are one. So let’s keep going and see if we can find our connection in the rest of this story:

For this table, my son is my muse. As he chose colors for his bedroom at his dad’s newly constructed house, he picked some super bright amazingly gorgeous colors: Obstinate Orange, Blue Sky and Sassy Green. With these we created a couple of bold murals in his room to reflect his passion and joy for life.

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Since then, the leftover orange called my name. My most recent move had me craving color in my home – real, bold color for the first time since I left the beige drenched world of the suburbs. A bright green couch had answered the call, a peacock patterned love seat had flown in, my blue console requested a move home from its studio tour, and my bright orange elephant statue was honoring its place as the original color splash in my home.

The poo brown table begged to shine. As I looked at it in the blooming surroundings, I realized the basic browns that had defined my home for so long were being replaced. I was taken back to a shopping trip from times past where I waved my then husband over to look at something and before he even got to see it he said “lemme guess, it’s brown.” At the time, I staunchly defended my safety net of blending and conforming. But now, I am in a time and place where brown no longer feels safe.

4 coats later, that poo brown was gone. In its place stood a bright shining orange table accenting my peacock couch, and I felt like me was reflected in my home. Every time I walk into that new apartment home of mine, I see all the colors I love so much and I am at home: spiritually, physically and emotionally, for the first time in perhaps years. It is my energy and my home.

I had to release my attachment to that old brown table which was that part of me that still believed there was some safety in normal. In layering those coats of paint I was confronted by a few other formerly “safe” attachments I didn’t realize were still there such as:

1. The corporate path is THE path to financial security.

2. Your home should reflect what others think of you before what you truly want for yourself.

3. Relentlessly meet expectations – regardless of how they manifest: be the “spiritual” person, coach the way everyone else does, follow formulas of the “uber successful”, continue to rely on the past as guidance and boundaries

4. Same is safe. Change is not safe.

5. There is a mythical someone external to my truth watching my every move and judging me to be authentic or inauthentic. And somehow this matters.

Yeah, I totally get how ridiculous all of this seems, but as I layered those coats of orange an equal measure of stripping away was taking place in my awareness. I became aware that I was in violation of my own belief system – still. I still have growth to achieve in this forging my own path way of life I have begun and the next step to take was releasing those horrid ideas that still had a tether to my being. Buh-bye.

So my orange table is, for now, a symbol of commitment to my warrior’s path of fighting for me and my own beliefs and discovering what is real for me and what isn’t. My path isn’t yours, but my passion is centered on supporting you seekers as you create yours, so here are some questions to consider:

What is your poo brown to orange table? What is the symbol in your life of a belief that needs to be examined, overhauled and adjusted to a new truth, a new normal, a new safe or a new way of life for you? I’d love to hear about it. Email me at Jennifer@nolimitslife.guru to share and maybe I’ll feature your story in an upcoming post!

Jennifer Murphy is a coach, teacher, mentor and leader at No Limits Life where she partners with the closet creatives, aspiring adventurers, and repressed rebels to move beyond expected success to create the kind of fulfilling life they crave. To learn more about Jennifer and her team visit http://www.nolimitslife.guru

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GET BACK IN THE GAME

contributed by Eilynn Dixon

You are likely familiar with the biggest game of the year for football where fans and players to get to see the final showdown of the two best teams. This year 2016 it was between Denver Broncos and Carolina Panthers, I had the awesome opportunity of visiting Denver on the night of the game. As I watched the winning fans revel in their triumph it made me think about how The Big Game is so much like our everyday game of Life and how important it is for us to stay in the game!

There will be moments in life that you want to get out of the game, stay on the sidelines and watch everyone else play. This is not living the life of your dreams and this will not get you to your Big Game of living the life of your dreams. You can either choose to keep looking at what others are doing and saying “oh wow that is nice”, “wish I could do that”, or you can get back in the game and choose a different position. That is what it is all about – staying in the game; there will be moments you might need a break and to get rehydrated, take a vacation, visit friends for overdose of laughter, exercise, anything that will give you fuel to keep you going. Then you get back out there and keep playing. There will come a time when you begin to analyze the position that you are playing, maybe it does not seem as challenging anymore or you are having a hard time defining your duties. These positions of life are where we start to look inward and see what is most important and decide that we can either stay where we are in unhappiness or we can change the position of life and start living the life of our dreams.

There was a time in my life about two years ago that I had a really tough time figuring out what to do next for me and how to get me out of a rut. It was like I woke up one day and asked myself, “Where did I go? Where am I?”

  • There were days when I didn’t want to get out of bed and see anybody, but I just pushed myself each time and went through the motion.
  • Even going through the motion I still just felt like a shell.
  • My Grandmother had recently passed and my relationships were in turmoil.
  • I couldn’t tell if I was still grieving or if I was just upset at the world. I had a hard time allowing myself to just be me and be okay with who I was at that moment.

I had to make a decision to either stay on the sideline of living the life of a shell or get back in the game.

It is ok – whatever happened in the past, today is a new day, and the opportunity to live a new way. I am ready to get back in the game and play a different position and create a different playbook. There might be a chance to even get a few new team members.

It’s all about making the necessary choices and execute actions to become that person you want to be not be the person the world expects you to be.

It’s about recognizing all your gifts, talents, happiness that make up your wonderful self that is you!! We cannot afford to sit on the sidelines you have to stay in the game and always remember to look to your Higher Power for guidance. My Coach and Captain of my game is my Heavenly Father, He keeps the game fair as He promised and provides all the equipment, tools and gear I need to be successful. I just keep my heart full of faith and gratitude while enjoying the little moments and taking baby steps to live the life of my dreams.

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5 Lessons Turned Opportunity

The usual expression is “Lesson Learned, I’ll never do that again!”  You have likely said it right? Think about the energy behind that – it is stop energy.  It’s about what you don’t want to do instead of focusing on what you do want to do! And if you run around constantly telling yourself what you don’t want to do, it’s kind negative right?

So what if…just maybe… you focused that energy on creating the next movement.  If you said “Lesson learned! Here is the opportunity I created as a result” It feels different right?  A little more open, a little more forward moving, a little more positive.

I found myself shifting this paradigm as I thought about some of my experiences over the last few years – to be honest a little unconsciously at first.  The message was showing up and I was acting on it long before I realized what was actually happening, (way to be awake and conscious me! Sarcasm and eye roll implied).

Since I was a child I had been exposed to groups of people collaborating to serve others in a higher purpose kind of way: in my parents metaphysical community, living in a small town, as I joined ROTC and later in the Military, as a member of a church and then full circle to a metaphysical environment of my own. In each instance I learned lessons:

  1. The Lesson: Spirituality is a lifestyle, not a label. I have learned not to trust when I hear someone saying something and then see them do something different.

The Opportunity: Be patient and observe actions, and ensure my actions meet my intentions.

  1. The Lesson: People make up groups who support ideals and sometimes people suck. When the agenda of an individual is at odds with the agenda of the group, conflict happens; especially when that person is pushing theirs pretty hard, or in a super passive aggressive, undermining way.

The Opportunity: Obtain a clear understanding of the group focus and ensure it aligns with my personal ideals, or challenges them in a way I am willing to grow in that moment.

  1. The Lesson: Trust the first impression people make on you. I remember attending my very first meeting for a group I was joining to do something big and immediately perceiving the anointed leader was not actually willing to be the leader the idea needed to grow to full potential. Long story short, My intuitive hit was more accurate than not.

The Opportunity: Follow through with intuitive responses to situations.

  1. The Lesson: Money is an element in most groups – and it needs to be dealt with openly and honestly. Resist it or not, money is a part of the society we live in and operate with.  In a situation where you have more than one individual involved, if there is any perceived misuse or secreting of money issues, resentment can arise.

The Opportunity: Always be clear on matters of money where it affects a group larger than me.

  1. The Lesson: A leadership and management philosophy must be agreed on by the group. Whether there are formal leaders/managers or not, it doesn’t matter. But who the decision makers are and how they decision make and who gets to have input, matters.  Generically I have observed this in a variety of atmospheres where there is a “community” who was to work together and contribute on all things…but anything that didn’t agree with the “leader’s” personal philosophy became an issue. Collaboration is tough when there is public statement of community and a private sentiment of “it’s all mine”.

The Opportunity:  Be clear on leadership and management philosophy and be impeccable with my word with respect to implementation.

Using just the lesson energy from above, I could very easily resign myself to never working with a community again – to never collaborate with another group of individuals ever again.  Yep, I could easily lone wolf it, and probably be fairly happy and decently successful.

Yet, there was a philosophy I couldn’t turn my back on:

I don’t think we always do our best work alone.  I think we thrive in a community, whether it is formal or informal.  This community hosts all kinds of energies that help you individually and collectively grow. As I thought about this philosophy I wholeheartedly endorse, I reflected on another set of lessons learned – this time around my first year of business as a coach (which does overlap with a few of the above mentioned lessons – not attempting to confuse you!).

It was a tough decision to leave the “security” of my corporate job and leap into the unknown arena of building my coaching business.  I had very little in place when I did that and I spent a long period of time (and it continues), building, creating, making mistakes and redirecting myself and stumbling and falling and succeeding and over hills and valleys of all sorts! Phew.

It was not easy.  And in the middle of it I got divorced, my son started kindergarten, I moved, and realized the “friends” I had were really good when my life was a “mess”, but not so good when I started to get “better”.  And as I thought about how I could influence and support others, I realized I could help people through that first year by forming a community for aspiring providers to work in as they created their own path into being a coach, healer, creator or spiritual adviser of any sort.

It all synched up last fall as I furiously filled up a yellow legal pad on the sidelines of a soccer practice.  I couldn’t stop writing as the structure, the flow, the ideas, the concepts and design of a business model to support aspiring coaches healers and artists emerged and alongside the idea that this could also work for the same group who struggled with the “business” side of their business.   To prove I wasn’t nutty I reached out to a diverse group for feedback and was met with a “Please do this!” kind of response.

It took the combination of 1) being willing to acknowledge that I still held on to the ideal the people could work together on a common goal, 2) the knowledge that I was better with people than without and 3) discovery that lessons learned didn’t have to be full of stop energy,  for me to realize that I had stopped looking at lessons learned as things to never do again, and started looking at them as opportunities to help and serve based on these lessons.

In November and December of 2015 I began pulling together a group of service providers to work on the No Limits staff for 2016.  I give them mentoring, an infrastructure to work under complete with the necessary tools to run their business and marketing and client attraction support.  Alongside that they receive training , event coordination, speaking engagement booking and more.  In return, they pay me a commission based on the clients we enroll. We defeated the idea that starting up is super expensive and can’t be done. My intent was to destroy that excuse for not following your dream.

Going forward I will still see clients myself, but I was also be recruiting for my amazing staff of coaches who are aligned with the same philosophy I have: there are no limits to what you can do in this life time;  Release Limits, Embrace Life.  The synergy in the group of people who were attracted to this model, my work and their potential is awe inspiring and as I introduce them, you’ll be nodding in agreement!

In forming this collaborative group of professionals, I did my very best to translate the experiences I had in other groups in a positive way and focusing on collective success, individual success and a clear line of authority and structure. It is about supporting not only the No Limits Staff, but the community that forms around us, to fulfill their callings, conquer their inhibitions and truly step into their own authenticity.

So if this philosophy sounds like something you want to give a try, join the energy!  We invite you to join follow us on all the social media we cultivate: FacebookInstagramPinterestLinkedintumblTwitter . Keep a lookout for groups that will be forming virtually and locally where you can connect even further with this energy.

Learn more about  Coach and Artist Jennifer Murphy and the No Limits Team at http://www.nolimitslife.guru